Getting Excited For Fall… With The Help Of A Few Lovely Things!

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Summer is on its way out, or so we’ve been told. (Although it’s hotter today than it has been in weeks.) Everyone in the city is checking off the last of their summer plans, and cooler mornings are not too far away. It’s great to have a change, but it can make us nervous, too. Without perpetual sunshine on the agenda, what is there to look forward to?

Don’t worry… I have a few ideas!

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A DAMN FINE JACKET
Stop the presses: I just found the jacket of my dreams. I mean, a buttery soft PINK leather motorcycle jacket? Get outta here! When I spotted this on the Ted Baker site, I completely freaked out. Do you know how hard it is to find a pink leather motorcycle jacket? VERY!

Now, of course, I’m aching for it to cool down so I can start wearing it. I’m going to team it with grey Madewell skinny jeans and my new favourite boots; a black a-line midi skirt and heels. I’m going to throw it over sombre black dresses, and wear it over the top of my workout clothes when I walk to and from the gym.

There are only a couple of good months in NYC where you can realistically wear a motorcycle jacket: beyond that, it is either piping hot, or freezing cold. So you better believe I am going to get my wear out of this baby!

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NEW BOOTS
Truly, autumn isn’t autumn without a great pair of boots in your arsenal. For example, the Miista Ashlee (above), is a gorgeous ankle boot. On Saturday, I wore them with the aforementioned grey Madewell jeans, and it looked suh-lammin’!

I also scored the Yolanda, also by Miista, and they’re just so cool, with a serious platform, and understated styling. They’re a perfect pull-on-and-go boot, and add a little badass to any outfit. (Here they are in suede/patent leather.)

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Dress by Ted Baker.

STYLEBOOK
I mentioned this briefly last week, but the more I think about it, the more excited I get. (And in case you’re wondering, they did not pay me to talk about it or anything. I discovered it ages ago and am only now getting around to actually using it!)

Stylebook is an app that allows you to take photos of your clothing, and then mix-and-match and piece them together to create outfits. It’s like Polyvore, except with stuff you actually own. Pretty excellent. The most helpful thing for me is that I can actually SEE what I own. The app is really versatile, too, and can even calculate the cost per wear of an item if you want to get super-detailed!

I have been going through my closet with a fine-tooth comb and selling all the stuff that I am sick of, that doesn’t suit me anymore, that doesn’t fit, or is just not right in some way. It feels SO good to trim the fat, and it also makes photographing each item of my closet much more manageable. I am obsessed with this app. That is all.

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FANCY NEW GLASSES
When I think of autumn, I inevitably start imagining blazers, kilts, scarves, and glasses. Maybe it’s that whole back-to-school vibe, and maybe I just spent too much time in uniform, but whatever the case, I adore glasses. I wear contact lenses a lot (primarily because working out in glasses is a pain in the ass), but when I’m home, you’ll find me schlepping around in specs.

Over the last few months, I tried on a few cute pairs, but balked at the price. $300 for frames alone was just silly, and not in the budget. So I got my sleuth on, and searched eBay for the model number of the frames I liked most.

JACKPOT! I scored two pairs of great glasses — Dolce & Gabba and Miu Miu — for about $100 apiece. Then I went to Chinatown and had lenses put in for $50! Now that’s a deal. And that’s my secret to buying sick glasses on a budget.

 

Watching the seasons change is so exciting. What are you most looking forward to? New clothes are, of course, definitely doing it for me, but I’m also excited about seeing the foliage change, drinking mugs of hot chocolate, halloween decorations, finishing up some big projects, and hunkering down with my love and our dogs.

Autumnal dreams,

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Radical Self Love Letters
 

Celebrate! It’s An End Of Summer Sale!

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Hooray! It’s a holiday weekend here in the U.S.A., and summer is winding down. Soon, it’ll be time to bust out those cashmere sweaters, mugs of hot chocolate, and your favourite pair of ankle boots. All I can say about that is hell yeah!

To celebrate, I’m throwing an end of summer sale. From today through Monday, my online courses and Pep Talks are cheap cheap cheap!

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Radical Self Love Letters: 365 Edition is a collection of love letters from me to you. You’ll get one every day until this time next year (!), giving you ideas of ways to work on your self-love and to increase your happiness. It’s only $50 for the whole year!

 

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Pep Talks are exactly that: MP3s on various subjects, with plenty of guidance, encouragement and support. They’re normally $7, and this weekend they’re only $5. They’re an instant download, and you can listen to them, well, forever!

 

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Radical Self Love Bible School is three months of prompts to keep you focussed on your radical self love journey, and even better, it’s super-creative. Every Sunday, you’ll get an email with photos from my own Bible, plus oodles of ideas and suggestions. At the end of the three month period, you’ll have a bulging sketchbook that you can look back at and refer to whenever you’re feeling blue. Bible School is usually $20, and now it’s $10!

 

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DARE/DREAM/DO is a 30 day email course which will teach you how to kick fear’s ass, dream really big, and — most crucially — put all those dreams into action! It’s one of my most popular products for a reason: it really, really works. DARE/DREAM/DO is ordinarily $20, and this weekend, it’s only $10. Hello, bargain!

 

This is an awesome opportunity to start taking action on LOVING YOURSELF truly, madly, deeply. With a little guidance and a whole lot of encouragement, I know you can do it!

The sale ends on Monday, so act quickly! As always, if you have any questions, Twitter is the best place to ask ‘em.

I love you! Have an amazing weekend!

Photo by Shell De Mar.

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Carousel: Vin Diesel Can Sing, Getting Over Your Ex, And A Confetti Bracelet DIY!

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If you’ve ever wondered what’s in my bag, the adorable (and talented) EmmaKisstina did a little sketch! I love that she even included my keys, my Filofax, and my Be My Darling cuff! So much cuteness.

Here are my favourite links of the month. I recommend going through them while you lie in bed!


Here are 3 ways selfies can change the world, from Veronica Varlow.

Sometimes Kanye West is a bit obnoxious. But sometimes he is brilliant.

One of the best things about living in the East Village is EV Grieve, a local blog. Amazing things happen over there. For example, when a man died, the word was put out to see if any of his old friends could be tracked down. The results were amazing.

I’m about to dive back into the glorious world of Filofax, and I can’t wait. I discovered this method of “rapid logging” called Bullet Journal. It’s very interesting — a Virgo dream!

The French Girls app (as in, “Draw me like one of your French girls”, a la Titanic) is amazing: people submit selfies, and other users draw them. The results are hilarious and brilliant.

Seth Godin writes about how this is ours.

When they spit in the pool or troll anonymously, when they spam or break things, it’s as if they’re doing it to someone else, or to the man. … Over and over, we see that tribes and communities and organizations are able to teach people that this is ours, that it’s worth taking care of and most of all, that people like us care for things like this.

I never knew Vin Diesel could sing. More to the point, I never knew he made videos of himself singing — alone, mind you — on Christmas day. Wow. Just wow.

I loved how Veronica Varlow shared one tip to help you rock out your life and never give up. Plus how to get over your ex.

Are you busy “working on your novel”? A new book has been created on the subject. And I love this…

Also, I feel like the word “procrastination” is too strong. Just because you’re on Twitter saying stuff, it doesn’t really mean you’re procrastinating. The status update has become such a fluid part of culture.

Haters gonna hate: what’s a woman to do?

“I have a mantra: If you say things of consequence, there may be consequences. But the alternative is to be inconsequential,” the Op-Ed Project’s founder and CEO Katie Orenstein told me. “My point is not that we should speak up at any cost, but rather that we can’t allow fear of negative feedback to determine what kind of voice we have in the world.”

A 13 year old boy got an iPhone and some rules to go with it. Actually, I like these phone rules for everyone, teenaged or not!

I’m a sucker for a packing your suitcase hack. Here are 20!

Ditto beauty hacks. These are amazing! WHO KNEW?! Winged eyeliner with the help of a spoon?! Get outta here!

Here’s a damn good letter from the editor of The Guardian on the online abuse that follows any article on women’s issues.

Bedazzle your boring picture frames with this cute as hell tutorial. Glitter FTW!

I really need to make confetti bracelets, and you do too.

I’m heartbroken about Robin Williams’ passing. Here’s a great interview he did with Marc Maron.

Joseph Gordon-Levitt: “I’d absolutely call myself a feminist.”

I’m obsessed with Elemoon, a bracelet which changes colour to match your outfit, alerts important calls and texts, and even helps you find your phone! (Back it!)

What are the contestants from America’s Next Top Model up to these days? Good question, Vulture, good question.

I’ve wanted to attend Diner En Blanc for years. Here’s a little insight into the event.

Emma, who came to our Auckland Blogcademy, wrote a fantastic post about bulimia, which is worth a read.

The Great Discontent did an interview with Molly Crabapple, and it is so, so good.

If you’re the sort of person who fucking whines about being motivated, like some of the art students I lecture, then just fucking stop. I’m not interested in speaking to anyone who wonders how to motivate themselves. If you need to talk about how to get motivated, then go get a normal job in the normal scheme of the world and just do art as a hobby so you still love it. Stop clogging up the field for the people who need this like a drug. … We also live in an era where a lot of the old, supporting institutions are either opening up or crumbling, so I suggest that people don’t try to distort who they are to fit notions of what’s professionally viable, because that paradigm is over. I suggest you focus in on your weirdness, your passions, and your fucked-up damage, and be yourself as truly as you can. Express that with as much craft, discipline, and rigor as you can; work as hard as you can to build a career out of that, and then you’ll create a career that you love and that’s true to yourself, as opposed to doing what you think other people want and burning yourself out when you’re older.

Messy Nessy explored vintage Vegas (and some nearby ghost towns)…

Claudette is a hermaphrodite sex worker in Switzerland.

I was featured on The Numinous for their My Mystical Life section.

The Libra Dress Historian is a genius. Her column on Mystic Medusa, on wearing black, is smart and incisive.

Once upon a Dior-time (I’m thinking the 40s and 50s here), black was also edgy. Fast girls and beatniks wore black from their polo necks to their brassieres in rebellion against the sickly pastels that teens were supposed to wear. But now black is an invisibility cloak of conventionality. Girls from Aries to Pisces love themselves in black; say their boyfriends love them in black. Black has become what baby pink and blue were in the 50s, the colour of pleasing. Whereas in the 50s and 60s feisty chicks donned black underwear to denote their passage into wilderness, nowadays, the most conformist girls wear opaque black coordinates, while their more adventurous sisters experiment with colour, texture and pattern.

Hahaha, this made me laugh: subway yoga is a new thing. But seriously, I wouldn’t want to get that close to the floor of a subway car…

Want to go clubbing, sober? A new club in Stockholm has you covered. (Or, you could just not drink anywhere else in the world. But it’s an interesting idea!)

Fark has banned misogyny to help facilitate free speech.

If you’ve ever dated an Aries — hell, I married one! — this will make you laugh.

The ultimate guide to miserable utter failure, by James Altucher.

I was fascinated by this post on the outlaw Instagrammers of NYC. (They scale buildings and bridges to document the vista.) Of course, that then led me to this video, which made my palms sweat.

I went on a Style Like U binge. Check out Betsey Johnson, B. Åkerlund (incredible stylist), and Gail Chovan, who owns Blackmail, one of my favourite stores in Austin.

At one point, I had over 200 paris of shoes. It wasn’t what I needed to be doing in life. If it’s not beautiful or useful, then why do you have it? The things you have should be precious and make you have an emotional response.

Rich people exercise, poor people take diet pills. This article talks about how economic uncertainty makes it harder to plan for workouts and healthy meals.

Behind Claude’s Doors. In 1960s Paris she became known as the world’s most exclusive madam, whose client list was said to include John Kennedy, de Gaulle, Onassis, and multiple Rothschilds, and whose beautiful and cultivated girls often went on to marry wealth, power, and prestige. But among the many secrets Madame Claude kept, perhaps the greatest were her own… (The intrigue!)

Can you do one page a day? I love, love, love this!

Here are 50 essays guaranteed to make you a better person.

People in NYC are interesting.

Next on my travel hit list? The Integratron.

This guy throws “elite” sex parties in London.

Quit Twitter before you’re hard, quit Instagram before you’re soft. On the peaks and troughs of social media interaction.

Want to write a book? Here are some great resources to help you along the way.

We must risk delight after a summer full of monsters.

Beauty is survival, not distraction. Beauty is a way of fighting. Beauty is a reason to fight.

This video of people climbing to the top of buildings in search of a thrill is wild.

Getting into Cirque du Soleil is just as hard as you would imagine.

Much love,

P.S. There are only three seats left for our Radical Self Love Salon in September! xo

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Things I Love Thursday… And Also, Things You Love Thursday!

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Hello, from a face made out of a booty! Hahaha. This photo made me laugh so hard when I saw it that I just had to feature it! It’s just so magnificent. I think everyone should surround their bums with tinsel at all times.

So, let’s switch it up. Instead of sharing my top five favourite things, I asked my Facebook babes what was making them happy today! I picked a few to share with you, and here they are…

Emma said, “Dancing, the feeling of a cool breeze on a warm day, messages from people you haven’t spoken to for a while, books and the great British bake off!”

Tawyna said, “Farmers On the Square Wednesdays (and getting to sell fresh local organic produce!) – a New Moon Intention circle with my 10 year old twin boys who were happy to participate! – second week tv-free and no one is complaining (not even the kids!) – long weekends – and most of all, awareness.”

Amanda said, “Just had ACL surgery yesterday, and I am grateful for my incredibly helpful husband, for fun diversions like The Kinky Coloring Book, not as much pain as I anticipated, great doctors, and the friends who have been checking up on me!”

Anastasia said, “Emojis. The invention of dressy jogging pants that I can wear to work. Another year gone by, my birthday was Tuesday. Lunch, because hunger. A shopping/spa day date with my mom this weekend. Oh and Opi’s You Don’t Know Jaques. xo”

Heather said, “Being able to do what I love every day (writing), starting my Gothic masters (and getting to read and watch Gothic books and films as research, every day magic, my husband/family/friends and living in a place with changing seasons.”

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“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” — Iyanla Vanzant

Little things I love… Last weekend’s Radical Self Love Salon — and the lovely ladies who attended — was wonderful. My next one is Sunday September 21st. Come and join us! Going to bed early — best feeling ever Doing advanced Pilates moves! Holy shit, so challenging, but so satisfying! The very sane men I have in my life Really and truly becoming one with our new couch Breaking in new shoes (okay, actually kind of painful, but they sure look cute!)  Little packets of chocolate almond butter, and chocolate hazelnut butter… Delightful!  Dramatic instrumental playlists to write along to  Gift magazine (get it!)  A huge stack of magazines, just waiting for me  Reading at night  Ordering custom confetti (squeak!) 

Things I would be cruel not to tell you… Sephora is having a 75% off sale (online only), and my favourite eye-cream is included! (Go get it, dark circle sufferers!) This is what my media kit looks like. I swear this abundance candle works. I just started using the StyleBook app, which is a way of organising your closet and planning your outfits. So cool. Yesterday, I photographed all my skirts… And I think it has immense potential! Elemoon is the most exciting Kickstarter I’ve seen in a long time. I think we should all be taking alchemy baths! Wanna join me? 

Eternal love,

Amazing bum photo by Charlotte Rutherford. Rainbow shot by Hana Haley.

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#radicalselflovejuly: The Wrap-Up!

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I don’t know about you, but I really enjoyed participating in #radicalselflovejuly. It gave me something to post when I felt low on inspiration, and, even better, it reminded me to keep focussed on my own radical self love journey. It’s never over, and there is always more to do!

Here are some of the stand-out submissions from the last week of the challenge. It was wonderful to see everyone becoming more confident with their photography, and how you all started to connect up in the comments of each others posts. It warmed my sparkly little heart!

There were some wonderful posts about the experience, too. Thanks to Reina, Rachael, Lea, Kaiti, Islandia, Angie, and Scarlett for sharing their thoughts!


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DAY TWENTY-TWO: Magic

There were so many beautiful photos on this day, ranging from gorgeous photos of nature to incredible works of art like this one shared by Shweta. I mean, wow. Wow! Shweta, how did you even do this?! (MAGIC is obviously the answer!) Damn, girl. Damn!


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DAY TWENTY-THREE: On your wall

Kate Holderness needs a very special mention for her contributions to #radicalselflovejuly. She took the prompts to another level, both literally and figuratively! Seeing her Instagrams regularly blew my mind, and after a month of amazement, it was lovely to meet her at the Radical Self Love Salon in London. Oh, the internet, bringing people together! Anyway, I loved seeing all her favourite witches in this photo. SICK to death.


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DAY TWENTY-FOUR: Gratitude

Anne posted this simple image, saying…

These last few days I’m really grateful for all the family, friends and others loved ones I have in my life. When really bad things happen you are more aware of the things you can be grateful for.

Amen, girl.


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DAY TWENTY-FIVE: Bed-head

Issy has some badass bed-head, and I cannot for the life of me figure out where she is. Is she in an elaborate tent?! Meanwhile, Julie has hair for days, and I loved the way the sunlight hit it just so.


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DAY TWENTY-SIX: I wish I was…

There were a lot of wishes put out into the world on this day. Eleanor wants more confetti in her life (and it looks like she succeeded!). Jessica would like to be eating “the world’s biggest ice-cream in Denmark”. Sofia submitted the photo in the middle, and her caption said,

I wish I was… as at one with myself as my Italian “Nonna” (granny) with her don’t-give-a-shit-about-anyone attitude and all the cats who adore her. She is inspirational, and I can only dream of being so badass when I’m her age. What a legend!


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DAY TWENTY-SEVEN: Pampering

Sometimes, it’s the simple things. Leonie says that a hot bath, a bowl of cherries, a fresh drink and a good book are perfect… And I would have to agree! Plus, I loved the bold colours and graphic style of this shot.


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DAY TWENTY-EIGHT: Blow bubbles

Cassy has the biggest bubbles in the biz. Eleanor’s bubble-blowing helped her brainstorm! And Angie blew the perfect bubble… Before it popped!


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DAY TWENTY-NINE: Mirror wisdom

Haley’s mirror reminds her that socially constructed ideas of “beauty” can be harmful, and Nikki quotes Louise L. Hay. Gorgeous! I was also moved by Spidercat’s caption on this photograph

Recently I’ve gained a couple of kilograms, my new jeans which I was so excited to fit into are a bit too snug and I know it’s because I’ve been eating out a lot and hiding from winter instead of getting out walking. But while I know I need to reclaim healthier habits, I won’t let a minor change bother me. A mirror is only my reflection at a moment in time – it can capture how I look when I feel great, it can capture how I look when I don’t feel so great, but that’s all it captures, looks. A mirror doesn’t capture kindness, compassion, intelligence, drive, loyalty, the sound of your laughter, the warmth of your hugs – things that make you a wonderful person are not captured by a mirror. Neither are they captured by a tape measure, a scale or your jeans size – something I had to remind myself when I realised my jeans were getting too snug! Your reflection in the mirror is not what defines you, it is what is inside.

Now that is radical self love!


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DAY THIRTY: I love…

The prompt for this day was very open-ended, but since we were getting to the end of the challenge, a lot of babes took it as a damn good reason to give props to their beloved. Ain’t nothin’ wrong with that! I loved this photo of Naomi and her husband, Dan, and I equally adored this sentiment from Karen, who explained that she loves to inspire!


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DAY THIRTY-ONE: Super-selfie!

So many babes, so little time! There is no way I could include everyone’s super-selfie… But they were awesome. Here are just a few of ‘em! I especially appreciated those of you who were, “I’ve got no make-up on, and I’m sweaty, but I’m AWESOME ANYWAY!” Hell yes! Thank you to Suzor, Coleen, Emily, Em, Monica, Kayla, Janet, Risa, and Nicole for the photos above!


Thank you to everyone who participated.
#radicalselflovejuly was absolutely amazing, and I was completely blown away by the 13,000 entries. Our next Instagram challenge will happen in October, and it’s going to be BIG, with prizes and plenty of fun! I’m looking for sponsors who want to get involved! If you have a product or service and you’d like to partner up, get in touch. It’s gonna be GOOD!

I’d love to hear your suggestions for our next Instagram challenge, too. Spill the beans here!

Always dreaming,

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