25 October 2013, 15:30
I’ve got my pink suitcase packed and I’m ready to embark on the adventure of a lifetime: heading down under with my two BFFs!
Today, I fly from New York to Los Angeles, and this evening, hop a flight to Brisbane with my babe Shauna. We arrive in Brisbane on Sunday (!!!) and meet Kat, and pretend that we are totally not confused and bewildered by the fact that two days just disappeared…
In other news, here are the best bits of the internet for your consumption and delight!
I’m beyond obsessed with this abandoned Wizard of Oz theme park!
Music affects plants… And it can affect you, too. (This is a great blog, have a browse!)
Just try and stop me from clicking on anything James Altucher tweets. Check out lies we tell ourselves to be liked:
I had to stop using all the energy in my brain coming up with imaginary futures. The brain is too powerful and needs a lot of fuel to keep the lies going. Better to use that fuel for being happy and good now than to make up futures and anxieties and regrets.
I absolutely adore Jonathan Fields, and his interviews are just brilliant. He sat down with Danielle LaPorte recently, and, well, I don’t think I need to tell you how beautiful, illuminating, and real it is.
6 Truths About Exercise That Nobody Wants to Believe. Harsh/true.
There’s a blog called Fucking Awesome Bulimics I Know — whoah, right? — full of interviews with fantastic women who either have or have overcome bulimia. I loved this interview with fitness guru Patricia Moreno.
This woman was the real Jessica Rabbit! Fantastic.
Ever wanted to eat lunch 750 feet underground? If that’s a desire you have, rest assured, you can indulge it!
I’m definitely battling strong urges to book a room here and bathe in a martini glass. How very Dita!
You can go up the Eiffel Tower… Online! Quelle vue!
I love these silly business cards from the 1970s.
This is the most amazing paint roller wallpaper (!!!) I have ever seen! It’s also the only paint roller wallpaper I’ve ever seen…
Sad and fascinating and poignant: Joyce Carol Vincent: How could this young woman lie dead and undiscovered for almost three years? And then a documentary was made about this woman’s amazing life. I read about this for hours, it completely sucked me in.
Portraits Of My Family aims to represent family members through the objects they’ve owned. What would your portrait look like?
I’ve always said we should just cut the ads out of fashion magazines. This guy did.
Imagine living with a lion! Now that’s nutty.
This is the most intense and mysterious doodling I’ve ever seen!
A witch summons hidden forces to castrate the social order, poison the hearth, and fly above her “natural” station. She presides over irrepressible antagonisms, drawing on the bottomless caldron of resistance. Her power is real.
Here’s how to deal with the Pluto-Uranus square...
Is your life full of energy suckers, or as Mystic Medusa calls ‘em, “qi vampires”? Here’s how to deal with them.
Joan Jett did an Ask Me Anything!
If you’re in L.A., I dare you to try out the psychic barber!
This is how big companies figure out what to sell you. And the research is absolutely fascinating.
Also linked to your Guest ID is demographic information like your age, whether you are married and have kids, which part of town you live in, how long it takes you to drive to the store, your estimated salary, whether you’ve moved recently, what credit cards you carry in your wallet and what Web sites you visit. Target can buy data about your ethnicity, job history, the magazines you read, if you’ve ever declared bankruptcy or got divorced, the year you bought (or lost) your house, where you went to college, what kinds of topics you talk about online, whether you prefer certain brands of coffee, paper towels, cereal or applesauce, your political leanings, reading habits, charitable giving and the number of cars you own.
I really enjoyed Kate’s post I think I finally don’t care as much about the way I look.
Totally in love with this campaign to boost girls’ self-esteem. There’s a poster up near my house, and it makes me smile.
Where’s Waldo in NYC?
Here’s why you should quit your job.
Derek Sivers writes great notes on the books he’s read. I enjoyed these ones from Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You, where the author talks about how following passion alone can lead to feeling unfulfilled.
If you want to love what you do, abandon the passion mindset (“what can the world offer me?”) and instead adopt the craftsman mindset (“what can I offer the world?”).
Jen Dzuira is the shit. Check out the best of Bullish. This one — A Day In The Life of Bullish (Caffeine, Pinstripe, and A Lack of Time-Wasting Bullshit) — is particularly brilliant.
Srinivas on junk food of the brain (and some antidotes).
There’s a witches’ market in Bolivia.
Very interesting: 154 minutes with Graydon Carter.
In his memoir How to Lose Friends and Alienate People, a former editor at Vanity Fair named Toby Young quotes Carter as saying: “ ‘You think you’ve arrived … I hate to break it to you but you’re only in the first room. It’s not nothing—don’t get me wrong—but it’s not that great either. Believe me, there are plenty of people in this town who got to the first room and then didn’t get any further.’ ”
This “psychic” scammed people out of their life-savings! Booooo!
Staying at the Chelsea was one of the more memorable experiences of my life, but times they are a-changin’. Here are some juicy tidbits from the hotel’s rock ‘n’ roll history.
This made me laugh! Non-Americans on the weirdest things that are normal to Americans. America is really bizarre, okay?
The Ugly Reality of Creating Reality Television. Reality TV attracts millions of viewers and thousands of hopefuls, but at what cost?
Might need these myself… Homeopathic remedies for travelling.
I absolutely loved Petra’s post on censorship and the female body. Powerful stuff.
30 lessons learned from selling $30 million worth of ebooks. Wowsers!
Very Halloweenie: why dark rides scare the pants off us.
If you had to, how would you define love?
Here’s a great — and wonderfully inspiring — interview with Bobbi Brown.
See you on the other side of the planet!
23 October 2013, 12:11
When I go shopping, I instantly gravitate towards the loud pieces: big, bold stripes, psychedelic patterns and sequins are like sartorial kryptonite for this girl. Swing open my closet door, and you come face-to-face with a cacophony of prints and polka-dots. But inevitably, when it comes time to put an outfit together, all those loud items start to compete with one another.
Which brings us to the humble t-shirt, an item I have extremely mixed feelings about. Comfortable? Yes! Wildly thrilling? Definitely not. But there’s a reason why t-shirts are a fashion staple. They simply get the job done: no muss, no fuss. And if you can get your hands on one in a fun colour, like the Hanes Live. Love. Color t-shirt, so much the better.
This is one of the most simple outfits I’ve worn in a while, and I love it. It’s casual but cool, dressed up and dressed down at the same time. I love to pair a baseball cap with oversized sunglasses and a chunky necklace, a flippy skater skirt with sneaker wedges. And it wouldn’t have worked without a simple t-shirt to pull it all together.
I’m wearing: NY Yankees baseball cap / Celine sunglasses / Faux Celine necklace / Hanes Live. Love. Color t-shirt / Topshop skirt / Lacoste sneaker wedges (not pictured) / Hanes bandeau and boy shorts.
My lip colour is Bite’s High Pigment Pencil in Grapevine, an accidental but fortuitous discovery I made during a recent Sephora rampage. Obsessed!
By the way, have you been wondering about the results of Hanes’ Undercover Color campaign? They make me laugh!
I must admit, I’m proud to live in a city full of people who rock purple underwear regularly.
This post was brought to you by Hanes and Style Coalition.
21 October 2013, 12:11
Photo by Laura Burlton.
Oh, Mercury retrograde.
You are here, AGAIN. You have arrived on our collective doorsteps in all your messy glory. You are our dreaded but regular house-guest. You stagger in the door, kick over our furniture, leave crumbs all over the couch and hog the bathroom. Then, as quickly as you appeared, you disappear again, leaving us slightly stunned but much better equipped to continue with our own lives!
If you have no idea what I’m talking about, here we go. The planets are swinging around at all times, and their movements affect us all in different ways. All planets go retrograde, but Mercury’s journey seems to impact people much more than any other. (Even people who “don’t believe in astrology” often “believe” in the crazy aftershocks of Mercury retrograde!)
Why is that? It’s because Mercury rules communication, clear thinking, truth and travel, so when the planet goes retrograde — which means that it looks like it’s going backwards in the sky — all those things go backwards. They start to get ugly and tangle up. Mercury isn’t really going backwards, it’s just hanging out by the sun, but from Earth, that makes it look like it’s in reverse. It typically runs for a couple of weeks, a few times a year.
Check out these dates below and put them in your calendar!
In 2013, Mercury is retrograde from…
February 23rd to March 17th
June 26th to July 20th
October 21st to November 10th
Note: We sometimes start to feel the effects of Mercury retrograde a few days early. It’s nice to give yourself a bit of leeway on either side of the prescribed dates!
What happens when Mercury goes retrograde?
All sorts of things! It’s like everyone you know has suddenly gone mad! You might find yourself getting into bizarre arguments about nothing at all, being unable to finish sentences or barely even able to form a coherent thought. Your computer and other electronic equipment is more likely to go on the fritz. You could experience travel delays, too. Double-check your flights and take a book with you to keep you occupied while you wait for the train! We don’t tend to get all the information we need at this time, so it can be hard to make big decisions and it’s not always the best time to sign a contract, either.
Expect to hear super-loud complaining from your friends who are Gemini or Virgo, since both are ruled by Mercury! Mercury also rules a lot of industries like publishing, writing, editing, advertising, sales, public relations and anything to do with transport, like airlines, the post office and cabs! This means it can be particularly rough for Gemini train conductors and Virgo magazine editors, so be kind to any you know!
I often find that Mercury retrograde makes me want to go into hermit mode. I feel like half my brain is missing so I’m really not that interested in interacting with anyone, plus every conversation seems to go in an unusual, confusing direction. I feel much more irritable and frustrated and things just don’t seem to go how I want them to.
So that’s the bad news. Mercury retrograde can be a total kick in the teeth for those of us who normally pride ourselves on having our karmic shit together! The GOOD news is that Mercury retrograde provides us with lots of beautiful opportunities if we can just tilt our head and squint.
Mercury retrograde wants us to move back spiritually. It is providing us with a chance to re-examine various areas of our life which may need a little more work, so that we can move forward to a bright new dawn. Now, more than ever, the time is right to look at things with clear eyes. Delicious, fresh perspectives are revealed. We often have major breakthroughs — intellectual, emotional or spiritual — during this time.
It’s also a terrific period in which to tie up loose ends. So many of us have unfinished projects… Maybe that door just needs another lick of paint, or you’ll decide to put away your ex-boyfriend’s love letters once and for all. Having said that, this is also a time where it’s very common for old lovers, friends and acquaintances to get in touch! If you hear from someone from your past, get together with them and see what eventuates!
One of the best ways to cope with it — as with anything, really — is to just “go with the flow”. When you fight Mercury retrograde, that’s when life gets really ugly. Just take some time, go slowly, be careful, don’t freak yourself out by expecting to be uber-productive-perfect right now. Be good to yourself and the people around you, now more than ever!
surviving Mercury retrograde!
(Print it off and stick it in your diary or on your wall!)
Be sure not to take things too personally. People will often say offensive things they didn’t mean around this time, because their thinking is clouded and their communication skills are on pause! If your best friend suddenly became the most insensitive person in the world, give her the benefit of the doubt.
Back up your data!
Don’t purchase any big ticket items, because they will often have flaws or issues that you weren’t aware of! Of course, life doesn’t stop just because of wacky planetary movement, so if you absolutely have to get that car, computer or iPhone, TRIPLE-check all the paperwork, and make sure you have a warranty!
Take things with a grain of salt. Everyone is a bit confused, and people are much more inclined to change their mind once Mercury goes direct. Mercury can be a bit of a trickster — could it be that the next few weeks are a big karmic joke?!
Read the small print on any contracts. Ask lots of questions. Again, you can’t put your life on hold just because of some silly planet, but adapt your lifestyle a bit so that things run more smoothly. Communication can be a mess right now, but do your best to get as much information as you can.
Finish things you started a while ago. Home improvement projects? Wardrobe re-organisations? Short stories? Love affairs?! This is an excellent time to tie up loose ends and file things away forever.
Get together with old friends, reminisce and laugh!
Double-check any information you’re given, especially as relates to travel arrangements! During one particularly formidable Mercury retrograde, I actually caught a cab to the wrong airport! Check times, delays, baggage allowances, reservations… everything!
Allow Mercury to nudge you in unusual directions. If you seem to find yourself “back to the future”, don’t just try to wriggle out of it — look at what the universe is trying to show you. What can you learn from this situation? This is a fantastic time to re-examine, accept and move on.
Use the things you’ve discovered in the past to create a dazzling new vision so that you’re ready to blast ahead when Mercury goes direct!
If you want more tips, read 10 Magical Ways To Make The Most Of Mercury Retrograde!
Fingers crossed for the next few weeks, and best of luck to you!
Love and sanity,
18 October 2013, 15:23
For years, rumours swirled all around me. Everyone wanted to know how I had done it. There were whispers of a trust fund, a wealthy boyfriend, an even more affluent husband. How else could I be living the life I live?
And it’s no surprise. We all want to know how to make our dreams come true. But the real answer has nothing to do with fathers, boyfriends or husbands.
I’ve discovered that with the right attitude and intention, we can live a life of blessings — even miracles — with ease and grace. The hard slog is old-fashioned and outmoded. It’s much more modern to hold hands with the universe and double-dutch right over our limiting beliefs.
That’s why I’m delighted to announce DARE/DREAM/DO, a 30-day email series that outlines the steps I personally take to manifest a life worth swooning over!
We start out with DARE, ten days of takin’ out the trash when it comes to fear, anxiety, and those lingering doubts which keep you back and hold you hostage. If you’ve ever wanted to start a business, leave a miserable relationship, or start all over again — but didn’t — this is for you. We can only really live out loud when we start to smash through those cold sweat-inducing cognitions, and I’m going to show you exactly how to do it.
Then we move onto DREAM, which is all about opening our minds and giving ourselves permission to want more for ourselves. If you’re wondering whether your checklist should look like everyone else’s, take heed! This is for you if you’re feeling stuck, bored, underwhelmed or sapped of creative energy. For ten days, we’ll take a joyful stroll through our biggest, boldest, and most unconscious desires, resulting in a more expansive, playful and visionary world-view… And you’ll certainly be capable of shaking up some major shit by the time you get done!
Finally, we get cracking on DO. Now that you’ve gatecrashed your fear festival, crushed your jitters and know where you want to go, I’m going to show you how to make it happen. Over a ten day period, I’ll be teaching you my favourite — and quite unconventional! — methods for moving mountains in a beautiful, magical and enjoyable way.
You’ll learn how to run your energy, energise yourself with breath, and fill a room with positive intention. There’s chanting, ritual, candle magic and of course, advice on how to kick self-sabotage to the curb!
“These last 31 days, I had one thing to look forward to every day, a letter from you! Everyday it reminded me of who I am, who I am becoming, and who I want to be. I know every day I am working on me, that everyday is a day that I can take time and give myself a break. I must say I am sad that I won’t be receiving these emails anymore. This was the best money I’ve ever spent.” (Taylor Longden)
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DARE/DREAM/DO is a thirty-day experience, and costs $20. If you sign up right now, you’ll get your first lesson in 24 hours. And since I believe so much in magic, I’m donating $5 from each subscription in the first 24 hours to make Veronica’s dream come true.
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Let’s get magical…
18 October 2013, 12:11
This dress is much more simple than I would normally pick. I borrowed it from Shauna, Queen of Minimalism, and as soon as I tried it on, I was in love. As I get older, I’m learning about the power of simplicity in all things. Clothing’s just one area in which minimalism can be elevated to an art-form.
And really, when you’re standing against a bright blue door, wearing raspberry lipstick, surrounded by shocking pink bougainvillea, you don’t need much else, do you?
I think by now you have probably grasped that Santorini is one of the most beautiful places on earth. If you ever had any doubts about visiting, I hope the pictures I’ve shared with you have removed them once and for all.
Whenever anyone asks me about what the Greek Islands are like, all I can do is stammer about how gorgeous they are and how everyone has to find their way there, at least once in their life.
And of course, a trip like this is made even more wonderful when you take it with your best friends.
Photographs by Shell De Mar.