Fuck That! A Manifesto

Fuck That: A Manifesto

Maybe this is your one and only life, and maybe you will live many lifetimes in totally different dimensions. Ultimately, it doesn’t really matter. Even if you have another hundred lifetimes to live, why not make this one absolutely incredible?

This is where we are, so let’s make it magical.

As I was walking around the city last night, feeling the Sagittarius Moon beam down upon me, I was overcome with some extremely Sagittarian thoughts. My craving for a sense of freedom and radical candor was absolute. I grabbed my phone and started dictating the following rules for life. It all felt very Of The Moment.

I present to you…

FUCK THAT! A Manifesto.

SAY “FUCK THAT” TO…

Finishing boring books.
It is never worth it. Throw them across the room! Choose to pursue pleasure, fun, and good literature.

Staying at parties full of mindless chitchat.
Go somewhere else and spend time with people who light up your soul. Or just leave, go home, and take a bath. Better to be in your own company than with people who bore, antagonise, or irritate you.

Living under the thumb of anyone who makes you feel constricted or obligated.
Get out of there! You don’t owe anybody anything. Your life is yours alone. Own it!

Staying in the job that grinds your soul down to a weary nub.
Do something, anything else. Your energy is a finite resource: don’t waste it on something that is absolutely beneath your soul’s capacity for total brilliance.

Having the same arguments, either with other people or with yourself.
Time to change the conversation, the perspective, or the company you keep.

Fuck That! A Manifesto

Committing yourself to anything that doesn’t feel good.
It could be a diet, an exercise regime, a role… It doesn’t matter. You have the power to make choices that make you feel good. Have the courage to speak up when it’s no longer working. Pluck up the moxie to want more for yourself. Recognise that your life has been a series of choices… And if you make different choices, everything will change.

Waiting until the end of a TV episode or movie that isn’t fantastic.
Why bother? We are influenced by what we consume, so why fill your brain with rubbish? Go and make something instead.

Bitching to your friends without making any changes.
Sometimes we get tricked into thinking we are “doing something” when we moan, but the reality is that kvetching doesn’t count! Sure, vent when you need to, but don’t be a chronic complainer who refuses to take action. Take a deep breath and make something happen!

Feeling stuck, small and afraid.
You are not any of those things, but those thoughts start to become true when you keep repeating them over and over. Take the first step — it’s scary as fuck but nothing is more liberating. Stand tall and confront your fears. They are never as bad as you think.

Hating yourself.
You are beyond radiant, and quite frankly, it is offensive to believe anything else. Stop kidding yourself, and step forward into your power. You are luminous!

The most important thing is to make yourself feel good in every moment of every day. Everything positive follows from there: love, friendship, work, spirituality, philanthropy. People who feel good cannot help but attract awesome people and experiences. People who feel bad simply manifest more of the same. The solution is simple: focus on what you can do to make yourself feel good right now.

I love you,

Photos: Henrik Steen for Lancome, and Jessica Chastain by Ellen Von Unwerth for British GQ.

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Meet Me In The Midwest… Twice!

Meet Me In The Midwest!

Sweet ladies of the Midwest! I am so excited to be hitting up Lincoln, Nebraska for two excellent events in July! It’s gonna be a hot, radical self love-laden summer! Come out and join me, we’ll have the best time ever!

There are two events, which obviously means double your pleasure! Pick one or go wild and do both! (I absolutely cannot wait to give you a hug.)

RISE LINCOLN

I’m speaking at Rise Lincoln (on the rooftop of Olsson Associates!) on July 9th. Rise is a motivating series designed to connect the community of Lincoln’s women business leaders, where you can meet and be inspired by brilliant women just like you. We’re going to P-A-R-T-Y, celebrating you, celebrating us, and celebrating the dreams we’re turning into realities!

I’ll be giving you a huge spoonful of radical self love, and also talk to you about how I built my business and followed my dreams. Let it be known: you can build a business and still be good to yourself, honour your creativity, and rock it out!

Stay tuned to the Rise Lincoln Facebook page for updates and information!

 

RADICAL SELF LOVE SALON

As if that wasn’t enough excitement, I’m also holding a Radical Self Love Salon on July 11th at 7pm in the beautiful Goldenrod Pastries space on South 48th Street.

This will be a much more intimate event, complete with rituals and rose petals, meditation and magic. Tickets are $199. Bring your best friend and get ready for a truly beautiful evening.

If you’re wondering what exactly happens at a Radical Self Love Salon, get the details here!

 

Click the ticket to reserve your seat, and I’ll send you an email with more details!

Nebraska… I’m a-comin’!

Love ever,

Photo by Made U Look Photography.

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Danielle LaPorte On Feeling Stuck And Taking The First Step

Miracle Worker

There are few things as exciting, scintillating and titivating as having a conversation with someone who really gets it, someone who’s really willing to go there, someone who’s keen to connect at a deep level. In fact, having conversations like this is one of my passions… I just didn’t know it until this year!

Over the past couple of months, you may have noticed me tweeting about a series of badass interviews I was doing as part of Miracle Worker.

Every time I sent out a tweet like this, the response was enthusiastic and electrified. I knew I was on to something good.

Miracle Worker is an 8-week class on creating a magical, meaningful career, and it starts on Monday May 4th (yes, that’s next week!). In addition to whipsmart workbooks, action steps, mixtapes and our lively Facebook group, every week you’ll be sent an interview with some of the best in class — like Danielle LaPorte, Kathryn Minshew of The Muse, James Altucher, Alexandra Franzen, Miki Agrawal and Paul Jarvis — talking about what it really takes to get to where you wanna be. In fact, there are ten interviews in total: plenty of juicy inspiration to kick you in the butt and get you fired up!

Want a little taste of what they sound like?

Your wish is my command.

Below is a short excerpt of my interview with Danielle LaPorte, who gives her advice on what to do if you feel totally stuck, how to take the first step when you’re unsure what it should be, and how focussing on how you feel can grant you freedom and sovereignty.

Danielle LaPorte + Miracle Worker

As you can probably imagine, it only gets spicier from there! For any Miracle Workers reading, this interview is the first one you’ll receive next week… I can’t wait for it to land in your inbox! Ooh YES.

Miracle Worker registration closes on Sunday, and we’d love you to join us!

Much love,

Photo of Gala by Made U Look. Photo of Danielle by Catherine Just.

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A Magical Astrology Retreat In Tulum…

Astrology Retreat With The Astrotwins

Last week, I traded my apartment in the East Village for a casita at Shambala Petit on the Yucatán Peninsula in Mexico. The wail of sirens and the clanging of garbage trucks was replaced by the sound of the Caribbean kissing perfect white sand. Sweet ocean breezes cooled our flushed skin, peacocks strutted past, and we danced like goddesses every morning.

It was an amazing trip. I had flown down to Cancun, then driven two hours to Tulum to attend an astrology retreat held by the Astrotwins. We spent a week learning about the stars and planets, and how their cycles affect our lives. It was the perfect place to do so. In Tulum, the stars feel amplified, swimming in a deep, inky blue sky. As we worked magic, laughed and skinny-dipped in the ocean below, we were illuminated by the glow of the Moon and the sparkle of Venus.

I’m missing my star sisters so much, so I couldn’t resist making this little video of some of our adventures. (If you’re viewing this in your inbox, here’s the video link!)

 

Want to join us next year? I’m returning for more radical self love goodness (YES!) and so is my Virgo sister Kitty Cavalier (who will be teaching Qoya and sacred seduction). The dates are April 2nd through 8th 2016… Put it in your calendar and then email the Astrotwins to secure your spot!

See you there…

P.S. This is the last week of registration for Miracle Worker! On May 4th we’re jumping into 8 weeks of class to help you create a magical, meaningful career. Don’t forget to join us!

P.P.S. The song is Sleepwalking by Mariachi El Bronx.

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Carousel: Love Spells, Ingredients For Witches, And Diets Vs Feminism

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Happy Friday! It’s the end of a long, wonderful week in Mexico for me, and this afternoon I’ll be heading back to New York City. I’ve hardly touched my computer since I arrived last Saturday, and it has been totally blissful!

Below you’ll find a few of the best things I read this month… Enjoy!

James Altucher is awesome. I liked these 29 Altucher truisms to help us be better free agents.

11 Easy-To-Find Ingredients Every Aspiring Witch Needs. Some of the most potent ingredients for magic can actually be found in your local grocery store!

Free the nipple! And why not, I ask you?

The complete and logical guide to winning at your own life in 19 super difficult steps. Excellent stuff. As Paul says, “Don’t go into fuck debt!”

Seth Godin on self-talk and how to deal with criticism.

What happens when you take a break from email? It turns out: the world doesn’t stop spinning!

Try the Bhavana love spell! Mystic is the best.

Read this if everything sucks. I love this post, it is so good. Bookmark it, forward it to your friends, print it out and stick it to your fridge.

Here’s how to be a magnet and attract anything you want.

The Shut-In Economy. This article is a good, smart and critical look at what it means when we can get everything we’ve ever wanted just by punching a few buttons.

In 1998, Carnegie Mellon researchers warned that the internet could make us into hermits… The perfect cycle of productivity and consumption is created— and all without ever having to step outside.

The science of saving your sex life.

What Katie Holmes didn’t know. Oh, Scientology! Also, the disappearing wife.

The science of why you should spend your money on experiences, not things.

Louis Theroux’s new documentary is about transgender children and this interview with him is great. I love Louis!

There used to be a secret tunnel linking the Playboy Mansion to Jack Nicholson’s house! Also the homes of James Caan, Warren Beatty, and Kurt Douglas. What!

In celebration of old-school LiveJournal. SO MANY FEELINGS!

I loved these 20 career tips from female entrepreneurs.

Dear social media, it’s not you, it’s me. LOVE this.

Art, periods, and censorship on social media. In short: Instagram is effed up.

Radiohead’s old sites from the late 90s were awesome. I remember a few of them — a trip down memory lane for sure!

Here’s a personal stagnation flow-chart. (Could also be called, How Stagnant Are You?)

The prosperity gospel of Rihanna.

Eat. Pray. Roll.

“The rise of ‘molly’ is in tune with how people are feeling emotionally,” he says. “As we move more and more electronic, people are extremely hungry for the opposite.”

No kids for me, thanks.

This shouldn’t be shocking, but some women wear the same thing to work every single day. Here’s one woman’s story…

Longtime couple found that clothes didn’t make the man. Aw!

Smiling changes how you view the world!

Why does everyone look hotter in sunglasses? (Explained by science!)

Joni Mitchell believes she is suffering from Morgellons disease… But the medical community doesn’t believe it even exists, and the woman who discovered the disease has vanished into thin air.

What happens when rich people marry poor people? So interesting.

How do you make other people feel? Your affective presence could be as much a part of your disposition as, say, optimism or pessimism.

Facebook has rolled out some new suicide-prevention features, and the response so far has been good.

Sometimes being tired makes you more creative.

For young women, not having children has become the rational decision.

Millennial women don’t want it all. The Sheryl Sandberg model of balancing career and family has made a lot of sense for some mothers but may resonate less for younger women who simply don’t want to juggle ballet recitals with boardroom meetings. For most young women, working is not an option — it’s a necessity. Some data even shows that young women today focus on their career more than their male counterparts. That shift has had a significant impact on women’s family decisions; because young women today rank their career as more important than it has ever been for their demographic, having children has become an option instead of a prerequisite for a fulfilling adulthood.

Lane Bryant is throwing a bit of shade at Victoria’s Secret with its new campaign… And it’s awesome.

A little exposure to Buddhism makes you more tolerant and inclusive.

James Deen, Life Coach: I Asked Porn’s Biggest Male Star to Help Solve My Dry Spell.

Casual Sex Made Me Feel Manipulated, Until I Learned to Ask for What I Want.

The scrapyard where gods go to die… And be reborn.

What’s it like to be allergic to Wi-Fi? Ugh, this is so horrifying, like an invisible nightmare.

STAY TRUE: how to deal with being different.

Before Lena Dunham, there was Anaïs Nin – now patron saint of social media. The idea that Anaïs Nin could be widely regarded as inspirational would have been unthinkable even a few years ago – but the internet turned her work around.

Kama Sutra for the cramped studio apartment. Hahah.

Maybe no one has a real sex drive. Very interesting!

Are diets the enemy of feminism? What do you think?

“Feminism often gets into an unappealing cul-de-sac where there’s this set of practices or beliefs that you have to be part of to be a good feminist. Interestingly, that’s not very different from more conventional forms of social policing.” — Naomi Wolf

Why do we still have to justify the choice to be child-free? (Being child-free was a definite hot topic on the internet this month…)

Neil Strauss’ piece on Like Culture is fantastic.

Here are the top 5 things you can do to improve your skin. Bow down to Caroline Hirons!

Chasing Adrenaline and Childhood Memories at Six Flags Magic Mountain. I loved this piece. I felt like I was actually weightless and on a rollercoaster based on her descriptions!

Admit it: your fave is problematic.

Nobody is a perfect example of civil rights virtue. If you aren’t screwing up, you aren’t trying.

Enthusiasm and contempt are both self-fulfilling. Amen to that!

Here are the 12 types of photographs you’ll find on Instagram. HAHA!

How contouring took all the fun out of getting made up.

Stop using wipes! I used to use them compulsively… But now I know better, and you should too! (They’re bad for the environment, they don’t actually clean your face properly, and they’re totally non-essential. Use a washcloth!)

Ask yourself if your hands and vagina really need to smell like a Glade Plug-in to pass muster!

Thanks, Ashley Judd, for taking on your Twitter trolls.

What part of “No, totally” don’t you understand?! Mmmm, linguistics.

Valentino on Diana Vreeland (my favourite).

Science has discovered why your parents hate your music, and why all parents will always hate what their kids listen to.

Forensic linguistics is awesome.

Why aren’t there more female Uber and Lyft drivers? Put simply: there aren’t enough protections put in place for drivers.

Why do jerks show up in your life? Preach it, Danielle!

Five steps to digital hygiene.

In Los Angeles, you don’t matter. You’re free.

This is what iconic paintings would look like if they were Photoshopped to fit today’s ideals.

Here’s how courts treat consensual cannibals.

Technology can help you meditate! Great app round-up.

Lena Dunham Tackles The Stigma Of Mental Health With A Workout Selfie. “It ain’t about the ass, it’s about the brain.”

I watched this excellent (old) documentary, No One Dies In Lily Dale (free streaming at that link). It’s about Lily Dale, NY, a town full of mediums who channel spirits, and, of course, it is amazing. Also, I need to go and hang out with the woman who lives in the pink house! So cool. I’ve wanted to visit Lily Dale for ages and now even more so! See Lily Dale Assembly for more info.

Blogging changed Shauna’s life!

This feminist retailed charges women less to acknowledge the wage gap.

And finally, the trailer for the Amy Winehouse documentary has been released. Get ready to feel some feelings…

 

I love you!

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