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Happy Friday! It’s the end of a long, wonderful week in Mexico for me, and this afternoon I’ll be heading back to New York City. I’ve hardly touched my computer since I arrived last Saturday, and it has been totally blissful!

Below you’ll find a few of the best things I read this month… Enjoy!

James Altucher is awesome. I liked these 29 Altucher truisms to help us be better free agents.

11 Easy-To-Find Ingredients Every Aspiring Witch Needs. Some of the most potent ingredients for magic can actually be found in your local grocery store!

Free the nipple! And why not, I ask you?

The complete and logical guide to winning at your own life in 19 super difficult steps. Excellent stuff. As Paul says, “Don’t go into fuck debt!”

Seth Godin on self-talk and how to deal with criticism.

What happens when you take a break from email? It turns out: the world doesn’t stop spinning!

Try the Bhavana love spell! Mystic is the best.

Read this if everything sucks. I love this post, it is so good. Bookmark it, forward it to your friends, print it out and stick it to your fridge.

Here’s how to be a magnet and attract anything you want.

The Shut-In Economy. This article is a good, smart and critical look at what it means when we can get everything we’ve ever wanted just by punching a few buttons.

In 1998, Carnegie Mellon researchers warned that the internet could make us into hermits… The perfect cycle of productivity and consumption is created— and all without ever having to step outside.

The science of saving your sex life.

What Katie Holmes didn’t know. Oh, Scientology! Also, the disappearing wife.

The science of why you should spend your money on experiences, not things.

Louis Theroux’s new documentary is about transgender children and this interview with him is great. I love Louis!

There used to be a secret tunnel linking the Playboy Mansion to Jack Nicholson’s house! Also the homes of James Caan, Warren Beatty, and Kurt Douglas. What!

In celebration of old-school LiveJournal. SO MANY FEELINGS!

I loved these 20 career tips from female entrepreneurs.

Dear social media, it’s not you, it’s me. LOVE this.

Art, periods, and censorship on social media. In short: Instagram is effed up.

Radiohead’s old sites from the late 90s were awesome. I remember a few of them — a trip down memory lane for sure!

Here’s a personal stagnation flow-chart. (Could also be called, How Stagnant Are You?)

The prosperity gospel of Rihanna.

Eat. Pray. Roll.

“The rise of ‘molly’ is in tune with how people are feeling emotionally,” he says. “As we move more and more electronic, people are extremely hungry for the opposite.”

No kids for me, thanks.

This shouldn’t be shocking, but some women wear the same thing to work every single day. Here’s one woman’s story…

Longtime couple found that clothes didn’t make the man. Aw!

Smiling changes how you view the world!

Why does everyone look hotter in sunglasses? (Explained by science!)

Joni Mitchell believes she is suffering from Morgellons disease… But the medical community doesn’t believe it even exists, and the woman who discovered the disease has vanished into thin air.

What happens when rich people marry poor people? So interesting.

How do you make other people feel? Your affective presence could be as much a part of your disposition as, say, optimism or pessimism.

Facebook has rolled out some new suicide-prevention features, and the response so far has been good.

Sometimes being tired makes you more creative.

For young women, not having children has become the rational decision.

Millennial women don’t want it all. The Sheryl Sandberg model of balancing career and family has made a lot of sense for some mothers but may resonate less for younger women who simply don’t want to juggle ballet recitals with boardroom meetings. For most young women, working is not an option — it’s a necessity. Some data even shows that young women today focus on their career more than their male counterparts. That shift has had a significant impact on women’s family decisions; because young women today rank their career as more important than it has ever been for their demographic, having children has become an option instead of a prerequisite for a fulfilling adulthood.

Lane Bryant is throwing a bit of shade at Victoria’s Secret with its new campaign… And it’s awesome.

A little exposure to Buddhism makes you more tolerant and inclusive.

James Deen, Life Coach: I Asked Porn’s Biggest Male Star to Help Solve My Dry Spell.

Casual Sex Made Me Feel Manipulated, Until I Learned to Ask for What I Want.

The scrapyard where gods go to die… And be reborn.

What’s it like to be allergic to Wi-Fi? Ugh, this is so horrifying, like an invisible nightmare.

STAY TRUE: how to deal with being different.

Before Lena Dunham, there was Anaïs Nin – now patron saint of social media. The idea that Anaïs Nin could be widely regarded as inspirational would have been unthinkable even a few years ago – but the internet turned her work around.

Kama Sutra for the cramped studio apartment. Hahah.

Maybe no one has a real sex drive. Very interesting!

Are diets the enemy of feminism? What do you think?

“Feminism often gets into an unappealing cul-de-sac where there’s this set of practices or beliefs that you have to be part of to be a good feminist. Interestingly, that’s not very different from more conventional forms of social policing.” — Naomi Wolf

Why do we still have to justify the choice to be child-free? (Being child-free was a definite hot topic on the internet this month…)

Neil Strauss’ piece on Like Culture is fantastic.

Here are the top 5 things you can do to improve your skin. Bow down to Caroline Hirons!

Chasing Adrenaline and Childhood Memories at Six Flags Magic Mountain. I loved this piece. I felt like I was actually weightless and on a rollercoaster based on her descriptions!

Admit it: your fave is problematic.

Nobody is a perfect example of civil rights virtue. If you aren’t screwing up, you aren’t trying.

Enthusiasm and contempt are both self-fulfilling. Amen to that!

Here are the 12 types of photographs you’ll find on Instagram. HAHA!

How contouring took all the fun out of getting made up.

Stop using wipes! I used to use them compulsively… But now I know better, and you should too! (They’re bad for the environment, they don’t actually clean your face properly, and they’re totally non-essential. Use a washcloth!)

Ask yourself if your hands and vagina really need to smell like a Glade Plug-in to pass muster!

Thanks, Ashley Judd, for taking on your Twitter trolls.

What part of “No, totally” don’t you understand?! Mmmm, linguistics.

Valentino on Diana Vreeland (my favourite).

Science has discovered why your parents hate your music, and why all parents will always hate what their kids listen to.

Forensic linguistics is awesome.

Why aren’t there more female Uber and Lyft drivers? Put simply: there aren’t enough protections put in place for drivers.

Why do jerks show up in your life? Preach it, Danielle!

Five steps to digital hygiene.

In Los Angeles, you don’t matter. You’re free.

This is what iconic paintings would look like if they were Photoshopped to fit today’s ideals.

Here’s how courts treat consensual cannibals.

Technology can help you meditate! Great app round-up.

Lena Dunham Tackles The Stigma Of Mental Health With A Workout Selfie. “It ain’t about the ass, it’s about the brain.”

I watched this excellent (old) documentary, No One Dies In Lily Dale (free streaming at that link). It’s about Lily Dale, NY, a town full of mediums who channel spirits, and, of course, it is amazing. Also, I need to go and hang out with the woman who lives in the pink house! So cool. I’ve wanted to visit Lily Dale for ages and now even more so! See Lily Dale Assembly for more info.

Blogging changed Shauna’s life!

This feminist retailed charges women less to acknowledge the wage gap.

And finally, the trailer for the Amy Winehouse documentary has been released. Get ready to feel some feelings…

 

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20 Things To Write About When You’re Totally Stuck

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As much as I believe that creating useful, helpful content is important to keep a blog ticking over — see this post, for example! — I have to agree when people say blogging has become a little, well, dull.

Let me tell you something, young whippersnapper. I’ve been doing this — in some form or another — since 1997. Back in the early days of blogging, we called it online journalling… And it was sweet. It was wild and unrestrained. People told the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, and it was glorious. It was ill-advised, a bit dangerous, and oh so much fun.

I understand that it’s important to position yourself as an authority online, but let’s be honest: it’s not that enjoyable to be constantly circled by so-called experts on this and that. When it comes to blogging, I want to know you as a person. Let me see your guts! So even if you’re still hung up on wanting to be useful, I encourage you to inject something a little more personal into your content. It will make everything much more rich, dynamic and thrilling, and I promise your readers will appreciate the change of pace.

Here are some prompts, and a few little anecdotes from my own life.

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Shauna and I on the rooftop of my first NY apartment, July 9 2008. This moment was when I knew Shauna and I would know each other for a very long time.

Write about what it was like when you first met your best friend.
What were you each wearing? What city were you in? Was it a chance encounter? What did you talk about? When did you know that this person was going to be very special to you?

Write about the best day of your life.
Did you know it was going to be the best day of your life ahead of time? What happened? Why was it so amazing? What effect did that day have on the rest of your life?

Write about something you regret.
What mistakes have you made that you wish you could take back? Did you get hurt? Did you hurt someone else? How would you do it differently now? What’s the silver lining?

Write a letter to yourself 10 years ago.
Where were you at in life? How did you feel? Were you about to be blindsided by something? Would you warn, encourage, or tell yourself off?

Write about what you loved to wear when you were 15.
What did you wear? Where did it come from? What did it signify to you? Did it help you fit in with a certain group — and distance you from another?

 Write about what comes to mind when you smell a certain fragrance.
How do you feel when you smell the perfume you wore when you were 20, your mother’s hairspray, or your childhood home?

Santorini. It’s jaw-droppingly gorgeous. I had never seen so many shades of blue.

Write about the most beautiful place you’ve ever seen.
Where were you? What did it look like? What colours did you see? Who else was there? What made it so beautiful?

Write about the most difficult choice you made.
Was it a split-second decision or was it premeditated? What made it so difficult? What were the repercussions? How did it all turn out?

Write about the highlights of your adolescence.
Who were your friends? What constituted your idea of fun? What bands did you listen to? What adventures did you go on?

Write about your favourite musician.
Who is it? When did you start listening to them? Why does their music resonate more than anyone else’s? Have you ever met them in person? What was that like?

Write about how you’d like your life to look when you’re 93.
What are your hopes and dreams for the (very distant) future? How would you like to dress? What will your house look like? What will you do with your time?

Write down all the interesting things you see on a walk around your neighbourhood.
Jot down everything: bright pink cherry blossoms, weird dogs in sweaters, weird people in sweaters, abandoned furniture, decaying signs…

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I love The Magician: it is all about fresh beginnings, new hope, renewed purpose. It’s one of my favourite cards to see.

 Write about your favourite tarot card.
Which is your favourite tarot card to pull out of a deck? Why? What does its symbolism mean to you?

 Write about a simple decision that changed the course of your life forever.
What small choices have you made that dramatically altered your existence? Did you know how much of an impact it would have at the time?

 Write totally new lyrics to one of your favourite songs.
Make it silly, make it personal… Just have fun with it!

 Write whatever you would write if you knew no one would ever read it.
If you were the last person left on earth, what would you finally put down in writing?

 Write about something you never expected to see.
What has surprised, delighted or shocked you? What did it look like? How did it change your perspective?

 Write about the sense (sight, sound, smell, touch, taste) you treasure most.
Which sense are you most thankful to have, and why? Why do you favour it over the others? Has your opinion changed over time?

 Write about something you no longer believe.
What’s something you used to fervently believe, but don’t anymore? When did you change your mind?

 Write about something you love.
What do you totally adore? What makes it so special? How does it light you up and how does it make you feel?

I hope this gives you a few ideas to get a little more personal on your blog! Don’t be afraid to share: we want to know the true you!

Kisses,

P.S.

 

 

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Tell Us About Your Worst Job EVER And Win A Miracle Worker Scholarship!

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Ellen and I created Miracle Worker because we believe life is too short to do work you don’t love. This is not merely some feel-good platitude — it’s something we’ve both experienced in our own lives. Between the two of us, we’ve started seven businesses, hired and collaborated with dozens of people, and raised — and reached — millions. Believe us when we say that doing work that fulfills you is one of the fastest ways to live the life of your dreams.

The class has been selling like hotcakes and the excitement in our private Facebook group is palpable! It’s always such a delight to receive a positive response to any project, and this is no exception.

Now we want to reward you for your enthusiasm! We’re offering five Miracle Worker scholarships to five lucky babes, and entering is easy!

To enter, be sure to like our Facebook page and then comment on this post telling us about your worst job ever! We’ll be awarding bonus points for hilariously cringeworthy anecdotes, photographic evidence of hideous uniforms, and teeth-gnashing details.

We’ll be choosing our “best of the worst” on Sunday night (the 26th of April), so if you’d like to be part of our Miracle Worker class, don’t dilly-dally! (And feel free to pass this post onto a friend who is stuck in a dead-end job and could use some help!)

There’s only two weeks left before registration closes for good, and then class opens on May 4th. I’m chomping at the bit to get cracking, and I’d love to see you work your miracles.

Love FOREVER (and don’t you forget it!),

Photo by Made U Look Photography.

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New Moon Magic: April 2015

New Moon Magic: April 2015

Aloha, magical kittens! Well, it’s that time again: time to clear our minds and hearts, to take a look at the the cycles of our lives, and reset our intentions. Remember, if you want to share the way you celebrated this New Moon with our #radicalselflovecoven, be sure to snap a picture and hashtag it!

The New Moon kicks off tomorrow, and it’s going to be gorgeous. No matter where you are on the planet, I encourage you to harness this energy: it is potent, powerful and glorious! As always, Mystic Medusa gives an astrological overview below, and I’ve got suggestions to help you make the most of what’s going on in the sky!

New Moon Magic: April 2015

NEW MOON IN ARIES: APRIL 18/19

L.A. – Saturday at 10.57am
NEW YORK – Saturday at 1.57pm
LONDON – Saturday at 6.57pm
DUBAI – Saturday at 9.57pm
HONG KONG – Sunday at 1.56am
SYDNEY – Sunday at 4.57am

IN THE SKY… (Mystic Medusa)

FINALLY, a New Moon that is not an Eclipse nor even remotely connected with the Zap Zone (Uranus square Pluto mid-2012 until early 2015) that is now behind us and soon to be receding into the distance.

By now whatever revolutionary upheaval in your life it was that you needed is most likely done with and you’re now setting about the hard but awesome work of building the new paradigm.

Happily, this New Moon ushers in the most amazing ten days for building anything. A Grand Earth synergy blesses rebuilt rapport, new or rapidly improving relationships, shoring up home security and domestic stability or the making of money via a rebooted attitude toward prosperity.

It’s sensual, avaricious and grounded.

There ARE some Mars-Venus squares around the New Moon so if you’re basing your assessment of an attraction or a romance on dodgy data, you find out by the New Moon. But it’s not drastic astrology – it’s just SO good for self-actualisation that you’re not going to drag anyone unsuitable into this fab new terrain with you.

New Moon Magic: April 2015

ON THE GROUND… (Gala Darling)

This has been a big transitional period for many of us. By now, you probably know what it is you need to do to evolve, and to align your day-to-day life with your vision and values. Like Mystic said, this is a wonderful time to do this — you are being totally supported by the Universe. Take a big breath, and start making plans!

MAKE A VISION BOARD

One of the fastest ways to bring your dreams to reality is to create a vision board. Don’t be intimidated by the name, they’re easy to make: it’s basically just a collage! You can either cut clippings out of magazines, or get really specific and use Pinterest or Google Image Search to find photos of the exact things you want. Tempting though it may be to make a digital vision board, there is something extra-magical about cutting out the pictures, sticking them down, and shaking a little glitter on it!

For bonus points, take a photo of your vision board, and set it as your wallpaper on your computer and phone. You’ll draw those things towards you with lightning speed!

GET INTO NATURE

This is a very grounded New Moon, so embrace that. Instead of meditating on a cushion, go outside! Instead of living in your headphones, listen to the song of the birds. Take off your shoes and scrunch your toes in the grass or the sand, give yourself a mud mask, pick flowers, buy some new crystals, spend time in a garden or up a tree. It will feel great to get connected with the Earth in a real way.

DO YOUR BEST ARIES IMPRESSION

Aries know how to make things happen. To celebrate the New Moon in Aries, try these…

Honour your head! Aries rules the head, so do something that makes you feel like you’re worshipping your own noggin. Try a radical scalp massage, wearing a beautiful flower crown, or spraying your hair with perfume!

Move your body! Dance ecstatically, go for a swim, jump a fence into your neighbour’s yard and “borrow” their trampoline for a little bit. It’ll feel incredible.

Do some brainstorming. Aries loves to invent and create new things, so harness this energy to get those creative juice flowing.

Own your decisions. You don’t need to apologise to anyone else for feeling the way you do, or wanting the things you want. It’s your life, and you are allowed to live it however you want!

Just start! No matter what you want to do next, take one little step towards making it happen. Remember, absolutely everything is progress.

I’m going to be spending my New Moon on a beach in Mexico… With a flower crown on my head, my toes in the sand, and a big smile on my face. I hope your New Moon is sensational. If you give any of these suggestions a try, I’d love to see what you get up to! Just post your photos to Instagram with the hashtag #radicalselflovecoven!

With love,

P.S. Mystic is on the cusp of creating month-long subscriptions, so if you want to pop in and out — check your Tarot, get the Scopes — but you’re not ready to commit, you can! It should be up and running by the end of April. Keep your eyes on her site, although you should be doing that already!

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How To Find Meaningful Work: The Miracle Worker Q&A

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On Sunday, Ellen and I held a Miracle Worker hangout to answer many questions you guys had about career, surviving a job you hate, and figuring out what you should do with your life!

It was great fun, and if you missed the live event, it was recorded in its entirety! Click below to watch. (If you’re viewing this via email, you’ll need to click through to see the video.)

 

Hopefully, this video will give you some clarity around what your next moves should be. Now, go out there and kick some ass!

Don’t forget, Miracle Worker kicks off on May 4th, and if you’re thinking about signing up, we’d recommend doing it sooner rather later! (Awesome friendships are already being formed in the Facebook group, and being firmly entrenched in our community will make the class experience way more fun.)

Kisses,

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