Live Without Fear And Fall In Radical Self-Love… My Interview In The Hay House World Summit!


Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how we learn. Some people take the slow and steady (and prideful) approach, determined to discover everything on their own. Others seek out the very best teachers and make massive strides — and huge improvements — in a short amount of time.

This was reinforced by a post I read about Tony Hawk a couple of days ago:

“When he started there was an entire generation of teachers who came before him who were able to teach him his first tricks. There’s an important reason that the world champion marathon runner in the 1890s would barely make the time to qualify for the Boston Marathon now. Because training technique gets better. So you can either spend years figuring out the better training techniques on your own. Or you can find the teachers who can show you in a few hours.” — James Altucher

We all have areas in our lives that we struggle with: physical fitness, emotional intelligence, relationships, connection, managing our money, loving ourselves… The list goes on and on. I am a huge believer in upgrading my skills by learning from experts. I am not interested in making incremental improvements. I want to soak it all up like a sponge and become exponentially better. That’s why I work with a personal trainer, it’s why I take classes and see coaches. I don’t want to muddle through things slowly. Life is short — why not get the most bang for your buck?

That’s why I’m so excited to tell you about The Hay House World Summit. It’s just about to get started, and I know you’re going to love it.

Now, let’s be real: the internet is full of summits, and I get asked to participate in a new one every single day. I always say no! This is the one exception. When it comes to creating a magical life, living in authenticity, and being joyful, Hay House authors have it locked down. There are a lot of so-called “experts” out there, but these people are the real deal and they know what they’re talking about. If you’re going to learn from someone, why not the best?

Hay House World Summit has 100 experts talking about all the good stuff: physical, mental and emotional health, spirituality, prosperity, relationships and self-empowerment. I’m absolutely delighted to be featured alongside Deepak Chopra, Julia Cameron, Louise Hay, Doreen Virtue, Dr Wayne Dyer, Eckhart Tolle and Iyanla Vanzant — I mean, WOW! — and to be with my friends Gabby Bernstein, Kris Carr, Gail Larsen, Mike Dooley, and Lodro Rinzler. And that isn’t even a fraction of the awesome line-up.

My interview — Live Without Fear and Fall in Radical Self-Love — was conducted by the fabulous Jessica Ortner, and it goes live in the first week of the summit. We went really deep in talking about radical self love, tapping, giving advice to our younger selves, and creating magic every single day. It was such a fun interview, and I know you’ll get a lot out of it.

If you’re keen, the Hay House World Summit starts on May 7th. If you register before then, you’ll get four audio lessons to get you started, including a kickass talk by Marianne Williamson (who I saw speak live for the first time last week and she blew my mind). These first four lessons disappear on May 7th, and you won’t get them unless you register now, so just do it, won’t you?!

Oh, and did I mention the whole thing is FREE?! Hell to the yes!


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Astrology: “It’s Like Walking Around With X-Ray Vision!”


Where do I even begin when it comes to talking about the AstroTwins? I’ve known these raunchy Sagittarians since I first moved to New York City, and our friendship has gone from strength to strength. From psychedelic ice-cream trips in the Mexican jungle to late-night karaoke adventures on the Lower East Side, I always know that when I spend time with them, the laughter will flow thick and fast, and I’ll go home feeling more illuminated than I did.

When I first started dreaming about Radical Self Love Coven, the AstroTwins were the first people that I knew I wanted onboard as teachers. I learned how to read astrological charts from them firsthand last year in Tulum, and they made it so easy — and so much fun! — that there was no question that they were the right babes to teach the astrology segment.

And that’s exactly what the Coven will be learning in September: how to read our own — and other people’s — astrological charts. Before I learned to read charts, I thought astrology was cool, but I could take or leave it. Being able to read a chart changed everything for me. The proof became irrefutable. I am so excited for my fellow witch babies to have the same experience!

Now, without further ado, here are the AstroTwins in their own words, talking about why astrology is awesome and why it matters.

1. Tell us who you are and what you do.
We are professional astrologers and horoscope columnists for ELLE Magazine, Refinery29, Audible and other places. We started our website in 2002 and it now reaches millions of people monthly with daily, weekly and monthly horoscopes. We have also written four books about astrology, including a parenting guide (Momstrology) and an astro-encyclopedia about the men of every sign (Love Zodiac).

2. What was it that drew you to astrology? What is it that keeps you interested in it?
We’ve always been fascinated by what makes people tick, probably because we are twins and since the womb have been “in relationship” with another person. We started learning more about the zodiac signs while studying art at The University of Michigan, and found that people really fit their signs. Ophi’s college boyfriend got her chart done as a gift and it was so damn accurate that we were hooked. From there we started doing friends’ charts and the obsession took hold. What keeps us interested is that there is an endless amount to learn (which our Scorpio moons love), and that astrology is such an incredible tool for understand the psyche, motives, behavior and personalities of people. It’s like walking around with X-Ray vision or a magic decoder ring.

3. What’s the first thing you would tell someone who is interested in astrology?
Practice! Start reading about the signs then matching them up with people you know. You’ll get a sense of the profile as you see patterns and common traits. If you’re skeptical, do your full chart (you can do a free one on our site here). Once you know your moon sign and rising sign, you start to get an even fuller picture of who you are.

4. Is there a common misconception people have about astrology? What do people think and what’s your perspective?
There are many, chief among them that we are victims of the stars rather than co-creators with the cosmos. But a big one is about compatibility. People say, “Oh, I’m an Aries, and that’s a fire sign, so I should date or get along with other fire signs.” No. Once you understand astrology, you have the tools to get along with anyone, because you get how they operate and you can create a dynamic that works, rather than creates conflict. Of course, some people would say that’s manipulative, but we’re not suggesting you change your personality or dim your shine so others feel comfortable. It’s more of a “live and let live” attitude, which empowers you to accept others for who they are… and aren’t!


5. Can you give us one example of a time when astrology really helped you, or produced amazing results?
A recent concrete example led us to quadruple our monthly revenues! We tapped into the wisdom of Saturn, which helped us exercise patience and persistence that we don’t naturally have. We are Sagittarians, and Saturn, the planet of structure and self-discipline, in our sign from 2015-17. Prior to this cycle, we wondered if we’d have to do some business revamping when Saturn arrived, and like clockwork we hired some pros to help with stuff like SEO and business development—things we had always done ourselves. It was scary, but we bit the bullet and invested. We had to be patient (Sags like instant gratification) but after a few months, our business made a quantum leap into this new level of stability and profitability. If we didn’t know about Saturn, we probably would not have made this investment, because it’s not the way we usually operate. But we are so glad we followed this cosmic coaching.

6. How can astrology enhance people’s lives?
For one thing, it’s an incredible tool for planning—you’re in tune with the cycles and you can swim upstream instead of fighting the tides. It’s also an eye-opening roadmap to self-awareness. The astrological chart is like the owner’s manual they say people don’t come with. It also creates a sense of certainty or security, minimizing the scary unknown that really keeps people stuck because they are afraid of making a mistake or a wrong move that will f**k up their whole lives. And we get it! There is a lot of stake, and people can’t afford to waste time in the wrong job, relationship, town, etc. But how do you know if it’s wrong or right? These are all questions that can be illuminated and guided by knowing astrology.

7. Do you believe that we create our own destiny and our own luck? How does astrology play into that?
Absolutely! We always have free will and are never victims of the stars. Even when a difficult planetary event occurs, we can still choose how we’ll react and respond to it. Will we implode or will we rise to the challenge and gain wisdom? Our hairdresser has a little card at her station that says “Falling down is part of life. Getting back up is living.” The stars are always giving us another chance to pull ourselves up and evolve our souls in the process.

8. What’s the best lesson you’ve learned from practicing astrology?
SO many, but one of our favorite parts of the chart are the destiny points, called the North and South Nodes. We are obsessed with teaching people about these because they bottom-line your purpose on the planet, and reveal what you were in past lives. The nodes have taught us that sometimes, the thing that you’re “naturally” good at is NOT the thing you’re meant to do with your life. Like if you’re a whiz at math and science, you may not actually feel fulfilled if you become a computer engineer. It could actually be something you did in many past lifetimes, so if you do it again, it’s like going back to high school even though you’ve already earned your spiritual PhD in this topic. So the best lesson is: challenge yourself! Life is not about coasting along and taking the easy road all the time. It demands courage, stretching ourselves and leaping over gaps to expand our comfort zones. We all have a karmic purpose and the adventure of life is discovering it. Astrology is one heck of a helpful map to take on your personal “hero’s journey.”

Love and stars,

P.S. Radical Self Love Coven closes in just a few hours! If you want to join us, this is the time! See you in The Temple…

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How To Use Crystals For More Love, Creativity, And Abundance!


Happy Friday! I hope you’re on the brink of a beautiful weekend. I’m sitting in bed listening to Views and trying to focus. Drake has so many feelings that it’s hard to do anything but pay attention to him! Haha!

Anyway, I wanted to share with you this video I did using Facebook Live the other day. It’s a mini-class on how to use crystals for more love, creativity, and abundance: how to pick your crystal, cleanse it, program it, and then use it. It was super-fun and the comments were flowing thick and fast! Just in case you missed the broadcast, I’ve embedded the video below.

I am on the edge of my seat waiting for Radical Self Love Coven to get started on Sunday! (The best way to celebrate Beltane, if you ask me!) Our first module is all about charms, energy and spellwork, taught by Tess Whitehurst. It’s 40 pages long, with weekly spell assignments, and I can’t wait to get started! The module looks gorgeous — see below — and I printed mine out and put it in a big binder. Mmmmm! Delicious!


If you want to join us on this very magical adventure, don’t forget that Radical Self Love Coven closes for enrollment on Saturday night (that’s tomorrow!). If you want to join us to learn about tarot, numerology, feng shui, astrology and spellwork, come throuuuuuuugh!

Magic and charms,

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How To Survive Mercury Retrograde!


Oh, Mercury retrograde. You are here, AGAIN. You have arrived on our collective doorsteps in all your messy glory. You are our dreaded but regular house-guest. You stagger in the door, kick over our furniture, leave crumbs all over the couch and hog the bathroom. Then, as quickly as you appeared, you disappear again, leaving us slightly stunned but much better equipped to continue with our own lives!

If you have no idea what I’m talking about, here we go. The planets are swinging around at all times, and their movements affect us all in different ways. All planets go retrograde, but Mercury’s journey seems to impact people much more than any other. (Even people who “don’t believe in astrology” often “believe” in the crazy aftershocks of Mercury retrograde!)

Why is that? It’s because Mercury rules communication, clear thinking, truth and travel, so when the planet goes retrograde — which means that it looks like it’s going backwards in the sky — all those things go backwards. They start to get ugly and tangle up. Mercury isn’t really going backwards, it’s just hanging out by the sun, but from Earth, that makes it look like it’s in reverse. It typically runs for a couple of weeks, a few times a year.

Check out these dates below and put them in your calendar!

In 2016, Mercury is retrograde from…
January 5th to January 25th
April 28th to May 22nd
August 30th to September 22nd
December 19th to January 28th (2017)

Note: We sometimes start to feel the effects of Mercury retrograde a few days early. It’s nice to give yourself a bit of leeway on either side of the prescribed dates!


All sorts of things! It’s like everyone you know has suddenly gone mad! You might find yourself getting into bizarre arguments about nothing at all, being unable to finish sentences or barely even able to form a coherent thought. Your computer and other electronic equipment is more likely to go on the fritz. You could experience travel delays, too. Double-check your flights and take a book with you to keep you occupied while you wait for the train! We don’t tend to get all the information we need at this time, so it can be hard to make big decisions and it’s not always the best time to sign a contract, either.

Expect to hear super-loud complaining from your friends who are Gemini or Virgo, since both are ruled by Mercury! Mercury also rules a lot of industries like publishing, writing, editing, advertising, sales, public relations and anything to do with transport, like airlines, the post office and cabs! This means it can be particularly rough for Gemini train conductors and Virgo magazine editors, so be kind to any you know!

I often find that Mercury retrograde makes me want to go into hermit mode. I feel like half my brain is missing so I’m really not that interested in interacting with anyone, plus every conversation seems to go in an unusual, confusing direction. I feel much more irritable and frustrated and things just don’t seem to go how I want them to.

So that’s the bad news. Mercury retrograde can be a total kick in the teeth for those of us who normally pride ourselves on having our karmic shit together! The GOOD news is that Mercury retrograde provides us with lots of beautiful opportunities if we can just tilt our head and squint.

Mercury retrograde wants us to move back spiritually. It is providing us with a chance to re-examine various areas of our life which may need a little more work, so that we can move forward to a bright new dawn. Now, more than ever, the time is right to look at things with clear eyes. Delicious, fresh perspectives are revealed. We often have major breakthroughs — intellectual, emotional or spiritual — during this time.

It’s also a terrific period in which to tie up loose ends. So many of us have unfinished projects… Maybe that door just needs another lick of paint, or you’ll decide to put away your ex-boyfriend’s love letters once and for all. Having said that, this is also a time where it’s very common for old lovers, friends and acquaintances to get in touch! If you hear from someone from your past, get together with them and see what eventuates!

One of the best ways to cope with it — as with anything, really — is to just “go with the flow”. When you fight Mercury retrograde, that’s when life gets really ugly. Just take some time, go slowly, be careful, don’t freak yourself out by expecting to be uber-productive-perfect right now. Be good to yourself and the people around you, now more than ever!


Be sure not to take things too personally. People will often say offensive things they didn’t mean around this time, because their thinking is clouded and their communication skills are on pause! If your best friend suddenly became the most insensitive person in the world, give her the benefit of the doubt.

Back up your data!

Don’t purchase any big ticket items, because they will often have flaws or issues that you weren’t aware of! Of course, life doesn’t stop just because of wacky planetary movement, so if you absolutely have to get that car, computer or iPhone, TRIPLE-check all the paperwork, and make sure you have a warranty!

Take things with a grain of salt. Everyone is a bit confused, and people are much more inclined to change their mind once Mercury goes direct. Mercury can be a bit of a trickster — could it be that the next few weeks are a big karmic joke?!

Read the small print on any contracts. Ask lots of questions. Again, you can’t put your life on hold just because of some silly planet, but adapt your lifestyle a bit so that things run more smoothly. Communication can be a mess right now, but do your best to get as much information as you can.

Finish things you started a while ago. Home improvement projects? Wardrobe re-organisation? Short stories? Love affairs?! This is an excellent time to tie up loose ends and file things away forever.

Get together with old friends, reminisce and laugh!

Double-check any information you’re given, especially as relates to travel arrangements! During one particularly formidable Mercury retrograde, I actually caught a cab to the wrong airport! Check times, delays, baggage allowances, reservations… everything!

Allow Mercury to nudge you in unusual directions. If you seem to find yourself “back to the future”, don’t just try to wriggle out of it — look at what the universe is trying to show you. What can you learn from this situation? This is a fantastic time to re-examine, accept and move on.

Use the things you’ve discovered in the past to create a dazzling new vision so that you’re ready to blast ahead when Mercury goes direct!

If you want more tips, read 10 Magical Ways To Make The Most Of Mercury Retrograde!

Fingers crossed for the next few weeks, and best of luck to you!

Love and sanity,

P.S. Hey, witch baby! Radical Self Love Coven enrollment closes in 3 days, and our first module — on charms, energy and spellwork — starts on Sunday! This is THE PLACE to be if you want to meet other magical babes and become more proficient in all things witchy. Click through for the details!

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Defining “Sexy”: What I Learned From Taking My Clothes Off Onstage


Portrait of the writer before stripping on stage for the first time.

When you’re asked to describe yourself to a perfect stranger, what do you say? What labels do you use? And perhaps most importantly, which labels do you dream of being able to use, but feel like they would be impossible to embody?

We all have a box we fit into which feels safe and comfortable, a place we’re happy dwelling in. Maybe “optimistic” is a label you feel good about, whereas “intelligent” is not. Or perhaps you’re the living embodiment of “clever”, but “beautiful” makes you cringe.

A label I could never even come close to identifying with was “sexy”. When people would use it, I just thought it was funny, and that they were slightly delusional. I was fine with being cute, weird, or funny — all labels that felt true to me. But sexy? No. Not even close!

I never saw myself as being hyper-feminine, even though for the last few years my wardrobe has been overrun with hot pink and high heels. Sometimes the way we think of ourselves doesn’t shift at the same rate as our outer appearance. I never felt beautiful in glasses, which I wore until I was 23 years old, and in some ways I still thought of myself as that person. I also struggled with an eating disorder for a long time, and I believe that was (at least partially) a response to my sexuality feeling unsafe.

I had some weird ideas about what sexy was. I saw it as something you do for other people, a kind of performance. Sexy wasn’t something you owned, it was something other people “gave” you, or something you staged for someone else’s benefit. I never wanted to do that. Even when I bought cute lingerie, it was for me, not whoever I was dating.

So, this year has been all about investigating the ways I see myself, the stories I recycle in my head, and asking myself, ‘Are those comfortable old habits helping or hindering me?’ I have been actively reprogramming my mind, and consistently pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I’ve been forced to see myself differently: not just my behaviour, but my physical body too. (Getting a breast augmentation has completely changed the way I see myself, much more than I anticipated.)

No lie: it has been exhausting and sometimes I just want to take a big nap. But it has also been rewarding and exhilarating to realise that, yes, I really can be whoever I want to be. I have been writing about the fact that we have the ability to craft our own reality and persona for years, and it is truly delightful to recognise that even after years of mindfully creating my life, I can still do a 180 and build something totally different. It has been amazing to discover that even though I have created so much, there is literally no cap on what I can change and do; that I can become the vision of myself I’ve been holding in my imagination for so long, but thought was impossible.

That person you want to be, and all the reasons why you can’t be her? It’s all in your head, and it always was.

I wanted to reclaim my body. I wanted to examine what it might feel like to feel “sexy”, to actually go there and try it, rather than being too embarrassed to even attempt it. For years, I had never accessed that part of myself because I thought I would look stupid, or feel stupid, or suck at it. So many of us do that in so many areas of our lives: we don’t even try because we think we might not — shock, horror — be perfect on a first attempt.

“Therapeutic mantra for the perfectionist introvert asked to do something new: NO EXPECTATIONS / ONLY EXPLORATION / YES IS TEMPORARY” — Clayton Cubitt

But perfect is bullshit. Perfect is the enemy. That’s what I was thinking as I made my way to my first class at the New York School Of Burlesque.

My dance history is not extensive. I attempted ballet as a 5-year-old and bailed out early! So I was definitely walking in with the lowest possible expectations. I just wanted to try it out and see what happened. I certainly didn’t expect to be good. In fact, I thought I would possibly be the worst in the class, but I was okay with that! I viewed the whole thing as an experiment, which, if nothing else, would make for a good story.

You can imagine my surprise when I discovered that learning a dance routine was really fun and — wonder of wonders — really easy! Standing in formation with a group of strangers and dancing to Tom Waits was awesome. I laughed the whole time. I couldn’t believe how much joy I felt!

So when, at the end of the class, our teacher said, “If any of you want to perform this in the student showcase in April, just let me know,” my whole body said YES. I was immediately excited. Terrified, of course, and slightly bewildered by how much I wanted to leap at the chance — I had taken ONE dance class and now I wanted to get up on stage?! — but thrilled.

I took just one more class, and before I knew it, I was applying false eyelashes and striding into The Slipper Room with a tote bag full of fishnet stockings and patent leather platforms.

Before the curtain went up, I stood onstage, back to the audience, giving myself a pep-talk. ‘It’s now or never,’ I told myself. ‘You will never be alive in this exact moment again. Be sexy and sassy and playful… Give the audience a show they never forget. Fully embody everything you’ve ever wanted to be. This is going to be awesome!’

The curtain went up, the audience went nuts, and the music started to play. My Venus in Leo came alive! I made eye contact with the crowd and took my time with every single move. I was, as Beyonce might say, feeling myself, and I felt no shame — just ecstasy. Time seemed to slow down, and I enjoyed every single moment.

I had been wrong about my definition of sexy. It is definitely something that you own — a power you can choose to wield at your own discretion. It comes from the inside, it’s not about trying to please anyone else. Being sexy is about revealing your inner radiance. When you are totally in your body and expressing yourself with joy, it feels so good, utterly unlike anything else.

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A snippet from our dress rehearsal.

Afterwards, I felt like a superhero; like my whole body was glowing. I was so proud of myself for trying something that terrified me and seemed so far outside of my comfort zone, and then taking that fear and performing in front of a crowd!

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The experience reminded me that we can do anything at any time. The only trick is to get fear and ego out of the way. Once you can do that, the possibilities for your life are literally endless.

I’m going back for more classes this week, and I can’t wait to perform again. There’s only one problem: I still need a stage name. Any suggestions?!

Love and false eyelashes,

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