7 March 2014, 10:11
It’s Friday, so let’s celebrate with something that will make you clap your hands and stomp your feet. Yes, I made you another mixtape! Hooray!
I don’t want to tell you what’s in this playlist. All I can say is that it’s full of delights from the past that will help you get through the day!
Hit play and enjoy your weekend!
I am still living with your… GHOST,
5 March 2014, 10:11
Does the word “sequin” make you think of the 80s, Dynasty, and big shoulder-pads? As much as I love a good paillette (noun | a piece of glittering material used to ornament clothing; a spangle), sometimes my mind goes there too. And when you find a great sequinned piece, it can be hard to know how to style it.
It’s the Great Sequin Conundrum: they can feel so dressy that you feel like there needs to be a jazz flute playing to do them any justice.
That’s kinda how I felt when this beautiful Lauren Moffatt gold sequinned pencil skirt came into my possession. I felt conflict. I thought, ‘This is gorgeous, but how do I wear it?!’ It was a real styling conundrum.
My answer came in the form of a $15 shirt from Forever 21. How unexpected, and how fabulous! Cream and black and gold is always a winner, and it’s fun to wear a pattern with something so unabashedly glamorous.
I guess the lesson here is, don’t be so precious about mixing your clothes together, and don’t forget to play with surprising combinations! This is truly a perfect outfit in which to sit on the grass and snap photos, or swan about your Palm Springs abode.
I’m wearing a shirt from Forever 21, the Lauren Moffatt Lazy Kate Sequin Mini c/o Cloak And Dagger (one of my favourite little boutiques in the East Village!), and Sam Edelman Warner Sandals (so comfortable! These will definitely be one of my summer staples this year). My rings are from my own jewellery collection, and my sunglasses are Celine.
Damn, that’s a good-lookin’ lawn!
Love and sequins,
Photos by Made U Look.
3 March 2014, 10:11
Mercury retrograde just ended — and it was a doozy — so it feels terribly unfair that now we’re being hit with a Mars retrograde! We experience Mars retrograde every second year, and it lasts for a while: typically between 70 and 80 days. Ouch.
In 2014, Mars is retrograde from March 1st to May 19th. Yes, that’s over two and a half months!
You may be asking, ‘What the hell is retrograde?’, so here’s a very basic explanation. When a planet is retrograde, that means it appears to be going backwards in the sky.
In astrology, each planet is associated with various aspects of life, so when a planet is retrograde, all of those aspects get a little screwy. For example, Venus rules beauty, love and art, so Venus retrograde can put a real dampener on your love life! Mercury rules communication, transportation and itty-bitty details, so Mercury retrograde is an awful time to sign a contract or travel the world. Every planet goes retrograde, but some seem to affect us more than others (or maybe we just notice it more).
So I bet you’re wondering, ‘What does Mars rule?’ Well, it rules sex, war, and new beginnings.
Here’s how to persevere!
Mars isn’t just the planet of sex and war, it’s also a planet that symbolises energy and vitality. It’s associated with Aries, and if you’ve ever met an Aries, you’ll know they love to fight, they love to get freaky in the sheets, and they have energy like no one you’ve ever known. Your typical Aries is like the Energiser Bunny… Except angry. So, during Mars retrograde, you can expect to have lower energy than usual. In fact, you might feel downright slothful.
Mars is a planet of action: it’s total “get ‘er done” energy. It makes sense, then, for Mars retrograde to be the opposite. You might find that new plans and projects just seem to come to a standstill. As much as you push, you could feel like you’re not making any headway. Frustrating? You betcha!
The astrological forecast is bickering with a chance of unexpected rage. Eek.
Keep an eye on your health. If you’re someone who bottles up their feelings, don’t be surprised if you find yourself feeling under the weather. Internalising your stress is bad for your health, you know!
During Mars retrograde, whoever initiates loses. Brutal! See below:
“With a new project, it will fizzle out and never really go anywhere. With a hot romance, it too fizzles and it rarely gets to the altar. With an argument, the hostility will come back to haunt you later. In legal matters, stoke your opponent into initiating the lawsuit first. It will be etched in granite that they will lose. In an international war, whoever fires first will automatically lose or ultimately withdraw. Matters commenced while Mars is retrograde will be frustrated and plagued with disruptions until they finally fizzle out.” (Lynn Koiner)
But it’s not all bad news. There are plenty of positive things that can come out of Mars retrograde!
You might just discover some benefits from putting those projects and plans on ice. Pump the brakes and take this time to be patient and make plans. It’s great energy for plotting world domination.
Since Mars represents strength and follow-through, consider planting seeds for the future. For example, you might like to start researching a new workout regimen, or investigating leads for a project. Don’t act now, you’ll probably just get held up, but start gathering information and get ready to spring into action!
Any kind of retrograde is a good time to go back and examine past behaviour or motives that are related to that planet. In the case of Mars retrograde, you might be appraising your anger, the way you defend yourself, the way you argue, your personal motivations, and how you operate in intimate relationships. Are you passive-aggressive? Do you have a history of hostility, or do you shrink from confrontation? Take a look at your past actions, and you may be surprised.
“Anger and its alter-egos — depression, fear, resentment and cynicism — are all common reactions to feeling overwhelmed and vulnerable. Learn to deal with these anger-reactions better and you’ll be able to deal with Mars better.” (Evolving Door Astrology)
Get ready to get your kink on: Mars retrograde is definitely a time when the lid can get blown right off any sexual desires that have been suppressed for too long! The same goes for untapped passions and ambitions. This can be scary and unexpected, but it can also be massively positive in terms of getting you in touch with your true self!
Sex with the ex? Yes, it can — and often does — happen!
Remember to be extra-kind to any Aries or Scorpios that you know. They may feel the effects of Mars retrograde even more strongly than the rest of us!
All of this being said, no matter what’s going on in the sky, it’s not the end of the world (well, unless the Sun explodes, I guess). I would argue that a lot of what goes on in your life — if not 100%! — is dependent on your attitude. It’s up to you as to how you choose to deal with any issues that come up. You could see them as stumbling blocks or building blocks. It’s totally your choice!
Here we go…
Photos by Ahmet Unver from L’Officiel Turkey.
28 February 2014, 10:11
It’s almost March and I’m getting excited! Spring is creeping ever closer and I’m aching to bust out my florals! This has been a particularly brutal Winter, and when you add Winter to a super-rough Mercury retrograde, well, it was not the best season of my life. But I’m thrilled: 2 more days of Mercury retrograde and we’re free!
Ahem. In other news, here are some of my favourite tidbits from the internet this month…
Is there any truth to Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People? Science says yes.
My Avatar, My Self is a great piece about how the public persona we create can overtake who we really are.
Are you a creatrix? Here’s Justine Musk’s take…
A creatrix can look past her own personal drama and understand how her story hooks into the bigger picture, the global system. She understands that when you change yourself, you inspire others to change, and the system has no choice but to change itself around you.
Tim Ferriss on how to get published.
Here’s a post from James Altucher, on how Louis CK and the Hare Krishnas use the same techniques to succeed… And why you should, too.
Has blogging changed? Definitely. Grace’s post on exactly how the blogging world has changed is absolutely on-the-money.
My dear friend Loulou interviewed me for her Be Your Own Magician series.
Magic is about learning to see with new eyes. It’s about flipping your perceptions and seeing the beauty. It’s connecting with the extraordinary in the everyday. And that doesn’t mean you have to do rituals or dance around with a wand in your hand: it was only last year that I realised I have been creating magic with my mind and my thoughts since I was a little girl.
Capitalism.blogspot.com, a little ditty about fashion blogging and cash.
Martha Stewart takes really ugly food photos.
From the New York Times: Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex? What do you think?
Want to know how to communicate more effectively? Here are 6 powerful tips from some of the World’s best interviewers.
It’s all over the internet, but in case you haven’t seen it, Ellen Page’s coming-out speech is definitely worth a watch.
Lindsay Botto’s post on selfie comments.
The authority people feel they have to share their opinion on my appearance is something myself and many other girls online deal with daily.
I love these Do Not Disturb signs from hotels all around the world!
People magazine won’t publish photos of celebrity children anymore. A small step towards sanity.
Soundboardt will fulfill all your Beyonce needs.
This little girl makes incredible dresses from paper.
Twitter, I Love You, But You’re Bringing Me Down. Some guidelines for living online.
The net doesn’t understand that people change, and doesn’t tolerate it — all growth is seen as hypocrisy.
Emma Watson helps us to find love. This is AWESOME.
It’s what you do every day that really counts. Here’s how to be successful just by improving your routines.
Want to learn how to thrive in an attention economy? You need to read this interview between Clayton Cubitt and Kim Boekbinder.
This is so right: Rebecca Solnit on our distracted existence:
Our lives are a constant swirl of information, of emails that can be checked on phones, and phones that are checked in theatres and bedrooms, for texts and news that stream in constantly. There is so much information that our ability to focus on any piece of it is interrupted by other information, so that we bathe in information but hardly absorb or analyse it. ... A restlessness has seized hold of many of us, a sense that we should be doing something else, no matter what we are doing, or doing at least two things at once, or going to check some other medium. It’s an anxiety about keeping up, about not being left out or getting behind.
Growing-up for goths. Punks grow out of it and ravers stop raving. Why do goths just carry on? Good question!
Witches flying on broomsticks? Turns out, they were hallucinating. Fascinating!
It’s official: Internet Trolls Really Are Horrible People. Narcissistic, Machiavellian, psychopathic, and sadistic. Well, no surprises there!
The world is an incredible place. Amusing Planet celebrates that fact.
University of Missouri now offers a class on Jay Z and Kanye West’s relationship. Huh!
Restrain Yourself. As fashion fetishizes fetish more than ever, it’s worth considering the power dynamics of our enduring obsession with bondage chic.
The universality of a love triangle. I found this one through Mystic Medusa, and it’s great!
More complex are the triangles which involve non-human companions. One partner may feel a sense of jealousy and betrayal about the other one’s dedication to work or artistic involvement or spiritual development. Such triangles can evoke exactly the same feelings of jealousy as the sexual variety. When one withdraws into a creative space, one has somehow “left” the person one lives with, and it can create enormous jealousy on the part of one’s partner. ... The one thing they have in common is the component of one or another variety of love, which, in a triangle, is no longer exclusive. And when we must share someone’s love, whether with another person or with something ineffable like the imagination or the spirit, we may feel betrayed, demeaned, and bereft.
10 Ways To Share Your Creativity and Get Discovered, lessons from Austin Kleon’s new book Show Your Work!
The anatomy of a magazine cover, or, why do all those terrible tabloids have yellow headlines? Now we know.
I like The Philosopher’s Mail. You might too.
If you’re hungry in the middle of the night in New York City, here are the ten best all-night restaurants. Empanada Mama, French Roast and Veselka are definitely a few of my favourites.
This diary of a custom love potion is glorious! Sounds like a Los Angeles must-do.
8 Lessons From Jeff Bezos And The Early Days Of Amazon. Awesome stuff.
Can you accelerate serendipity? YES!
Seth Godin on being an elitist:
We write history about people who were brave enough to lead, not those that figured out how to pander to the crowd. Elites aren’t defined by birth or wealth, they are people with a project, individuals who want to do work they believe in, folks seeking to make an impact. Averaging down everything we do so that it becomes cheap and ubiquitous and palatable to all is a hollow goal.
Here’s the frequency of some things in life.
If you’re still waiting to peak, relax. Major creative breakthroughs happen in your late thirties.
In Drag, It Turns Out, There Are Second Acts. I love a good RuPaul piece!
Someone donated $10,000 worth of flowers to a senior citizen home. It makes your heart melt, doesn’t it?
This Father Stood Up To The Entire Fashion Industry After Visiting A Makeup Aisle. This is one of the best things I’ve read in a while.
Choose your dream. But not from a department store shelf. Find the still-quiet place within you. A real dream has been planted there. Discover what you want to do in the world. And when you have chosen, may you faithfully pursue it, with integrity and with hope.
The Amtrak writer’s residency programme is one of the coolest ideas ever.
How dogs rescued me from an eating disorder. This one brought tears to my eyes.
Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect... And vice versa.
When’s the last time you read Si’s blog? Still one of my favourites.
If you’re in L.A., you should definitely attend LACMA’s live read series, where famous actors do a table reading of a great movie. Most recently, they did Pulp Fiction, with Joseph Gordon-Levitt as Vincent Vega, Lizzie Caplan as Mia Wallace, Jonah Hill as Butch, and Seth Rogen as drug-dealer Lance. So cool.
Barbies had so much sex, back in the day.
For some people hate and anger and bitterness and regret last for years. Sometimes the time it takes to heal a wound lasts longer than a lifetime. This is a waste of a lifetime. That’s ok also. Nobody is requiring you to have a fulfilling life. It’s totally your choice to waste your life.
On the internet’s empathy vacuum.
Things that exist: fruit salad trees!
Here are the four most-desired people in New York (according to OK Cupid).
More RuPaul awesomeness. (I loved the first episode of the new season on Monday!)
“We’re dealing with people who have been shunned by society and have made a life regardless of what anyone else thinks of them have decided,” RuPaul says. “It shows the tenacity of the human spirit, which each of us watching relates to. And we root for them. I think that’s what’s so captivating about it, seeing how these beautiful creatures have managed to prevail.”
Finally, the death of Charlotte Dawson was immensely sad. In contrast to a revolting piece published in the Herald, these are two fitting and loving stories: Little CD In A Prospect Of Flowers and Michele A’Court on Charlotte Dawson.
Photo of Hanna Koczewska from Bizuu S/S 2014 Campaign by Lukasz Pukowiec.
26 February 2014, 10:11
I’m perpetually impatient: it is one of my worst qualities. I want it now, if not sooner. It’s all very Veruca Salt. This natural predilection for restlessness becomes even more pronounced at the end of February. I’m so anxious for the weather to warm up that I want to jump out of my skin. I rarely make it to the end of winter before busting out the self-tanner (a weirdly optimistic activity, since I’m going to be seriously swaddled until at least April)!
This is definitely not a feeling that is unique to me. Cabin fever is real, people. So when your apartment feels too small, and you’re beyond bored, you need to bust on out of there and make some changes!
You could get out of the house and go on a staycation, for example, or you could change up your appearance… Or you could combine the two in a fun way!
That’s why, on Monday, I headed to Smyth, a Thompson Hotel to get ready for a romantic evening with my husband. I couldn’t resist surprising him by switching up my look, too!
1. Leave a note for your lover. Keep it simple and relatively mysterious…
2. Arrive at your home for the night. If a hotel is out of the question, peruse Airbnb for some excellent (and inexpensive) options. Once you get there, remove the box of Vidal Sassoon Pro Series from your overnight bag.
My hair was so damaged from being white and pink for such a long time that these days, I’m very wary of lightening it. It took me a year to grow my hair back strong and healthy! The London Luxe series is perfect, because it’s a rinse that can go over your natural colour, and lasts up to 8 weeks. Ideal for a fun short-term change!
I chose Vidal Sassoon Pro Series London Luxe Midnight Muse Blue, which gives brunettes a glorious splash of sapphire.
3. Change into a slip, or simply throw a towel around your shoulders, and get busy dying your hair! Don’t be intimidated, with Vidal Sassoon Pro Series London Luxe it couldn’t be easier!
There are only four steps: just mix the contents, then apply the colour evenly. Let it sit for a while: 30 minutes is recommended, though I left mine on for 45. Once the time is up, rinse it out in the shower. Simple!
BOOM! I was beyond thrilled with the result from this colour. It packs a mighty wallop! I love the way it shimmers blue when the light hits it: it’s subtle but very sexy. I will definitely be using this colour again. I can’t resist the navy blue shine!
4. Grin at yourself in the mirror, and tear yourself away from it long enough to get changed into something cute for your paramour! This dress is Orla Kiely and I bought it at Cloak And Dagger. Swoon-o-rama!
5. Wait for a knock on the door, and enjoy the look of surprise on your lover’s face. Then kiss ‘em!
6. Enjoy your staycation! Do whatever you want: that’s the whole point. (I suggest conspicuous use of the Do Not Disturb door tag!)
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They always say that a woman who changes her hair is about to change her life. When’s the last time you did something different with your hair? Maybe the time is nigh!