Giving Up The Ghost

[ 13 March 2007 ]

Why not stop reading about the lives of people you dislike?

Old friends who you have since fallen out of favour with…
Ex-lovers & their new partners…
Mindless celebrities…

I know the internet makes it all far too easy. But what are you gaining from keeping up with their lives? Doesn’t it ultimately just make you feel bad? Surely the time spent obsessing could be put to better use?

I gave up the ghost(s) a while ago. I am much happier for it.


Super-love & cupcakes,
Gala <3


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  1. Truth! I had two formerly good friends (separately) go “cold turkey” on ME last year, and at first I was kind of insane about trying to find out what they were up to and so forth, but not caring is so much easier and so much more relaxing. :)

    <3 Jorden · Mar 13, 06:06 PM · #

  2. It’s really all about self-control. Everyone knows that keeping tabs on other people is ridiculous & would be horrified if anyone knew. Delete your bookmarks, don’t go there! Save your energy for people you like!

    I think the whole scenario is quite destructive & unhealthy. I just picture thousands of people bubbling with malice as they read journals which are basically none of their business, & think about how bad it is for the psyche.

    Oh well ;>

    <3 Gala · Mar 13, 06:11 PM · #

  3. oh my. i was just dumped and found out my ex now has a shiny new girlfriend which she aquried 5 hours after leaving me. and i’ve been trying to avoid her myspace/online blog etc. now i have to, because it said so on galadarling.com!
    xx

    <3 nico · Mar 13, 07:12 PM · #

  4. Aw Nico, I’m sorry! That sucks. Seriously though, you will be much happier if you don’t keep up with what is going on in their lives. Spend your newfound freedom getting to know yourself & getting happy — don’t waste time grinding your teeth in front of the computer, if you can possibly help it! Hmm, maybe I should make a list of things to keep the recently-dumped occupied. Lots of love, though! Chin up cutie!

    <3 Gala · Mar 13, 07:18 PM · #

  5. I never did understand why people like to do that. The minute my relationship with someone (whether it’s platonic or romantic) is over, I never look them up on the internet again. I can’t imagine it being a positive experience in any way, so why subject myself to that?

    Unfortunately my ex-best friend and ex-boyfriend still spy on me to this very day, even going so far as to create fake myspace profiles and adding me, hacking my friend’s accounts, sending me the occassional harassing email — things like that. Of course, that crosses more into lunatic territory.

    <3 Kate · Mar 13, 07:45 PM · #

  6. awww man. i am so guilty of this. i still look at my ex-girlfriend’s myspace at least once a week & it always makes me sad. :(
    sometimes though, it’s cathartic. one day when i was impossibly sad, i went through my high school yearbook & looked up a bunch of people in my graduating class. i immediately felt better about myself!

    <3 star · Mar 13, 07:46 PM · #

  7. a list of things to keep me occupied is totally what i need right now!
    it was very sudden so i’ve been wandering around feeling like i was hit by a large tuck, and wishing for distractions.
    thanks for the love! xx

    <3 nico · Mar 13, 08:21 PM · #

  8. I must say I’m guilty of this but I know it has to stop. I don’t know why I care so much!

    Also, I saw you tonight at Hot Fuzz. I’m sorry if I looked at you weirdly, it was exciting to see someone I’ve only known from pics and vlogs! Anyway, hope you enjoyed the film.

    <3 Kat! · Mar 14, 01:55 AM · #

  9. Oh, you did?! I don’t remember anyone looking at me weirdly, I hope I didn’t make a face! Were you sitting in front of me or did it happen somewhere else?

    I loved the film, sooo funny, but by the end I really wanted to go home ;>

    <3 Gala · Mar 14, 02:00 AM · #

  10. Haha, no, no face. Um, I was sitting in the row in front of you but to the left. I said to my non-internet using friend “Oh! That’s Gala!” and she asked me what a gala was.

    I thought the film was great, those guys are brilliant.

    <3 Kat! · Mar 14, 02:38 AM · #

  11. It was during the interview, when that awful movie man was asking inane questions, right? I remember you looking at me! You smiled! :D

    <3 Gala · Mar 14, 02:42 AM · #

  12. Nope, not me, must’ve been someone else who recognised you! I saw you before the movie started when everyone was still seating themselves.

    Oh, that guy pissed me off, if he’s gonna take over the audience question time he could at least ask decent questions. He didn’t a get response anywhere near as classic as “Grandma’s goin down!” Man that was funny.

    <3 Kat! · Mar 14, 02:49 AM · #

  13. After I broke up with my boyfriend…I couldn’t stop looking at his profile to see what he was doing and who he was with..it made me feel bad and all the time I wanted to show him I was doing better..obviously I was not over him yet…but with time the stalking stop jeje…I have a new boyfriend and he is completely out of my life…but sometimes (once every 2 months) I still like to know what he’s been up to…don’t know why? I’m a weirdo

    by the way Gala love ur blog!! read it every day….greetings from Guayaquil Ecuador!!

    <3 vanis · Mar 14, 03:35 AM · #

  14. It’s amazing how much this relates to my life. I’ve watched his myspace and seen two new girls come & go since our breakup three months ago. I removed him from my myspace friends, my lj friends list, my msn and my mobile phone, and I definately cut down, but every now and then, I can’t help but go & have a look at his profile & all his pictures about his amazing new girl & how it’s for real this time, like the past three years never happened. Fortunately it’s little things like this that will push me to go a couple more days without checking, and each time the couple of days gets longer :)

    <3 LA · Mar 14, 06:01 AM · #

  15. LA, that’s what I’m dreading. I’ve recently been dumped as well (On Sunday) and the thought of hearing about someone new in his life cuts me to the core. I know I will probably be one of these people that has the occasional look and that it will probably make it worse, but at the same time I feel like I ‘have to know’.. Meh!

    <3 dinkles · Mar 14, 10:09 AM · #

  16. an article on things to keep occupied when in the ‘recently-dumped’ situation would be so fantastic. My brother is going through an engagement breakup at the moment and he is finding it really hard. All the normal everyday things that involve your ex are such a hard habit to break out of.. I am so sad for him :(

    <3 Emma · Mar 14, 10:45 AM · #

  17. One of those little quirks of human nature I guess…

    <3 Anna Rose · Mar 14, 05:11 PM · #

  18. God, this is so true. I need to listen to you more often.

    <3 animoller · Mar 14, 09:15 PM · #

  19. Wow – I wrote you that email before I’d read this article – and there’s like 3 other people here asking for an article on break-ups! Must be something in the air :-(

    xoxox

    <3 Ally · Mar 15, 12:55 PM · #

  20. Send this to my ex. He won’t leave me aloooone! @_@

    <3 Phalene · Mar 21, 11:05 AM · #
 

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