iCiNG Days Of Christmas: Magical iCiNG Knickers!
[ 6 December 2008 ]
I think this is one of the prizes I am most excited about: iCiNG knickers! If you’re an old-school nonpareil, you’ll know that these have been in the works for ages! (Please excuse the pictures of my butt! Willing & able booty models are in tragically short supply!)
So here’s the deal. The iCiNG knickers are black, because black underthings are sexy. They have a big sparkly heart on the front, & across the back, they say crowning your beautiful booty! They’re made from the softest, yummiest, most delicious American Apparel cotton. They come in small, medium or large, & also in your choice of colours — the text & heart can be pink (which is sparkly), blue or purple (both of which are — wait for it — holographic!).
The best & most amazing thing? I wasn’t kidding when I said that these knickers have magical powers. They do. I don’t know where the magic comes from, but they just have it! Every time I wear mine — EVERY TIME, without fail — something absolutely amazing happens to me. Some of the things that have happened to me while wearing these are not the sort of thing one wants to blab about on the internet, but please believe me when I say that they make incredible things happen! The sort of things that make your head spin! (I actually wore them on the night of the US election to give Obama a helping hand… & obviously it worked! Haha.)
So there are five pairs of super-fabulous, sparkly iCiNG knickers up for grabs. All you have to do is tell us…
Other than your magical sparkling knickers, what’s your secret weapon on a date with a promising stranger?
The contest is open for 48 hours, & even if you live somewhere completely ridiculous, you’re just as welcome to enter as those of you on major mail routes! (Maybe the magical knickers will help you escape?!) Best of luck!
Oh! By the way! For those of you who have been wondering, I’m so sorry that iCiNG Treats started & then seemed to stop so abruptly. It has been tricky for me to find a print-on-demand company which can print to the standard I’m happy with, at a price I think is acceptable, on products I would wear myself. These underpants are awesome but way too expensive (in my opinion). When I get back to the States, I’m going to have things professionally silk-screened on products I LOVE, & then I’m going to set up a miniature distribution point in my apartment! I am really excited about it actually, because it means I can also stuff the packages with stickers, buttons & postcards! (I love all that stuff!) I have so many artists who have already done beautiful designs for the Treats series, & lots of super-fun ideas, & I am dying to share them with you!
Okay — thanks for listening & thank you so much for your patience!
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A sexy lacy bra! Garments that accentuate my curves (I was going to say heels & a dress but it all depends on the date). Oh and an upbeat attitude whilst making your personality shine :)
My secret weapon? Definitely sexy lingerie! When I’m wearing sexy lingerie, I find that I just feel a lot more confident. Plus, even if no one ends up seeing the lingerie, I still feel really beautiful and sexy in it =)
Yay for iCing knickers! I’m sure I’d feel super confident and wonderful in a pair of those ;)
Blow! I’ve never been on a date! >:(
But I guess showing off my class!
I only go out with guys that have class of their own!
Also I’d probably wear red lipstick, though not ideal for smooching I just like how sophisticated it looks when left on the edge of a coffee cup!
And it’d totally give him a reason to call back when his mother/friend/roomate asks why he has a red lipstick kiss on his cheek!
MWAH!
Vixxie.
This probably sounds kinda weird but I have Barbie brand perfume that I LOVE LOVE LOVE! It only comes in a really tiny bottle so I have to only use it for special occasions, and special dates definitely fall into that category! Now that I’m taken, however, it’s more like the “business time” perfume ;) heh heh.
Hee! I have to agree with the above – the perfect bra! ... + the perfect perfume :)
My secret weapon? Hmmm…. a smile!
And if I want to pump it up even more, I never seem to fail with great mascara. Having long pretty lashes to flutter makes me feel charming whatever I’m wearing!
oh, i would love to ordain my bum in a pair of those beauties!
and my secret weapon on a date? my laugh. no matter what’s going on, i always seem to pull out a great belly laugh at the best moment, and i eases any tension that could possibly be there.
Most definitely a fantastic bra…and my own sparkling personality, of course!
Having loads of male friends to talk about and a rock’n‘roll past.
These things say: I can have as many men as I want, cause I’m unique, did you notice?! Also, I had a lot of experiences ‘on the road’, I’m a creative-trasgressive-yet romantic girl, so you can’t fool me and it’s gonna be difficult to make me think you’re interesting. I’m looking for a frontman, for a saviour, for a novelist.
In the end, though, if you do manage to catch my eye…well, now you know what I’m worth! I’m gonna crown your beautiful life.. ;-P
the shadowy cleavage rather than the line cleavage, red lipstick and wit as sharp as knives.
I’m more of a “Here I am!” type girl. I’m straight up. My secret weapon is having a great day before hand, and treating that person like I would anyone else. If they dig it, they dig it. If not, oh well! Confidence and a love for yourself really made it work for me. It’s how I got my guy! Who know that being willing to camp in the middle of nowhere on a whim would be a turn on?!
besides magical knickers, which are usually my go to option, my secret weapon is my ghetto-licious white girl ass. name any other pale ginger with a kim kardashian booty that those icing knickers would look magical on1 :P
I think a cute smile and an adorable laugh are the best secret weapons to have on a date!
I was going to be a cheeky kitten and say, “my wit”, but instead i’ll say: my fearlessness. it makes my dates end in the best and strangest of places, and often, not end at all …
Mint lip gloss (so I don’t have to worry about my breath) and a stiff drink!
Glancing at him shyly and biting my lower lip gently :)
My shy-but-flirty smile, and desire to truly engage in conversation. Pretty lingerie is a good confidence-booster, but I’m more interested in getting to know someone and making a mental connection with them on the first date, than I am in trying to convince them I’m the best candidate for their future gf. :)
Without a doubt – sexy perfume, something musky and sweet, when he leans in and smells in on your neck he won’t be able to resist
A kick arse, “Im awesome and im not going to settle for less than I deserve so step up and show me your awesomeness” attitude thats maintained by lipgloss and tictacs!
The thought of magic undies makes me smile!
Intelligence, charm, wit, vulgarity, and contraception. Also my natural body odor. Smell those pheromones, boys!
makeup to attract attention to my eyes, and then looking coyly across the… i was going to say table, but it really depends doesnt it… anyway, doing some wonderful eye flirting seems to do the trick.
An extra coat of mascara & sassiness!
Alright, I’m only divulging this because I really love those panties:
I stuff my bra like a teenager. Though I was blessed with an ass and thighs that just don’t quit, the gals are a touch on the small side.
But no, I don’t stuff with socks; I stuff with pairs of undies. See, a silky pair (or two) in each cup is a lot softer against the skin than socks, and I’ll always have change for impromptu overnight romps ;)
Other than that, I’m always armed with my mad Guitar Hero skillz. There’s something about a 562 note streak that drives a man wild!
Confidence to flirt my socks off!
It is really cute when a promising stranger gets all flustered and nervous, so a big beautiful and inviting smile full of confidence and humour too soothe the situation is perfect.
My Patti Smith impression :)
Choc mint lipgloss, my sense of humour and my New West for her perfume….. Awesome combo!!
the perfect combination of mystery and straight-forwardness, as well as (cliche?) my wit/laugh and my laid back attitude
physically? some great heels and my lucky rings
Killer heels, Armani white perfume, long wavy hair and loads of quick charming wit.
red lipstick of course!
While perfume can work wonders (I call Leu d’Issey my “pick-up perfume because people always talk to me when I’m wearing it) and I love to wear heels, I think fluttering my eyelashes is my signature flirtatious move.
But sometimes I also like to, um, ahem, “take care of myself” before I leave the house. You end up with a different kind of smile and sexy glowy flush that can’t be duplicated.
wink!
Sexy, comfy underwear is definitely a confidence booster but my secret weapon is probably having the advantage of knowing guys a little better than most women by having a big family of mostly men. I mostly get why they do what they do and if I don’t I understand that there are just some things about the opposite sex that no women is ever going get. lol I can find similar hobby interests with guys, understand why they do what they do but can still keep my girly tenancies and feel like a beautiful, strong women.
And thanks to my family I will never date a guy that wont open a door for me. :P
I wear this perfume called bordello – it has this sort of musty seventh grade smells like teen spirit locker room young girl sweat mixed with sex mixed with damp rose romantic and a hint of smudgy darkness. I have also been known to spray or leave hints of perfume on his jacket when he isn’t looking…(oh that confession is maybe a bit embarrassing but I will confess anything for holographic knickers)
You definitely have to come forward with confidence and wear the best, sexiest undies you can. They can make you feel so good and that glow will definitely show through!
My Casablanca eyeshadow! nycxcosmetics.com/Main_Pages/P…
Every time I wear it I get so many compliments and I’ve started to notice that great things happen…amazing kisses, free coffee, and a few other things ;)...It’s definitely a confidence booster and to think that I only bought it for its name!
my “secret” weapon is to be ME!!
p.s cute booty!! hehe
Definitely has to be pedicured feet – there’s just something about feeling tip to toe sexy that makes you feel confident.
My secret weapon for any encounter is a smile! It’s cliche, but works every time to boost my mood. Even if I don’t feel like smiling, I paste a grin on my face, and bamm!
Well, I’m an actress, so I guess the ability to be whoever I want to be, even if it’s just one date, and if I could possibly end up in one of those sit com-y situations where I have to pretend to be someone different all the time… hahaha!
Cleavage!
Well, cleavage and a sparkling personality. Boys love cleavage and they love to have fun!
Before meeting them I dance around my bedroom to loud, energetic music so when they show up, I’m rosy cheeked, a little breathless, in a great mood and up for a good time!
My English accent! ;)
Alrighty, this is gonna make me sound totally obsessive & superficial, but here goes:
I plan my outfit the night before, so I feel prepared & confident. An outfit can completely change the outcome of a day! It’s important to feel sexy, so as to come across confidently.
I usually wear some kind of adornment in my hair (feathered hair clip, miniature origami, or loose peacock or ostrich feathers) and I tilt my head while I listen.
I love MAC perfumes for dates; my favorites are the aquamarine, white, & gold ones. The scent is sexy, unique, & fresh.
I also kind of obsess about my teeth beforehand. In the middle of the day before the date I’ll stick on some crest whitestrips for a half hour, then later on I brush my teeth and swish coconut oil around for 10-20 minutes as I get ready. The coconut oil cleans out every nook and cranny of your mouth & gets any hidden mucus or saliva out (sorry to be so graphic but it’s true!) so afterwards your mouth is straight-from-the-dentist clean. More info on coconut oil & detoxing here: www.coconutresearchcenter.org/... Hey, first kisses are important! And so is dental hygiene. :D
I also use a bit of coconut oil for a moisturizer. It really gives you a glow, even after applying foundation or powder.
Oh yes! & I always listen to upbeat music beforehand & dance around in the shoes I plan on wearing. Whew! Got so carried away with the getting ready tips that I almost forgot the most important step…
Right before I am about to meet with the person, I close my eyes just for a second & remember a time when I was really happy. I take a deep breath, smile, then greet my date with a huge, white, mucus-free grin. :D haha
my fancy power of positive thinking
oh and lovely bum!
oh man those undies are so neat :) if i dont win them… ill definitely be purchasing them when the time comes haha.
my secret weapon…hmm id have to say my sparkely wide blue eyes ;) every boyfriend ive had has been infatuated with them but on a more sexy note im going to go with sexy booty shorts…thongs are not flattering or comfy in my opinion but my dancer’s bottom is just right for booty shorts
A pleated mini skirt.
It gives gives the best of both worlds with its sexy school girl yet innocent & fun loving appeal (and of course nostalgia for the pre-dating school days! ^^)
I agree with the killer heels :)
BUT my all time fav trick is to skip lunch and be extra super hungry on the date. LOL men like a girl who have a good appetite…so I am not afraid to order a very full meal….OH and I love to eat with my hands. Even foods that might not be meant to be eaten with fingers…I think its sexy. LOL and I have never had a problem with not having boys LUV me on a first date :)
OH and I have been told that I have this sexy night club walk that men grown men cry :) LOL so that helps.
I laugh a lot, make tons of eye contact and enjoy myself, but really the secret weapon is being hungry!!
definitely definitely sexy underwear! I always feel much more confident when my lingerie is flattering and hot. though I’m sure wearing sexy AND magical underwear would be even better (:
also, I always have a running list of accessible rooftops wherever I am, since I can think of few better places than a rooftop to take a hot first date for some secret kissing…
Coyness, and above all, being myself. I’m naturally flirty by what I’ve been told.
Oh, and P. S. : being a nerd helps. Really. ;)
High, high heels. I’m a tall girl even without the 4”+ that heels add on, and it became my litmus test after dating too many boys that pouted and shrank away when they realized I was taller than they were.
If a man can look up all 6’1” of me in heels up and down and think “gorgeous!” rather than “oh, no, she is slightly taller than I am and I am threatened out by this”, then he’s worth the date.
Even better if the man is still shorter than I am once the heels come off, and is confident enough not to worry about it.
CONFIDENCE.
That should be everyone’s secret weapon!
A look:
whether it be sexy secretary
or glamourette
or just rolled out of bed and doesn’t mind getting back in ;)
I like the last one most because all that’s required is some sexy slouchy clothes, crazy love hair, and pretty haphazard makeup.
Listening to a killer playlist before hand, or on the way there that makes me feel gorgeous.
Also, perfectly smooth legs with a pedicure.
Other than my magical sparkling knickers, I bring my favorite alluring fresh scent, rocking shoes for confidence, and my cute laugh and smile to my dates.
What’s my secret weapon? I have the Universe on my side!
The Universe doesn’t let the best ones get away ;)
Sweat! Yes, sweat! I played roller derby for a while and found that my dates right after a long, 4-hour skate and sweat session had the absolute best steamy endings! I swear it has something to do with pheromones. Or maybe the fact that guys were turned on by the fact that I wasn’t too ashamed of going on a date right after practice. For a while it was the only time I had to go out, and I would change in my car on the way to the date. :)
absolutely delectable perfume. a man can’t resist a woman who smells wonderful =D
A good sense of humour, an open mind, and my Amor Amor perfume :)
vanilla perfume. they never forget it.
Sexy lingerie, musky perfume, my wit and my charm
MYSELF!!
probably
MASCARA
fairly cliche. i feel quite naked without it and I think it makes my eyes stand out more.
i wear it to school everyday
and pretty much everywhere else.
:)
Good old fashioned manners and charm.
Confidence, confidence confidence!
What I need to have an extra boost of it changes daily – sometimes it’s finishing a grandiose task, sometimes it’s some makeup, or a manicure. Whatever. It depends on the day, but whatever it is, once I’ve got it I feel like I’m on top of Mt. Everest, and after that I can really accomplish anything – SEND FORTH THE MEN!!
My secret weapon? Myself.
When (not if) he says something even remotely funny, I smile my smile (I have been told I’ve got a beautiful, contagious smile), giggle a little (if it’s only a little funny) or a lot (if it’s hilarious), then tilt my head down and away from them before I kind of turn my head towards them and peer at them from underneath my lashes (without looking like the girl from The Ring, hee) and give a cutesy little smile.
And being comfortable… I’m a fairly laid-back beachy kind of girl, so 12-inch stilletos and a corset just ain’t me and nor would I be able to walk (or breathe). So wearing something I’m comfortable in. Kind of goes hand in hand with being me. :)
Girls need to realise how beautiful they really are! When they’re happy and being themselves, that’s when the beauty really shines through… as corny as that sounded.
Eyeliner, and listening to empowering music beforehands. If you can control your eyes (windows) and your ‘tude (your soul itself) you can pretty much show anyone whichever part of your personality that you want.
My secret weapon on a date with a promising stranger is the air of nonchalance that I keep. My Promising Stranger knows that while I’m truly interested, his approval of me won’t make me or break me. By knowing that, he realizes he doesn’t fully have me, it keeps the pursuit going.
Sexy heels don’t hurt either. :)
My secret weapon is always doing something spontaneous and unexpected.
My secret weapon: my ability to put anyone at ease.
My secret weapon is the thought that if it doesn’t work out, at least I’m out on the town with some potential! It’s better than sitting on my bum at home. When I’m nervous or there is an awkward moment, I remember what I tell myself before I walk out the door: “This is just one night, and it is just one boy. Relax!”
But of course, I try not to forget my mascara!
So THAT’S what I’m missing. I knew there was something.
After an epic dating flail (if I ever see him on the street, I’ll have to hide behind a tree), I think I NEED some of those sparkly knickers. But maybe if you need them, they don’t actually work? It’s a quandary.
One thing I do always wear on a date is Lip Venom gloss in tulip. I think it helps.
I don’t have one! I’ll dress up nicely, but I do that for myself- I think that as long as I’m myself, then that’s all I need and a pair of killer heels or extra mascara won’t change that :)
Pretty panties though!
This is a tough one.. I’m gonna have to agree with the sexy underwear, plus copper eyeliner, nice nailpolish, and a dead poet society attitude. Seize the day!
I watch ‘Some Like It Hot’ beforehand. Subconsciously channel Marilyn throughout the date!
My secret weapons: biting my tongue and asking them lots of questions instead of blabbing about myself! Being a good listener, and trying to make them laugh.
Having lots of RIDICULOUS stories/experiences that make good conversation starters.
A shirt that shows off my ‘assets’ a little bit without being overtly sexual.
Bronzer and cheek stain! It’s not just about looking pretty, but looking healthy! I’m from LA but live in Chicago now, and I’m not used to being pale— so a dusting of bronzer make me feel fresh and vibrant! The cheek stain also makes it look like I have a slight blush- very flirty :). If I feel healthy I feel confident.
I usually use Physician’s Formula Bronzer (amazing AND cheap), and Benetint Cheek Stain.
OH wow, I haven’t been on a date since High School! (Still with my High School sweet heart).
But let’s see…
Comfortable cute shoes. So no matter what the guy has planned, I am ready. And also if I am wearing sensible shoes, then I am seen for the sensible girl I am.
My secret weapon is to take them to the zoo – it’s casual and not threatening like sitting across a dinner table being forced to talk, everybody loves fawning over cute little animals and it’s hilarious (and a bit suggestive) when you see some humping going on!
Eyecontact ( not too intense though ) and a decent amount of cleavage.
well.. a couple of years back I was at this party which was sort of a warm-up for a work-related party later that night. The girl who lived there wanted to get rid of some perfumes she had and took the chance and gave them to us, including this one scent that she gave to me and said “this one makes the boys go crazy”.. she was joking (I think!) but I put it on and later that night a boy I really liked from work kissed me.
I wear it only on special occasions now (gotta save it! they don’t make it any more :S) but every time I wear it, something good happens. :)
I’m attached but my secret weapon that has always helped me in the past other than the obvious (smiling, laughing, etc) is my ability to wear certain little things (mostly accessories, but sometimes just an attitude) that i know they will like and that will make them think of me when the night is over. It’s not in your face, and always works. I love incorporating new things into an outfit for someone!
Gum! Jeez, I am so paranoid about my breath on dates! But if I have a pack of gum that I can pop when I’m nervous, everything is so much better.
My secret weapon…my eye makeup, i like to make my blue eyes stand out so that when he cant take his eyes off mine. :D
anything that makes me feel beautiful, great perfume, heels, hair in curls
:D
i usually dress this way everyday though so i feel amazing EVERYDAY! whoo! :D
my secret weapons are lip gloss & a great smile.
I don’t wear a whole lot of makeup, but I do have a makeup ritual I go through to get ready. I feel really confident when I get to take my time and think while I put on my mascara and moisturizer and all that jazz.
My charm – or so its been called.
Basically the more ridiculous, hilarious and embarrassing the conversation; the more comfortable i am and the better it goes.
If you let personality shine on through then why shouldnt any guy or girl love you?
Also, a fun date is a much better than a movie where conversation is limited, especially if its the first one!
ps. nice booty!
A cinch belt, matching coloured heels and a little black dress! It makes me look polished and takes no effort =]
My secret weapon is putting glitter eyeliner on my eyelashes to bring that special spark to my eyes ;)
Silky Underwear solid perfume from Lush. Yum.
Why would you want to hire a booty model with an ass like that Gala?!
my secret weapon is knocking over my drink. really. nothing breaks the ice like when they see you’re not some perfect being. takes the tension out of things.
My secret weapon is the subtle inner-arm stroke. It’s easy and when they (finally!) realise that you’re doing it intentionally, they can’t get enough.
Also, really glad to hear that new icing treats are on the way!
A certain pair of heels that make me feel absolutely hawt!
I’m really short, so with the height comes more confidence for me. xD
My secret weapon is…my stories in the field! Apparently, men and women both can’t resist a good story about digging up dinosaurs. I guess it’s because I’ve been fulfilling the dream of every 5 year old. And besides, it shows that I’m willing to get down and dirty ;D
My secret weapon is voodoo perfume, aged for as long as possible with damania, anise and lots of vanilla and chocolate essential oils.
Tom Robbins is right:
love is 80% smell!!
A combo of vanilla and honeysuckle body spray in the right places and fresh breath.
I wear my hair up.
I have long, red, voluminous hair that I always wear down, but every time I go out on a date I style it in a
chignon and I apply two drops of Mitsouko by Guerlain behind my ears… it works like a charm, I always get told I have the most sensual neck ever!
Argh, your answers all are so good, I don’t know how I’m going to choose! Très difficile! Your answers are keeping me in total rapture though, I am enjoying reading them so much, & I’m so happy that so many of you prize self-confidence above everything else, you all sound so AWESOME! God I’m so PROUD, I feel like a mother hen. Any boy or girl would be lucky to get your attention long enough to take you out on a date, fo’ serious!
My secret weapon is probably my laugh, which varies from a really hyper giggle to a loud, head-thrown-back guffaw. I love to laugh, and honestly? If a person can make me laugh, I’m probably already on my way to falling for him…
My other secret weapon is probably my ability to own up to the fact that my life is incredibly awkward. I know I’m not perfect and life isn’t perfect, so I just choose to OWN that fact confidently and present myself honestly! It helps put people at ease when they see I don’t expect them to be perfect either— plus, telling my awkward stories has the added plus of making people laugh….
Random aside: I love reading galadarling! Thanks for the fab content ;)
definitely my spectacular cleavage, but also my ability to make anyone laugh and my willingness to laugh along.
knowing they’re nervous too and being completely confident—show off a little and make them laugh, but come off your high horse sometimes and surprise them with how interested you are in them…
A cracking personality… gets them everytime :) hahaha
My secret weapon? A retro 1940’s bra, red lipstick, and HEELS.
ps. Damn you got a fine booty! whats the secret???
I spend atleast 2 hours getting ready before a date lol
I moisturize hardcore so that my skin is extra touchably-soft. I run a dryer sheet in my hair to deal with static (a problem I face now that it’s winter, and it makes it smell like cuddle!) and add a few drops of perfume oil and run it through my hair to make it smell good.
Top everything off with sexy lingerie. It makes me feel super sexy and super confident. It’s my experience that if I make everything special on a date night, the date goes alot better than if I just look average.
I love going on dates :)
MUSIC is ultra important. My “Sexy” playlist is always a sure win. I have spent hours picking out exactly the right music for that playlist. I love it!
Ruby Woo, Narcisse by Chloe (my signature scent, it’s gorgeous) and a sense of humour.
It’s horrid that I’ve never been on an official date!
But if I were to, it would definitely be an incredibly adorable wacky outfit that showed my inner style. Personalitywise, it would be my sense of humor, definitely.
kill with your attitude, dazzle with your smile, make it worth his while, just be yourself – that’s the best recipe ;)
my secret weapon… a biiig, genuine hug! everyone tells me i’m the best hugger they know, and hugs are one of my absolute favourite things! i hope that others feel as fabulous as i do when we’re in a loving embrace! and if they did… well, then i’d be supa happy that they feel so good.
victoria’s secret heavenly.
that perfume does wonders. my guy friends always love it when i wear it and always find some way to get closer to me – whether it be hugs, tickling (lol), sitting near me, etc. it really is my secret weapon to draw in the boysssss.
ps: gala, don’t apologise for your bum-photos! it’s so cute!
False eyelashes. My natural lashes are very pale and fine so when I get some really expensive fake lashes put on I feel like I can take on anything. Confidence is key and having superb eyelashes just makes my night. They’re not too in-your-face but just having them makes me feel so much better!
My secret weapons are my wit, my dorkiness, and being smart enough to give my date a run for their money. :D
Enthusiasm. Seriously. Letting them know I’m excited to be there talking to them. Even when it doesn’t earn me any further meetings, I know I made them feel good, and usually they catch it and act like they’re really happy to be talking to me too. It’s kind of disappointing when I haven’t got whatever they want for the thing to go further, or I find out I’m not interested in them romantically anyway, but the enthusiasm makes it nice anyway. I think if you just throw yourself into it the awkwardness falls away. It’s hard for me to remember most of the time, but when I get it right, it means we both have fun, even when it’s purely platonic in the end.
Having mismatched socks on (kind of my “thing” – mismatched but in complementary colours, annoys my mum no end) or gorgeous tights helps me get up the enthusiasm for LIFE required though!
Confidence!!
+ A drop of jasmine absolute diluted with jojoba oil on each of my pulse points. Mm, pheromones!
+ Surprising ‘em by pulling one of my champion vegan pumpkin muffins out of my bag. Moist, delectable and cruelty-free to boot!
+ Lip stain. It keeps the color on my lips, not his collar.
These are so cute! I can’t wait for the iCiNG Treats to start up again; it sounds like so many good things are in the works!
The secret to a good date is a genuine desire to be there, period. All the right questions and coy/cute moments will follow on their own…
I’ve never been on a date but if I were to go on one,
I’d be myself, be confident and smile. And keep to my morals on what I’d do after the date.
The secret to a fantastic first date is a sparkling smile paired with looking the person straight in the eyes to show that you are listening while they speak. Those two together are the knockout combination that has works like a charm for me every time!
Those knickers are absolutely awesome!
My secret date weapon is my hair!
– It seems really odd but whenever I have my hair in its natural colour (bright ginger, baby!), I seem to be really lucky and great things happen. My ex boyfriend who I was with for three years absolutely loved my ginger hair and my current boy of almost a year has a thing for it, too. Whenever I dye it (dark purple, brown, blonde), I don’t have my ginger-mojo! Actually, it’s kind of awesome because (simply by accident), all of my boyfriend’s friends and with ginger girls and we all play together on the same hockey team.Anyway, I think that when I have my hair au naturel I have a certain sparkle that only a natural redhead has, so that’s my lucky charm! =D
I’d say my slightly dry and random sense of humor often gets guys intrigued. Making my date laugh really helps them open up and lets both of us relax.
Eye contact. It’s the sexiest thing ever. Every girl has beautiful eyes, even if they feel the rest of their face is flawed, their outfit it wack, and their hair is ugly, as long as they maintain eye contact- that’s all the person will be able to see. :)
Well, I read somewhere years ago that the scent of vanilla makes people think of dirty, sexy things. So, my secret is to put actual pure vanilla extract on all my pulse points. I’ve been complimented on it several times and I assure you it works on both boys and girls, wink wink.
Mike Dooley?
Sexy underwear, even if I know that he won’t see it that night. Sexy underthings ALWAYS make me feel strong and confident, while feminine and sexy all at once.
as weird as it sounds, my secret weapon is, well, how i eat. my guy friends have commented that i eat “seductively”. it was possibly one of the awkwardest yet funniest moment in my life EVER to have a group of my guy friends come up to me and say that as i was eating some scallop wrapped bacon appetizer. if the guys love it, then so be it. my wierd secret weapon. ;]
If I’m going out with someone new I’ll always wear something a little out of the norm. For example, a peacock feather fascinator pinned in my hair or a quirky necklace. I’m kind of a goofy oddball type of person normally anyway, so this way he’s not completely surprised later on in the relationship!
Confidence. Plain and simple :)
Booty shorts do make me feel sexy though :P
A big smile. That is my number 1 accessory!
However secret weapons that help me feel 100% are my MAC MV3 perfume, my boot cut jeans that fit me to a T and make me feel sexy, and a hot pair of underwear (even if he doesnt see them I know I am wearing sexy as all hell underpants, I do!). And last but not least, be myself. Because I am a pretty cool/quirky/crazy/funny/silly person, and people should know that right out of the gate.
Big rings and nicely shaped natural nails. I am a big hand talker, and when my hands feel pretty, I want to talk more so I can to show them off!
Nipple rings.
They make me feel sexy and guy’s reactions when they discover them are always absolutely priceless.
A perfectly-pitched giggle and smile. My boyfriend said that that’s what got him. If we’re talking stuff you can put on a credit card, well, slippery-smooth watermelon sorbet lip gloss!
Secret weapon on a date? Nothing. I just bring myself and whatever I’m wearing / feeling that day. (Although I do have a lucky pair of socks with the word ‘Bazooka’ on them that I wear to exams or on airplanes. I have to admit that sometimes I’ve worn them on dates…) :)
i like to play my fave songs before hand which gives me confidence and makes me FEEL beautiful!
My secret weapon is most definitely my Serge Lutens – Fleurs De Citronnier perfume. I’ve had boys tell me it follows them for days, and then they just need another dose.
Definitely worth the $$. Always.
whiskey. haha!!!! so maybe thats not the most evolved answer, but hey. it helps cut the self-doubt that i haven’t been able to shake otherwise in such situations. also before i go out, i remember the nicest things people have said about me that made me feel on top of the world. especially my close friends who seem to think that i’m so confident, even though the truth is i’m often quite insecure. and ex-boyfriend who once asked so sweetly if i came from a family of buttons, as in cute-as-a… aw. melt.
got to have those ! love love love
My secret weapon is my ‘split personality’. I have the cute, fun and carefree me, and then my night time self which is a little on the saucy minx side of things ;P
I would definitely say a lack of inhibitions! This definitely ranges on meaning by who you are – for me, one of the biggest ways this shows is my laugh. When you see other guys or gals laugh a lot of times they cover their mouth with their hand, or hold in their laughter, but I always laugh with every bit of breathe left in my tummy! Also just the way you communicate. Everyone can stay within those safety boundaries on first dates, but truly saying what’s on your mind and talking about the things you TRULY love and care about is one of the sexiest things you can do! I mean how many times do you have to hear “wow, this food is really good” when you can instead blurt out that his music taste is one of the sexiest things about him?
Moi. Me. Myself. What else should I possibly need?
My secret weapon is mental preparation. They say confidence is the sexiest attribute a person can have and I find the best way to boost it is to take extra time to indulge myself.
Lush stuff always makes me feel great – what girl wouldn’t after bathing in pink, bubbly water and massaging herself with glittery vanilla?!
Relaxing music to chill out in the bath, then girly pop while getting ready.
By the time I’m done, I’m in a great mood (which I hope will be infectious) and confident enough to be myself – weirdness and all.
So I float off to my date feeling fantabulous!
P.S. I wondered about iCiNG Treats, can’t wait to see what’s coming up!
my cleavage, a beautiful smile and some sparkles in my eyes !
My wicked sense of humor, my Amazonian long legs, and The Goodnight Kiss: suddenly grabbing his tie/collar and pulling him to a last minute kiss.
But on top of that? My red headband. It’s a very Blair Waldorf thing, but damn if it doesn’t make my hair fall perfectly and frame my face.
My secret weapon? Charm, just slightly dirty jokes, a good dose of sarcasm, and a whole bunch of mascara.
My boyfriend loves it when I make a joke that is borderline inappropriate, he says its one of the hottest things ever. And we’re both VERY sarcastic, so being able to dish it out back and forth creates some cute competition between us. And mascara is a no fail way to make your eyes look wide and sex-kitten worthy. Sexy undies are the cherry on top, it’s like having a saucy secret just waiting to be shared with your date ;)
I’ve only really dated four guys. Two of them turned out to be jerks, and the other two turned out to be gay. But I have been unofficially involved with a couple others. The way I got my prince charming (a handsome blonde actor with a $3 mill home, not even kidding):
- I always try and smell good. Not like flowers or musk, but like apples or passion-fruit or sugar. Something unique that a guy will actually recognize and like. I never have a bad day when I’m wearing my Sugar Apple body spray.
- I don’t hide the nerdy things about me, like how I love superheros or how I beat a video game in two days. I do quote one crush of mine: “I didn’t know girls actually played Jak X! That’s awesome!”
What I would do to prepare for a date would all depend upon where I was going and with whom. Three basic essentials however include:
1) A good dose of Lush candy Fluff to make my already lush body even more luscious
2) I would exfoliate my lips
3) And last but not least Triple dose of mascara
Other than the materialistic side of a date I would say I would listen to some up beat music by Pharell and Gwen (yummy), and practice non creepy smiling in the mirror… :) haha
xoxo P.s these undies are the most adorable, fantastic, decadent pieces of underwear I have ever seen- they must be Cupcake for the booty :)
My sparkly heart necklace! www.flickr.com/photos/citymorn…
Like me, it’s colorful, bright, & full of love!
It tells the viewer a bit about my personality, & it also draws the eye up toward my face. Plus, I feel super confident, cute, romantic, pretty & feminine whenever I wear it.
If I’m going on a date with a promising stranger, I’ll make sure I wear this one shirt, black with a shiny 3 on it. The shirt was the shirt I wore on my first ever date, and since then was dubbed the ‘date’ shirt for the guys I really wanted everything to go well with!
(As for the guy on the first date, we didn’t go out. But he did become one of my closest friends.)
classy perfume (coco mademoiselle) on the collar bone ;D
This brown/black leather reversible belt i stole from my father’s closet at age 8. It has 2 lines of metallic holes all the way around and i now belt absolutely everything- shirts, dresses, and pants, you name it!
This brown/black leather reversible belt i stole from my father’s closet at age 8. It has 2 lines of metallic holes all the way around and i now belt absolutely everything- shirts, dresses, and pants, you name it! It gives me this dose of confidence- it makes me feel strong and confident, like i can do anything (because, i can do anything!)
My secret weapon I’d say would be my increased comfort with nature and its associated quirks. I love to wear fresh flowers in my hair and have a bottle of rainwater from home with me anywhere I go, which I think lend a really nice touch to any outing, but I’ve also become toughened to the realities that these more natural options may bring i.e bugs and other icky things. I may be internet savvy, text like a madwoman and lust over designer things, I think I’ve learnt to appreciate the simple things in life.
To put this in the context of date, the other night I was curled up on the couch with a guy and things started to get steamy. Suddenly, I noticed the mother of all cockroaches crawling across his table. It’s real difficult to concentrate on seduction when all that’s running through your mind is ‘I wonder how old that is…’ ‘My god, I didn’t know they could climb like that, especially missing a leg!’ ‘Wow, they sure do like Pringles…’ Finally, with all the grace and poise I could muster (which admittedly, was very little) I told him ‘There’s a fucking huge cockroach crawling across your table’. There was this long pause, then we laughed for five minutes straight over my poor timing and nonchalance. After that my womanly powers were required to get rid of it via a lid to said Pringles tin and a firm shake or two. Whilst it may not have been quite as sexy as an extra coat of mascara or the world’s most seductive scent, in this situation my newfound comfort with bugs proved so much more useful.
xx
P.S What an adorable toosh you have Ms Darling! Booty representtttttt.
Unfaltering, almost aggressive self-confidence, combined with vulnerable girliness intermittent with vixen-ness.
i.e., me being me at my best :]
That, and a massive, massive smile.
And the perfume that gets them every time: Provacative Woman.
Well I can’t spring myself on strangers because I have a boyfriend of my own.
Buuuuuuuuuuuuuut
When I want to spring myself on him…
I wear a nice dress for once, instead of my normal jeans and a tshirt. Then I do my makeup very nice, sometimes with his favorite color, purple, as my eyeshadow. Then I find some cute heels to pair it all up with, and when we go out I surprise him with the whole shabang. =>
My secret weapon[s]?
1]A great smile.
I’m absolutely obsessive about dental hygiene,
and it hasn’t failed me yet.
[to achieve: baking soda toothpaste and burts bees chapstick]
2]Mascara
Rimmels Lycra Lash Extender is my absolute favorite. One even layer of this will transform even the shortest of lashes into long and sexy falsies. Perfect for that doe eyed look ;]
3]My silver horse necklace
I have hardly taken it off since I got it 2 years ago.
I’m convinced that it’s good luck!
[see it here www.flickr.com/photos/32716731
I must have a big purse to hold everything I could possibly need, including a hat, a small water bottle, lotion, dr pepper lip smacker, cell phone… Other than that, soft touchable hair (NO gel or moouse), soft touchable skin and soft touchable lips (via lipstain and yummy chapstick) If I’m going on a date I plan on being touched. Just semi-appropriate ones though! I’m a good girl! ;D And my best pair of glasses, because they are sexy and because I want to be able to see them!
Been a while… but I make sure I date my permanent Mr. a lot!
I wanna say my sexy undies, or my dry sense of humour, or my love of B-movies, and they all help, but…
Breathing deeply. It slows me down & keeps me focussed on who I am & why I’m with him, as opposed to coming up with the next witty or charming thing to say. Seems to work; we’ve been together 12 years now!
Taking my time to perfectly apply my black liquid liner, and making up close eye contact. There’s always an instant visible change in the guy when he looks in my eyes, and at that point I know I’m in control.
My unexpected secret weapon: a sketchbook! What better way to flirt and find out if we have chemistry, than to gaze into his eyes while he poses for a portrait? The resulting sparks can be astonishing!
Oh, and my newest secret weapon; my Suzuki Katana motorcycle. Jaws drop when they realize that’s MINE.
Boys LOVE girls who can ride.
Listen to fun, sexy, ridiculous, mood-enhancing music before hand! (Anything from Super Freak by Rick James, to La Vie En Rose by the one and only Edith Piaf—tres romantique!) That and eat lots of sweet things (foods, candy, and juice) and dance by myself around the house. :) These things refresh my overall mood and get me pumped!
Then after I get pumped, I calm myself down to a nice, cool “Hello” so I don’t freak anyone out too much, haha.
PS, you have an amazing body!
i subscribe to the Bridget Jones’ school of thought. you are GUARANTEED a hot hook up when you are wearing granny panties!! i SWEAR by it! but i would sure rather my date find sparkly cute undies rather than old lady knickers heehee!
Stunning lashes (whether fake ones or mascara’d up to the max) for a seductive flutter and a wink. My favourite asset would be my eyelashes!
A Victoria’s Secret bra ;)
It never fails to make me feel feminine and sexy when I need it the most.
Well, the only real and actual dates I’ve ever been on were with my current and oh so adorable man so I’d have to say just being myself and some serious patience/stamina…not dirty, I swear! The backstory: I was feeling very, very under the weather on our second “date”. (I use the term date loosely because, in all honesty, he tricked me by offering to give me driving lessons since I didn’t have license at the time and then nonchalantly ushered me into date mode by taking me out to dinner and a movie followed by a night of kiddie fun on a playground and a walk on the beach, respectively.) Anyway, I was basically on my death bed, but I held out for the movie showing time and somehow, runny nose and all…he ended up sticking around. Don’t ask me why, but he’s still here to this day.
I spray a bit of Diorissimo-the lilly of the valley scent never fails because it’s so fresh and soft-into my hair, then clip it up into a high bun. Sometime during the date, I will take down my hair when I’m in close proximity to them. Whammo.
A good spicy perfume.
Good smelling cleavage is sexy cleavage!
No strangers for me, I’m a committed gal. I usually look up at him with big eyes. He knows what’s up.
I wear my strawberry bag. It’s a bag printed with strawberries that I got for $1 at a thrift shop. If that fails, I make soup, a sandwich, and orange cranberry muffins (vegan). That’s how I won the last one over…Also! Listening to Richard Hell.
But I need to step up my game. Oh, magical knickers, how I long for you…
Definitely Flying Fox body wash from Lush. It’s irresistible!
And i always, always ALWAYS wear SOMETHING black. It’s a chi thing.
A dash of Lolita Lempicka, something that shows off my great butt ;D (as I’ve been told it is!), and my wit! And if it’s a date that has my heart all a-flutter, a great pair of heels.
It’s a sure-fire combination!
Wearing strawberry chapstick (lipstick I save for non-kissing occasions… it tastes bad), liking the person I’m going out with an awful lot (makes me excited to see them!!), and my redtailed-hawk feather earrings (I bought them in a fly fishing store… they had all different sorts of feathers, but I think mine were the prettiest there). Those earrings have character… which I like. It makes me happy and confident!
Also, listening to “Jailbreak” by Thin Lizzy seems to get me in the mood for a night out.
I guess you could say that those are all my arsenal :)
Eye contact and my black leather military-issue combat boots. Nothing else if need be, save a smile.
Before the date, I take a shower and spray a light body spray all over. Then right before I leave I dab a little perfume on the back of my neck and wrists.
Also, I’m very straight-forward with whomever I’m on a date with. If I don’t want to kiss, or if I like them, I’ll just say it. Most guys seem to appreciate this (even though some will try to get a kiss even after I say no…needless to say, that guy didn’t hang around long- blah).
my secret date weapon is a dab of perfume mixed with an arsenal of intelligent conversation and tons of smiles.
My rainbow shoelaces and pair of tie dye knickers that I made myself. The two of them together makes anything a sure thing!
The song “High Plains Drifter” by the Beastie Boys. It’s not a flirty song—it’s a freewheeling badass song that always makes me feel like a comic book superhero.
Brief meditation. If my mind is cluttered by concerns over my lip gloss, hair, etc, I’ll end up thinking more about ME than HIM; it’s very important to take a second to chill!
i wear an outfit i feel absolutely amazing in, lots of black mascara and sparkly eyeshadow to make my eyes pop, sweet strawberry lipgloss, AND smile :) :) im really shy around new people and it gives u so much more confidence if you know you look good and feel good. i did this on my first date with my current boyfriend and we have been together for a year next week!
p.s. those are thee cutest jocks!! ‘crowning your beatiful BOOTY!’ ur a genius gala!
My secret weapon would definately be my Christina Aguilera perfume!
Every boy I know who’s smelt it on me has commented (dates and friends included!) It’s so gorgeous and works a treat :)
Having a positive attitude also helps, and a nice smile :)
1. Yay, iCiNG treats! I have been simply gagging for some new goodies!
2. Your arse and legs are sensational. Sincerely. (You know I’m not a perv.)
3. My secret weapon I always take is my infectious laugh :D
My secret weapon is Vanilla perfume and an eased kind of confidence. Of course I would wear something that made me feel beautiful and… well, like ME!
If I feel happy about myself I’m way more likely to have other people like me too.
(heart)
My secret weapon?
A personality to stop time itself! ;]
Otherwise, really I never have one thing I wear EVERY time or anything… it all goes with my mood at the time (and of course considering the guy, the date, etc.!)
My hair and playing with it :)
Secret Weapon?
Boots, kick-ass boots. It’s like you can take on anything.
Add amazing socks guarantee a perfect date.
On a date with a promising stranger :-) I like the sounds of that. I like to shower first with Lush stuff, cause I love the subtle smell is leaves behind on me. Especially Soft Coeur. And then I just go with a smile and ready to have a good time. Otherwise it is nerve wracking or disappointing or just not good.
So my secret weapon would be my confidence and sweet smelling-ness :D
this is horribly nerdy, but i like to have read an awesome book/seen a sweet movie/got a new sweet album in the preceding couple days so i have something to babble about.
also to have seen a good friend that day so i have something to say to, ‘what’d you get up to today?’
the best one though is when i’ve seen something hilarious on my way there, like the time i saw a woman herding cats along the street, or the guy who was taking his turtle for a walk. telling that kind of story is the best way to get a conversation going.
also to have listened to ‘you’ by atmosphere whilst walking to wherever it is. that song rules.
fin!
my wit and charm ofcourse! it definately worked toooooo. i still have him, and i dont say this lightly-THE MOST AMAZING guy ever- snagged for over 3 years!!!
I draw a little smiley face somewhere on my side, It makes me happy. Oh and I listen to music that puts me in a good mood beforehand. Otherwise my secret weapon is my personality C:
A song
When im getting ready for a date, i find a song to play that hits the mood of the night
it gets me in a sassy and fun mood
Handcuffs and the will to use ‘em! ;)
“hey, how was your day?”
My eyes. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on them in the past, so I always make sre to wear makep/colors that compliment them. My last date said that I could wear a veil from the nose down and you could still tell whether I was laughing or smiling because of my eyes. ;*
Also I make sure to take a tiny bit of jasmine essential oil on my fingertips and run it through my hair. It smells great all night, and guys are always intrigued; it’s not as common as rose, or easily identifiable by your average guy!
Secret weapon—I have this purple velvet top that seems to do the trick every time I wear it. It is form fitting and just low enough to expose some cleavage, which I have a lot of. Also I have noticed that guys like citrus scents, so I try to stock up on citrus soap and perfume which compliment my chemistry. Smiles always work and being yourself does too.
Just getting back into the dating scene so I plan to Not over think it and just take action wink wink xo
I always wear a perfume that is basically rose and sandalwood oil…gets ‘em every time. Killer heels, perfectly styled & glamorously curled long hair and bit of cleavage are a must, usually accompanied by a little short black dress with some black hose to down the skank factor! Also, my exceptional vocabulary paired with a dirty word or two seems to work wonders!
I admit that since my dates now are generally for the purpose of “hooking up” (I’m happily married!), it takes the “prospective girlfriend” pressure that I used to feel on dates off of me. It’s more like I’m trying to subtly find out if they are into the same kinks as me, or could be easily talked into trying, and if we have some good chemistry going on!
And with that being said, I’m still not a first date kind of gal!! I’m a classy ho!
secret weapon on a date? leave a lasting impression kiss so sweet it leaves him wanting MOREmoreMOORREEE!
haha, or just some sexy lingerie
Hmmm, well I always keep my aresenal stocked with multiple weapons…
-TicTacs
-Sweetness & Charm!
A bit of mystery & romance in my attire-be it a sheer panel, a touch of lace, or a solitary ruffle-Killer heels OR my fantastamarvelous riding boots (depends on the activity)
-Enthusiasm & a sense of adventure. Dinner & a movie is nice, but I’m just as happy taking a mini roadtrip, doing an arts & crafts project (I’m such a little kid :)), hiking, swing dancing, or horseback riding.
Sorry, didn’t mean to cross out that line in my above post!
Definitely killer heels: they scream confidence and make my legs look great.
bra-less boobs! even though lingerie is supposed to make you feel sexier i feel better in nothing at all :]
- gala dun worry ur booty looks fine =P
Well my secret weapon…aside from myself? (i’m so weird its hard not to get sucked in. i think its a curiosity thing)
would be either:
current fav perfume – Chocoholics. This perfume is the yummiest smelling perfume EVER and it last allllll day. It’s subtle though, which is great. I don’t know what it is but everyone is always mesmerized by the smell. I have never worn it an not got a comment about how good i smell. It’s funny though, it’s supposed to smell like chocolate & it does when I spray it in the air. But on me, I guess combined with my natural scent…everyone says I smell like some kind of sweet fresh baked french vanilla chocolate chip sugar cookie. lmao [1 big combo of all the things it smells like combo] I love it. & they always come in close for another whiff =)
the other would be basketball shorts- i don’t know what it is about basketball shorts that sparks interest. But I won’t question it. I learned this completely by accident. I wear them out of comfort…7 always got comments but never thought anything of it. Until one very specific comment. Hahaha!
there’s honestly so many little things that can put any person over the edge, be it material, physical or character. so it’s hard to choose just one. Everyone likes something different. Depends on your target! lol
My charm and my nerdiness!
A good concealer! So that I don’t spend the whole time wondering if my date is staring at the zit on my forehead or the dark circles under my eyes, and I can relax and enjoy myself.
A little lippy and my Manolos.
My Hugo Boss Deep Red perfume. I swear it helped snag my boyfriend.
And also, ever so slightly violating his personal space. Leaning in a little too close to hear that whisper at the movies. Or brushing past him when going to sit down…just generally being too cosy for knowing someone that little time.
I can honestly say those two things have worked the best. :-D Touch and smell are very powerful senses and often neglected!
A beautiful smile and a genuine interest in the person you are seeing.
xxx
i havent been on any dates yet (i just got out of a long term relationship like 3 weeks ago) but my ex (who i an still friends with) told me that when im confident im like this amazing force and im so powerful and commanding. so id say my secret weapon is my confidence.
also a sweet smile and the ability to laugh at yourself doesnt go astray.
ps u have a bangin’ booty Gala xx
My winning smile of course! But how do i get this smile i hear you ask? With the secret knowledge that im wearing the sexiest underware that would make him simply throw himself on me if he could see it. This secret knowledge/power keeps me grinning all night!
My secret weapon is to show the person I’m seeing I have a special interest in him, yet he has to do an effort to get more of me.
being able to walk in uber high heels seems to intrigue the male of the species,..... also my perfume seems to attract a lot in interest
bit of a nerdy story…my very first boyfriend (at the tender age of ten) bought me a little cloth flower and i took it on all our ‘dates’. i found it years later and took it on my next date as a bit of a gag…and eventually the flower just started coming on all dates. it’s kinda nice having it with me and it makes me even more charming (or so i think)
My secret weapon is myself. If you don’t want me exactly as I am, then you’re obviously not worth my time.
Gala you have a hot booty! No booty model needed for your magical knickers =D
Working in retail gave me the ultimate weapon in being able to talk to ANYONE. Which has helped in first dates enormously, it puts him and me at ease and it means we can talk to each other all night long.
A strapless dress, but not for the cleavage:
According to my past (and future) boys, my secret weapon is 100% sexy because it implies nudity, but is in fact classy enough for a family affair.
Secret weapon = collarbones
Go figure.
Also, a trick is to perfume your wrists and the base of your head, right where your hairline ends. That way, if you toss your hair or move your head, the lovely aroma of YOU gets in the air and some guys just can’t get enough of that.
my burberry perfume. my typewriter necklace.
Working the cleavage! My favorite perfume from Hard Candy; I’ve never seen guys react so universally well to one scent! Oh, and I’d probably play it a little mysterious-make sure they have a reason to call back, and all that.
Miss Dior Cherie, without a doubt.
condoms!!
have fun and play it safe:)
i’ve only been on a handful of real dates… and since i’m taken i never have to have a secret weapon now… sort of.
everywhere i go i have a pre-going-out party. rock some awesome tunes and dance really silly. the dancing gives me feel good endorphins and it also releases pheromones in my sweat.
now there is no scientific evidence that this is what has won the heart of the few men that have been in my life. but my boyfriend likes to dance too. so maybe!
Honesty, charm, and humor! My sexy librarian glasses (because, um, I always wear them so they always have to come with). And perfume, of course. This even inspired the last boy to start wearing deodorant (yeah, I know, right? but he was like, “Oh, she is wearing perfume and thus bringing her A-game, so I better straighten up and fly right!”).
My undivided attention and no knickers!
Well it would have to be my beautiful (even if I do say so myself!!) naturally curly hair.
That teamed with my massively chubby cheeked smile and the double Ds strapped into a push up bra, what else could I need/ he want??
I think being my sarcastic, passionate and opinionated self is enough, but I usually always win them over with my fantastic vegan cooking. But lately I’ve noticed that people tend to like me even more when I give them cupcakes. So cupcakes it is (is there anything sweeter/cuter, really?) and those knickers would be the cherry on the top (of the iCiNG!).
wearing interesting “props” that become conversation starting pieces. for example, a handcuff necklace with working handcuffs or a huge pair of earrings, or a graphic tee shirt. it gets us talking about what i like, then what he likes, and then its just a big flirty snowball effect from there!
false eyelashes and a fabulous smile! x
My secret weapon for LIFE is the Law of Attraction, yo! But as for good luck with My Secret Agent Promising Stranger…?
My ULTRA secret, tell-nobody, kinda weird secret of seduction: wearing a little of, um, my own perfume. It’s an old stripper trick, supposedly girljuice has the same pheromone-y effect as being sweaty. Makes you irresistable, if you dare to try it!
p.s. Gala, your bootybootybooty is rockin’ everywhere.
bus riding.
A chloroform-soaked rag. ;)
Is it wrong that I feel like I don’t even need a secret weapon because I am so awesome? Haha.
And I love the photos! I agree with the person above — no booty model needed for you!
My imagination! If he’s not charmed by my whimsical nature, it’s not meant to be!
My secret weapon is “Let’s go!”
I say it on pretty much every date if I don’t know them very well- The followup question is generally “Where?” and the answer is “Anywhere!”
I’ve ended up at rock concerts, gardens, rich people’s backyards, clubs, closed swimming pools, and petting zoos, to name a few. I mean really, how well do you get to know people over dinner? The real person shines through when you’re walking through the arboretum hand-in-hand or riding a llama together.
I’d have to say my secret weapon is eye contact. I find that the most time I can get someone to look me in the eyes and see me smiling from them instead of just from my mouth, the better. Even if I blush from chin to cheek (which I usually do) the whole time, the eyes will do it everytime!!!
Skirts and knee socks ;) And no lipstick. Just gloss. And Jean Paul Gaultier perfume. Yepppp.
P.S. I can’t believe I read recently that you don’t like your upper thighs. What? They’re teeny! Pssh.
i always wear fantastic black under garments & a fabulous low cut shirt : D
I am, at my essence and deepest parts of my soul, old fashioned. Thus I believe that when on dates with adorable or foxy friends or strangers one should be equipped with a cupcake made with lots of magic and a good heaping of sweetness to woo her love. Said friend/stranger will be so dazzled they’ll wonder what their life was like without you in it.
I have two rather odd secret weapons:
1 is my accent – it’s somewhere on the generic “posh” British side but for some reason guys I’ve dated seem to love it! Perhaps it’s because I sound like a school teacher!
2 is my utterly nerdy interests. I’m a thoroughly girly girl, but I also love fast cars, ‘planes and video games! I think this is actually my main secret weapon – I can look the fragile femenine part, but also chat to “the lads” quite happily!
hmm i have been off the market but if I were to be on a date again and wanted to seal the deal my secret weapons would be:
- my awesomely brilliant LED light up belt which allows you to program in any message you like, id probably have it saying something like “ i’m actually an echidna”. If he was still hanging around and interested after such a blatant exhibition of insanity then i’d know he’d be the man for me!
My patented look. Works especially well over dinner.
When he says something funny, laugh, glance down at your plate, then make eye contact with a smile still on your face, and then take a bite of food.
That and I’m a psychology/pre-med major. Sexy + intelligence = HOT
Secret weapon: Eye contact. Nuff said
I’ll make him think like he’s never thought before.
Along with my natural carny charm, I like to show my skills at prestidigitation. :)
Secret weapon? *Good table manners. *
Sexy pick up lines current favourite involves ordering steak at my favourite pub (cute guy works there) and when he asks how i want my steak I say “rare like your smile”
Happy times!
I haven’t been on a date in for ever, (married, y’see) but in my head if I went on a date with someone new I’d make sure I was wearing clothes that are comfortable but fetching and I’d dazzle him with my sense of humour.
my adorkulosity!
I’ve never been on a date either.
HOWEVER.
I’m just going to generalise it to everday life.
My lack of sanity. Either people love me or just don’t.
And I guess that would work everything out quite fine.
and my necklace with the ghost, because it rocks.
Also, your butt is quite fine.
Thanks for all the butt props ;>
I’d have to say two things: my smile, because I still have braces and the men I date just LOVE the innocence of it…
...and my accent – I’m a Kiwi, but I spent the second half of my life in Canada. North American men just love the accent.
Failing that, a collar & leash has always resulted in interesting things. ;)
i always have a bath and pamper myself with goodies before a special date…if you feel good it shows
I keep a hair ribbon or a five Icelandic kronur piece in my pocket. They keep me calm through my fingertips!
Being different helps. There aren’t many Ukrainian girls around here, so individualism is definitely a plus.
Humour and a ‘Mary Poppins style’ bag full of random goodies just in case things get a bit awkward or quiet.
“Hey look, a comic book! Oh and a badge from my favourite band. oh OH! and this giant rubber band ball!”
Please & Thank-yous (they are the magic words)!
Little make up, and letting my real self shine through =)
I keep a pair of antlers (I do collect them) in the back of my car because it adds to the mystery. I’m a girly girl and it always gets guys confused and intrigued.
Also order a side of bacon, that’s super sexy. ;)
i think i’ve only been on one official date! (or maybe i’m just being biased because my ex was a huge jerk.) i don’t have any secrets besides trying to look my best. i wear an outfit that i can feel comfortable and confident in, my special victoria secrets bra (the only vs bra i own) that i save for special occasions, pay more attention to my makeup than usual (i.e. apply my eyeliner as carefully as possible; i don’t wear more makeup than i normally do though), make sure my hair is as tame as possible, and spritz on some light perfume before i leave!
the most important thing for me is a comfortable outfit that shows off my “interesting” style, without completely overdoing it. it makes me feel the most confident, because it’s hard to feel good about myself when i’m worrying about my tights slipping or my dress being too short!
being yourself is a given, of course. :)
manners, money, messy-ness ie: spilling a thick shake all over my lap @_@
p.s Im putting another hand up for the “Gala derrière appreciation group”, you should be a “booty model”!
My secret weapon has to be my humour! :)
I’m (usually) a very optimistic person, so when things go wrong on a date (think: horrible food,a way too cheesy movie,ripping my new dress when climbing over fences… :) ),I will always find a way to make the poor boy feel at ease. Although my enthusiasm can be frightening to some, the good ones are utterly charmed by it! Plus: I don’t see the point of being tough and playing (too) hard to get when undivided attention for your date makes things so much more fun.
P.S.: If I had sparkling magical knickers, my naughty grin would never leave my face :)
Apparently pink hair is all sorts of charming! That coupled with sarcastic sauciness balanced by quasi-shyness makes people nuts! :>
Also, smelling like something fruity or sugary to match candy-pink hair also helps. A lot!!
American Cream hair conditioner from Lush! The guy will always comment how great your hair smells.
My secret weapon?
I believe it’s all in the perfect dress. I have a petite frame with curves in all the right places (large bust, small waist, hips, slim legs) and I’ve got a couple of “secret weapon” dresses – or, as I call them, my “Monroe dresses” because it creates a sexy silhouette just like Marilyn Monroe. My favorite is a black one with tiny white polkadots all over it, a runched ribbon-tie bit on the bust, cap sleeves and it is absolutely skin tight without being crude or trashy – boyfriends have told me that you get the perfect idea of what’s underneath while still retaining mystery and it drives them crazy!
Top it off with some sexy high heels and maybe a dash of red lipstick (and, if I am really in the mood, individual fake eye lashes) and I immediately feel like a sex kitten. You can’t help but act a little kittenish, like Marilyn ;)
#226 FTW.
Red lipstick. It’s pretty much my everything.
My sexy and smart wit above everything! If not, then prolly my sexycrazycool dance moves. heh.
Secret weapon? Well, I don’t really like to think of it as a means of destruction! Quite the opposite, really – whenever I meet new people, I try my hardest to focus on enjoying myself rather than worrying about how I look or sound. I am a bit shy when I meet new people, and I know that I am at my most charming when I am oozing confidence, as most people are.
So, to overturn pre-date nerves, I would wear something that I know I look amazing in – I have a dress that was my grandmother’s in the 70’s, and it fits me like a glove, showing off all my best bits, and the loud pattern on it screams sass. I would spray some warm smelling perfume, curl my lashes and put on some beautiful shoes. I would listen to something sugary beforehand (think Spice Girls) and make sure I dance a lot, even if it’s completely inappropriate to do so. ;)
That said though, like a couple of nonpareils above, I’ve never actually been on a date. It’ll happen soon though, I have no doubt in that. I’m sure magical knickers would help the cause!
My secret wapon: being me! :D From my very own pair of bright green eyes with the totally cool turbo-option to mesmerize, to my unique charm and humour! Superwoman eat your heart out baby! ;)
My secret weapon? Pink lipstick and a smile ;)
Something i plan to do when out on a date with the husband : wear really nice underwear… and write naughty messages on my body… for him to discover ;)
My weapon would have to by my eyes, a lovely shade of blue, I sparkle and Smile with them! Everyone gets lost in my eyes.
i find that taking my date somewhere where i am able to be really energetic is probably my “secret weapon”. i like going to things like laser skirmish so i can run around with all the ten year olds. oh, it’s a hoot.
:)
I usually dazzle guys with my eyes. Long deep look into theirs and they are on hook. Also a little laughter never hurt anybody! :)
Other than your magical sparkling knickers, what’s your secret weapon on a date with a promising stranger?
A very large bottle of Rum.
(I don’t get out often…)
YES!! for #226!
Aside from supercalifragiolisticixpialodocious underwear, my secret weapon is to dance around in said underwear before the big date. I just have a flailingly enthusiastic one-person dance party in my room, play air guitar, do flying split leaps off my bed, sing duets with my stuffed animals….y’know how it is. Although one time, I was alone in my house, and I was quite happily doing my interpretation of that classic “Risky Business” scene…when my date showed up a bit early. And I, completely unaware of this, was still dancing. In my underwear.
I also make sure to be kind to everyone we encounter on the date (although this is a good rule to follow in general), be a good listener, tell random, funny and innuendo-laden stories, find the hilarious in the little details (and point them out to my date), wear clothes that flatter my personality and my 6’2 frame, and just be my awkward-yet-endearing dazzling self!
My secret weapon would have to be just being myself! Confident, honest, funny and laid back. How could anyone refuse!
xxx
My secret weapons are my tattoos. I have one on each collarbone, and they’re quite small and intricate, all linework. I have long red hair which usually covers them but it’s always good to be able to flick it aside and show them off. It never fails to get a “hey, can I have a look at your tattoos”?, which of course means leaning in to get a good look at my decolletage! Muahahaha.
#270 story rocks! he was a stranger date, or you knew him?
as sexy lingerie is obvious for a date (as you girls said – helps being confident)
~ show legs not boobs. legs are sexy and not too obvious- like boobs are.
~ if i’ll see he has the proper level of humour and absurde i can tell him few stories i made up, maby few hilarious anegdotes. but always let him to talk if he wants.
~ take him to the playground. it always worked;)
so summing up thrill him with my spontanity yet feminity. be confident and be myself with a twist (amelie poulain mixed with lolita and 50’s housewife and catwoman and film noir beauty)
basically, damn. you’ve all somehow did mentioned all of that before me:)
I always have a sheet of sparkly rainbow happy face stickers on my bookshelf – when the time comes for meeting a cute boy, I’ll stick one (in a colour that matches my outfit, haha) on an undergarment.
All through the night, I’ve got a secret that nobody else knows. An innocent and novelty secret like that can make for a great reason to smile!
If it’s still there by the end of the night, I’ll know I hadn’t danced enough. ;)
my sparkling wit :-)
My Secret Weapons of Seduction are
Enthusiasm
Confidence
Tequila (okay, that was in poor taste)
A Naughty Grin ;)
My Lucky Pacman Necklace
Perfume – anything that smells like Vanilla
Although you can’t beat sexy lingerie for it’s magical sauce-mistress powers. At the very least, it makes me extra charming because I want to be able to show off my awesome knickers by the end of the night.
PS. Oh Gala! Your rockin’ booty has me all a flutter!
PPS. Props to all the ladies who said they were their own secret weapons of seduction! Respect sister!
Wit, heels, lipstick, and burberry london perfume!
make up remover wipes, just in case there’s a morning after ;)
panda eyes = not sexy! Of course there has to be covert makeup removal so I look like I just woke up looking fresh and lovely, which is slightly more problematic…
Well, I’d have to say the first weapon I employ is to pick boys silly enough to like me – I like to know the guys I go out with a little before I go on dates because I am a little bit weird. I frequently get so nervous eating in front of new people that I will be the only one in a group at a restaurant with no food. I don’t like it, I’m trying to change it, but until it changes, these things have to be borne in mind. So, if my prospecive datee seems like he’d be willing to put up with that for a while, he gets the Charlie seal of approval.
After that, I guess it’s my quirks. I’ve been with Mr Charlie for very nearly three years now (even though I’ve not been in the same country for over two months, grr) and I think some of my charms are my playful self-confidence, my unusual habits like picking up leaflets to read later, and accidentally speaking in poetry and then realising and making a joke out of it. I think Mr Charlie finds my talent for languages very charming too, and my obvious enthusiasm for it.
So I suppose, after that ramble, it’s just be myself! I feel like whenever I try to dress like a vixen it never works because I’m not the kind of beautiful I want to be, I’m just me. I reckon I’d be a lot better off if I just came to terms with that and really relished it :)
I suppose my secret weapon is the fact that I am a totally and completely ridiculous person. Either they love that or they don’t, and if they don’t, I could do better anyway.
the fact that my eyelashes are long enough to touch my glasses lenses even without mascara probably doesn’t hurt, either. nor does a good pushup bra.
A handkerchief. Especially if going out for dinner. You never know what might happen that will require subtle mopping up! Me, clumsy? Never!
Also GLITTER! Lots of it, on my eyes, cheeks, chest. Being able to sparkle is just, well, magic.
I wear my favorite perfume- redhead in bed!
Plus a super cute pair of jeans that make my butt look great doesn’t hurt either.
My darling petite crown pin. It always reminds me of my first love who was one of the sweetest lads I have ever met.
I use the same grace and suggestiveness I use on stage (I am a Burly Q performer)
-eye contact
-a confident walk
-an air of femininity
my sense of humourBurly Q is as much about comedy as it is about titilation-my titilations. lol
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I use the same grace and suggestiveness I use on stage (I am a Burly Q performer)
-eye contact
-a confident walk
-an air of femininity
-my sense of humour Burly Q is as much about comedy as it is about titilation
-my titilations. lol
x
My sexy attitude! I am not always very confident but I know that I can be magical. I can turn the head of everyone in a room at the same time as I can make the one person I’m interested in feel like they are the only one that exists for me.
...but for the days when I have a hard time believing that that ever happened and need some help in the magic departement I would truly love to have a pair of icing knickers to put on.
When I’m going into a situation when I want to sparkle I write words that make me happy and inspire me on my wrist…
inconspicuously of course!
and then if I want to i can wash them off later.
but they boost my confidence!
damn, never had a REAL date.
but probably putting up my hair, having a good beauty sleep and not whining (which sometimes is a problem for me). and it is very important to have one very specific ring with me. i feel naked without it.
My secret weapons are: taking a strawberry bubble bath & utilizing the powerful effects of shocking pink bra straps which randomly appear under black clothing! Shiney hair & a big smile are not to be forgotten as well ;)
- A wickedly funny personality, intelligence & confidence, which goes hand in hand with:
- A luscious pair of sky-high heels
(right now I am living in Chloe’s red and black wedge, lace-up, doc-like shoes, :P make me feel like aphrodite’s rebel sister)
- Big sexy curls
(I’m a believer in massive rockstar hair!!)
- And a cheeky air of mystery! ;)
thumb war
and a yummy scent like vanilla
:)
On a date with a promising stranger, hmmm…
My secret:
I always wear my charm bracelet, with charms that match our dating location (like a football charm if we watch soccer, a little star if we go to the movies, a flower if we go on a picnick, etc..)
And I have a little ritual before I leave for a date.
It always works. Just once, I messed up the ritual. The date I had on that day turned out to be one of the worst I ever had…
Other than that I always go for a natural&cute or an elegant&cute look, depending on the occasion >.<
My best smile, a good bra, and a great pair of heels.
My bitchin’ sense of humour, and my sexed up six-inch heels… ;o)
I’m a really impressionable person in regards to movies and books. If I like a character in a book or a movie, it stays with me for a few hours after I finish the thing. So if I’ve never actually done this consciously, but the times when I have read a book or watched a movie with a really great female character in it, I’ve had really great dates because I guess I unconsciously end up adopting their mannerisms slightly.
Female characters I love are that girl from pulp fiction (not uma thurman, but the other one who liked blueberry pancakes and wanted “a pot”... she is my ideal woman) and Naomi from the Tanazaki book with that name.
I have never actually done this for a date, but on the days when I have randomly ended up reading / watching a good character, my dates have been really fun.
I guess on a date, I shave my legs and wear nice clothes and underwear. Just like everyone else.
my secret weapon?
my creamsicle scented body spray.
i only have a little left, so it’s only for special occasions.
no one, and i mean NO ONE can resist someone who smells like a delectable summer treat.
i know this, because i have been told it several times by cute fellows who find my irresistible.
On the build up to a date when you really don’t know much about each other at all, I try to remain as mysterious and intriguing as possible, but when it comes to actual dates, I don’t have a secret weapon.
I’m not claiming that I never do anything to make myself prettier or more appealing like other girls, but I find that – as tempting as it is – if I have to change myself too drastically in order to win someone over, they’re obviously not the one for me. There’s nothing sexier than a good sense of humor and a lovely personality, so I try to just have fun.
(Saying that, it doesn’t hurt to have fluttery eyelashes and delicious perfume — e.g. ‘Pure Poison’ by Dior)
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I’ve never been on a date, but my secret weapon would undoubtedly be Philosophy’s Baby Grace perfume- I feel more like myself whenever I wear it- and a touch of EFT beforehand to get rid of nerves and convince myself that it’s going to be fabulous.
Sounds corny, but my secret weapon would be my smile :D
EYE CONTACT TO THE EXTREEEEME!
i get complimented a lot on my eyes, so i like staring at people really intensely when they’re speaking to me. but not in a creepy way haha. it seems to work!
A lot of tea, wearing glitter on my face and surrounding myself with the most amazing people beforehand.
My favorite pair of jeans not only helps my outfit for the date but it boosts my confidence !! Confidence is the number one thing that must be brought to a date.
my secret weapon is applying white eye shadow in the inner corner of my eyes.. it really opens up my eyes so when i am dreamily gazing at my date he can be captivated by my eyes.
Man is it really sad if I say knowledge?
I’m afraid I’m categorised in the geek area of knowledge – one snippet of HTML, D&D, Warhammer or Playstation 3 games and pow! You have their full attention! Thats the blessing of being slighty nerdy and having a brother interested in all things geek.
Haha! But a fine cleavage and a smile works wonders also!
miss dior cherie! BOY BAIT!
Oh, Gala, I’m sure none of us mind your booty-shots!
Paying real, real attention to the other person is the most important thing when you’re on a date, which, I think it’s important to note, is way different from fawning over them. It’s more being genuinely engaged. Even if you have to fake it a little, it works!
But cleavage doesn’t hurt, either…
Hmmm… all of these have been said before, but they’re true! My secret weapons are a silk camisole (visible or otherwise, it feel so sexy and totally boosts your confidence!), hair that isn’t pinned or glued in place, and my dry sense of humour. Also, I gotta say it… I rarely wear heels… I always feel too tall in them (even though I’m only 5’5”), and that can come across as being uncomfortable with the person or situation, even if it’s just my shoes. Besides, cute flats leave you ready for anything!
My ability to have an interesting conversation and pretending to be at ease in any situation.
Spending extra time on my hair with my sweet flat iron and a sick pair of shoes.
Oh wow, I haven’t been on a date in ages!! But I’m told I’m a big flirt. My secret weapon other than self-confidence is body language. Once I get your promising stranger talking, I slightly lean in. I keep eye contact and nod to give clues I’m still paying attention. Also, I touch my neck or touch my hair. I never forget to SMILE SMILE SMILE.
My eyelashes and smile. They can get me anywhere.
Unless it’s an occasion that requires lots of dressing up… favourite pair of jeans. I’m comfortable and confident in them, and I’d rather spend less time thinking about my outfit and more time thinking about the date.
I sound a bit like an advert, sorry.
Attitude!
I’m married to the only guy I ever dated…..so I’m not to experienced on the date thing….. whenever we do go out somewhere kind of special though I always revert back to the old perfume I wore when we met in school. I’m not like a one scent kind of girl, but that one always makes us feel that rush you have when you are young and everything is a bit more new and exciting. This underwear thing is awesome and hilarious. I feel like I should be going on some kind of quest fighting dragons and stuff for a pair of magical knickers…..hmmmm…...modern children’s story???
I would have to say a pair of sexy tights & a come hither stare over my glasses will get them any time.
;)
My secret weapon(s) is my favourite perfume and Lush’s Silky Underwear dusting powder (which smells slightly of jasmine). It makes me feel incredibly beautiful and not to mention alluring.
Ah! The knickers! I hope you’ll be putting ones like those up for sale some time, because I want to buy pairs in different colours when I get back home from Shanghai (although that’s not before in May).
I wear my favorite perfume (Nina by Nina Ricci) and earrings I made from a necklace a friend gave to me before she moved to Japan – there’s enough left on the necklace to wear them as an awesome set: i36.tinypic.com/9igymd.jpg
I’m my own secret weapon.
Knocks my boy over everytime.
;)
My secret weapon is this kinda cheap marshmallow-y scented Nightmare Before Christmas perfume that I got from Hot Topic somewhere near a billion years ago. It smells so yummy, lasts so long, and has so many good memories tied to it that I’m always my usual upbeat and quirky self when I wear it, no matter how my day has been.
For my body: LAMB perfume by Gwen Stefani (channelling powerful women never fails!)
For everything else: my moleskine. I jot down interesting facts and talking points everywhere I go, so if there’s a lull in the conversation, help is only an arm’s-length away!
My secret weapon is my confidence and my smile. :D
no one can resist a genuine smile. The kind where you smile with your eyes. I’m pretty sure I have gotten that technique down!
also a little charm, a good make-up job and fabulous (make-him-think-about-running-his-hands-through-your) hair doesn’t hurt either! ;)
I do not fear the awkward. This makes me almost entirely fearless on a date. Girls are always saying stupid, pointless things just to make sure something is being said. I’m perfectly comfortable with a silence.
My secret weapon when I need a boost of confidence is to load up on my family’s jewels. It is so easy to be confident when you sparkle and shine.
I wear something that makes me feel fabulous & also, if I’ve made an effort with my hair it gives me extra self confidence. :>
My secret weapon is totally my personality. I can totally get any guys attention with that.
the scent of apples, red lips, and a pencil skirt!
That one scent that makes you feel like a goddess.
I use the right perfume an find an excuse to cuddle. I also usually wear a necklace that hangs close to mah boobehs.
eye contact. it’s something i used to have a huge problem doing, but after a while of forcing myself to look in peoples eyes it comes naturally. now i feel strange if i’m not looking at someone when we’re talking, especially on a date of course! a genuine smile doesn’t hurt either, obviously.
*and of course wearing sexy lingerie underneath whatever i happen to choose to wear on the outside – makes me feel sexy which gives off a good vibe i feel ;)
A sense of humour, a tendency to swear like a sailor and being excellent at shin-kicking.
Weird combo, but somehow it works.
I’ve never been on a date, but my secret weapon? My iPod. I have a really wide variety of music on it, and I’ve never known anyone who didn’t find something they liked on it. Having it makes me feel secure, I don’t know why. And what’s better than feeling secure on a date? (again, not that I would know, but I can imagine.)
A swipe of electric lime green eyeshadow & a pearl necklace.
how are you reading all of these??!! sheesh. soooo adorable I had to join this one! lights out!
I’ve not been on a date with a sexy stranger before, but definitely red lipstick & 40s heels. You can’t go wrong with the 40s. Beyond that, however, I really don’t care. If they’re out with me, I must’ve done something to impress them, so, corny as it sounds, my secret weapon is just being me, maybe? With really hot heels.
Perfume!! some cleavage but not too much! All over the place hair! I dont know how to be on heels but if i could definetely!
Nobody can resist you if your neck smells like vanilla. Granted.
My secret weapon for a date is my sparkly, giant, rhinestone, heart shaped ring. I wear it on my middle finger and always rest my head in that hand while batting my eyelashes seductively, works every time.
Girly pink heels and form-fitting jeans- not always in combination. My widespread love of music and generally fun-loving (though sometimes quite philosophical) attitude probably help more though. It’s very hard to find someone I like who isn’t interested in either music of philosophy :)
My nails! At the right length, they can drive a guy crazy.. and just by holding hands!
I always make sure to dress as sexy as possible for the date, keeping in mind the activity and where we are going. It’s not good to show up for rock climbing in a slinky black dress and heels. I’ve also found that being candid and friendly goes a long way, all the men I’d be interested in sticking with long term will have to learn that about my sense of humor sooner or later! If I really want to kick it up a notch on a non-rock climbing date I wear my 50’s bustier/girdle number with garters. It’s difficult to not feel like a vixen wearing those!
/////////// Ode to happy courting //////////////
*** sparkly pants and compliment rants “”“”“”
^^^^^^^ nervous giggles and hip wiggles {{{{
&&&&& cherry knotting* and high-heel totting +++
——- all for a glorious date, make ——-
*http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=d1pNvRIAtYY
ps consider your cute butt pinched ;)
The cleavage. I have fairly large boobs, so I couldn’t draw attention away from them if I tried. Why not use them to my advantage? ;)
Also, being able to hold my own in a game of Guilty Gear generally helps. :D
An innocent but flirty/sexy attitude (and lace undergarments)
A great dance mix while I’m getting ready!
I usually put one of my favorite playlists on + bop around the room beforehand. If there’s something there to help me wiggle into my outfit, then I go into the date with a great, excited attitude. :)
The Midnight Pomegranite line at bath and body works (amazing)...and…my lucky glow in the dark purple bra!!!!
You mean other than my dizzying intellect, sexy swagger, and keen sense of style? Haha. Well, I would have to say some lip and cheek tint doesn’t hurt, and neither does a push-up bra. Although if this man of mystery has already asked me on a date, I’ll assume he already likes what he sees and therefore scintillating conversation will be the real sharp-shooting weapon.
Frontsies bra
deffinately
Extra mascara, perfume I love (whatever it is at the moment), and a reaffirmed belief that I am fucking amazing and he’s lucky to be with me. Forcing myself to behave more confidently than I feel works every time; someone always comments.
I’m with whoever was talking about great music to inspire confidence beforehand. I listen to some sexy dance jams and bring all that sass out on the date with me!
A sense of adventure! The excitement that brings the lovely sparkle to your eye.
My super ultrasecret weapon is carrying a double purpose item with me, when I’m dating someone I don’t know very well it let’s us play. Having a sex-infused item i.e. having a long red ribbon in my hair and using it to blindfold and kiss, it starts as a game but it always helps… sharing candyy also serves gummys, chocolate.. anything ! or carrying something that will raise questions and the best of the best, always being really honest when those questions come… I love hearing “down-to-earth” as part of my description… gives guys the confidence to start something, and you keep the stop sign for whenever you want … really really good weapons
bright-uber-sparkly-pink toes & a matching bellybutton ring ;D
pixie dust or shimmer powder all over!
... or an “i voted” sticker on election niiight!!!!
Huge hair and stompy, kick-ass boots (in case he has to be taught a lesson)!
i dont think my life will be complete until I have magical sparkly underthings.
My secret weapon is definitely my eyes. I can get away with most people not noticing but if I look you in the eyes then you’re hooked! I used to play a game as a I walked around campus and catch as many guys eyes as possible and see how many of them it affected. I would say a good 95%! Thank goodness for unusual colored eyes!
something my date couldn’t possibly know about…
like the vibrator in my purse or that i’m wearing naughty underwear.
red lipstick to show that I never kiss on the first date! (which would always beg a second…)
Tousled bedhead hair, Fragonard perfume and a sexy smile. Done.
One has many secret weapons. The first would have to be wearing something that makes me feel sexy. Confidence is always the best weapon. Then there’s vanilla spray. I’ve heard it makes boys feel cozy and happy. And it smells yummy. I also always have some bright blue nail polish and some boots. Pretty hands to conjure magic, and pretty feet to carry me far.
I have to say that my smile is the one thing I like about myself and it is the one thing that I can take anywhere to any activity! :)
It was and still is the main thing my boyfriend loves about me, and according to him it was the main thing that made him fall in love with me!
That is why it would be my one item to take on a date!
Sunshine & Sparkles.
xxxx
Confidence. Not stuck-up-edness, but feeling secure in yourself and knowing who you are (or at least faking it really well). If you go in there with the attitude that the date will be great, then even if it isn’t you’ll still feel like you got something out of it.
Wearing sexy heels with a demure skirt (to get that somewhat nerdy-chic look) and, invariably, I get flutters in my stomach so I end up getting excited during conversation and blushing, despite myself. I think that natural glow hooks guys. :)
I find subtle costume dressing always works for me. Nothing too overt but something that just hints at a stereotypical boy fantasy…schoolgirl, sexy secretary ect..
The double bonus is that I also gain a bit of voltage out of the fantasy :D
Big eyelashes, some charm, a smile and a wink.
CONFESSION: i have never been on a date. . . .
BUT if i did . . .
i would have to say a nice relaxing bubble bath or hot shower to take away the nerves, an outfit where you feel a stunnah in because lets face it you gotta feel good to look good, and just being myself (cliche i know but true)
oh and the perfume YOU love that will make HIM go WILD! and a pair of icing magical knickers :P
sophh bee
xx
Sandalwood oil
I like to sing along to really loud soul music when I get ready to go out. A little Aretha or James Brown brings my energy right up!
Read “How to let someone know that you like them” written by… oh my.. Gala it was you! :)
And then: Smile and always think:
WwGd? (What would Gala do?)
PS: Honestly?
I would KILL to have a booty like yours!
Pushing myself with good music before I go, wearing an outfit that makes me feel comfy and confident, and then just being myself =) Always works!
I’d say my secret weapon is my special perfume that I make from lavender, rose and cherry blossom extract.
It smells divine yet it’s subtle enough to sneak up on you! :D
Listen to some great music – to get me in whatever mood seems appropriate!; put on some extra-slinky lingerie, some great perfume and an outfit that makes me feel like a women worth “having”! And take that however you please!
Gala, your bum is killer ._.
Be your own booty model!
Alrighty, on to business…because these shiny magical undies are calling to me.
I don’t go on a whole lot of dates, but when I do my strategy is simply chilling out and being myself. People can tell the difference between someone who’s genuinely interested and someone who’s just slathering on the sugary sweetness to try and impress. Besides, being my naturally odd self makes for very interesting turns of conversation!
Aside from that, I’ll wear something that looks killer (because I’m not ashamed of my modestly endowed chest, or my kickin’ hips) and just have fun with it. Because let’s face it…if you feel the need to try THAT hard to be impressive, you’ll wind up with an unrealistic image to keep up with on your second date…third date…fourth date. Why bother being anyone but yourself? :D
I feel like I’m rambling, so I’m done now. Good luck to all magical-panty enthusiasts!
Coco Chanel!
5 Glasses of Wine.
my ring! (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v160/notyetdead/PICT0050.jpg) i’ve worn it every day for the past four years, and cry any day i misplace it. i fiddle with it whenever i’m nervous. if i do it the right way my date will notice it and ask about it. then i get to show them and go off into a nerdy rant which makes me feel more comfortable. it’s always easy to talk about something you care about! besides who doesn’t like batman?!
Confidence and a smile =)
An idea for where to go on a date, or where to go afterwards! If you’re really enjoying your date, but the restaurant closes at 10 and it’s already 9:45, the only option shouldn’t be going back to one of your places. You know, midnight walks, hole-in the wall music stores, coffee places that are open until midnight. And if you do want to go back to one of your places, well, you do always have your lovely underwear!
Of course, if the requirement was an actual object to bring, I would wear a statement necklace… what better way to create conversation than a little harmonica around your neck or (my favorite necklace!) one of woven chain links? Absolutely ridiculous but also fun.
fake eyelashes!
Red heels & sarcastic humor.
I talk about funny dreams I’ve had, so we can talk about our dreams and laugh at them.
Also, those iCiNG knickers look splendid.
i spritz a little perfume on all the places i want to be kissed! (:
m.a.c. ruby woo and a virginia slim
Rei — That ring is amazing!
Oh Gala, you’re too funny. My Secret weapon is charm and I pour it on thick. Being a Libra that is my area of expertise. Charm and Confidence has never let me down once. Never.
I keep my dignity, integrity, pride, knowledge and honesty close by. Seeing so many chicks lose their shit for a guy is enough to make me realise these things are the most important secret weapons on a date. No one is worth compromising your very core. Keep your head ladies!
Also a sly smile and some seriously crude humour usually works a treat…
My bambi eyes… :)
Smile, Laugh, Listen.
A happy girl is always attractive.
Ummmmmmmmm, I’d have to say a spare 5, kid free minutes, as my promising stranger would be my husband.
That’s all it would take.
New knickers, 5 minutes.
Happy parents…XXxx.
Violent violet nail polish. Confidence +!
I always end up saying something awkward that I probably shouldn’t, but it’s a great way to break the ice! Plus it’s a big part of my personality, so it’s good if he knows that right away.
A smile and nothing else. ;D
No, but seriously? My Burt’s Bee’s lipbalm in papaya – I love the fruit itself because it tastes like congealed sunshine and I love the color of the balm itself because who doesn’t love congealed sunshine gleaming on their lips? Plus, it’s uber-moisturizing and makes my mouth look luscious.
flavoured nipple stimulant cream! i smear it on my lips and it makes them flushed and poofy, it tastes awesome, i feel like a sex goddess and my lips feel pretty damn cool too.
my confidence is a dead ringer, too! and if a man isn’t attracted to my hearty appetite, then obviously he isn’t worth the time.
my secret weapon is being myself! there’s nothing hotter than your own personality.
Sleep and if not that the little black dress :D
For me, it’s ALL about the music you play before the date, whilst you get ready to go out. It sets the tone of the evening PERFECTLY.
Little bit of Jurassic 5 followed by anything from The Sugarhill Gang to Biggie to Snoop & Dre.
Or if I’m not in a hip-hop mood (as if) Regina Spektor can be pretty awesome to get ready to.
Hmmm… Have I ever been like a real, real date. Here in Finland there is no date culture like there in big USA.
Lemme think… Yeah, of cause my personality, which is, of course, charming and that is why I am in those dates beging with. My wit, weird sense of humour, favorite skirt/dress and my fav parfume. Last time I was out with a stranger (fab night btw) he was just amazed because of my rock´n roll attitude! No matter you wear but if you are feeling happy it really shows!
I really have to share this one with you, Gala. My identical twin went to army few years ago and told me that everytime she went out for a evening spare times every woman there (sometime they just had their uniforms which made them look more man than ladies), went infront of a mirror before they leaved the builind and look themselfs in the eyes and said out loud “Vitun hyvä” which means kinda same that “damn good” (or “F*ckn good). I do it always before I go out from my flat. Just check myself from da mirror and look myself in the eyes and say to myself that Im looking damn fine (even though I am totally tired etcetc). Who I would believe if not myself?
i listen to fun music and dance while i’m getting ready so i go out with a huge smile! :]
brushing your hair against their hand accidentally (i guess not so easy to do if you have short hair hehe!)
Gala, your bum is sexsational!
My secret weapon?
A genuine laugh and a little bit of mystery. Always leave ‘em enchanted and wondering…
My sense of humour. That way, even if the date was a total flop, at least I can have a giggle about it :)
Charm and wit. ;) The best accessories.
I always felt self conscious about my teeth as a kid so I made a point to find an amazing dentist and got them all fixed to perfection (but kept some natural looking qualities to them) and had them whitened so now whenever I leave the house, on a date or otherwise, I smile almost the entire time!
People take a double look at my marvelous mouth and it makes me feel famous!
Haha! Sooo many people talking about eating well on a date! I don’t even need to not eat all day to enjoy a date meal!!! (just don’t order something that gets stuck in your fangs!)
For me it would be:
sparkly knickers!
crazy & dry wit!
knowing I have a my brazilian – even if he doesn’t find out right away!
lip gloss, curls landing just so, legs on full display and a sense of humor:)
I have a <b>raspberry beret</b> that makes me feel super-saucy, and it definitely shows when I wear it! I’m always just a little more quick-witted and confident with it on.
super sexy lingerie!!! even tho he will most likely not get to see it (ha unless hes lucky) it just makes me feel super hot and confident!!!
my secret weapon is my lovely legs. I just have to shave so they’re silky soft and wear one of my many lovely dresses and I’ll feel golden.
I just had the perfect date! And it was all done with confidence and a smile ….. ahhhhhhhh i am on Cloud 9!
x
Wonderbra! Who needs big boobs when you’ve got one of these bad boys?
More importantly though, my giggle. I firmly believe this is one of my best characteristics, and it’s normally something people notice about me when I first meet them. Not too simpery or irritating, but definitely distinctive. And genuine-sounding, I like to think!
And finally, (am I allowed three things? :D) my tattoo. I have a big fairy tattoo on my tummy which I adore, and if I have a hot date I always make sure to wear a top that subtly shows it off. It doesn’t matter all that much, but it does help to boost my confidence that extra little bit.
(By the way, your bottom is beautiful.)
My secret weapon is really a combination of things:
-Glitter that gets onto anyone who comes within a three-foot radius, and continues to show up on eyelashes and bedsheets for weeks after
-Men’s deodorant, which gets more compliments from the opposite sex than any perfume
-And that moment where my shy, introverted facade crumbles, exposing my inner psychopath’s toothy grin.
My “distinctive laugh”. Guys find it sexy for some reason.
my ability to listen :)
I haven’t been on a date in a while but I usually get what I want from my boyfriend of two years when I wear a tasteful boob shirt (cleavage!). Also, intense exfoliating/shaving/moisturizing my legs for smooth soft skin works like a charm.
My smile, of course. but along with that, exfoliating before hand!! A must, gives me an absolute glow. Heels, but make sure they’re comfortable – there’s nothing worse than a date whinging about sore feet, IMO. Oh, and my hair straightener, :)
I’ve never accepted a date, but I LOOK THOSE BOYS IN THE EYES. They die.
A sense of humor about myself.
Drop a couple classic rock bands (The fact that I listen the Jimi Hendrix and Led Zep totally blows them away)
Keep Smiling.
I would ADORE some of those amazing panties! The pics of your booty are just so adorable!
Body butter on arms and legs to give a sexy shine and loads and loads of mascara so I can bat my lashes at my date!
My secret weapon? A sultry, come-hither look. I demonstrated it for a friend once and her jaw about dropped when the guy I was using as an example practically tripped over himself to come chat me up. I’m rarely the prettiest girl in a room, but I work with what I got!
Shimmer lotion on my collarbone and my signature perfume, L by Lolita Lempecka.
Yum.
My signature scent, (*)Lick Me All Over(*). Along with my awkward state of being, constant geek chat, and a big smile, it makes a fabulous and unique night.
The (almost) irrepressible urge to kiss them — I loveloveLOVE kissing!
That, & the hability to laugh at myself. ;p
that perfect end of night kiss
Looking them in the eyes, listening to what they say and a little bit of flattery never goes wrong.
And google/Facebook them first if you get the chance – knowledge is a great tool!
i’m not much of a cleavage showy person so i’ll usually go out in a t-shirt and a pair of shorts (of course wearing sexy frilly undergarments underneath – oh what an excellent boost of confidence they give!) my doc martin’s are my secret weapon. they can show a guy so much about me instantly (they can decide whether to back off when they see a girl in boots). they’re definitely a great conversation starter (make it a little hard to play footsie though : (
some sexy perfume on the small of my back.
who knows where the date might lead?
Be yourself, but be the best version of yourself you can :)
That Voice. You know the one. The one where you can say “Fabulous weather we’re having,” and mean “I am dripping wet for you right now.”
Confidence goes hand in hand with that – other than that I would say paying attention to all of the senses, good manners, charm, wit, good posture, and a smile. As far as dress goes, I’m an advocate of stockings (I have never dated anyone who didn’t go absolutely nuts for a pair of sexy stockings on my long legs), excellently shaved legs, hair that can be loosened at a moment’s notice, and gloves. Nice fitted gloves, I find, are a very unusual and feminine affectation. I wear them everywhere.
I NEVER underestimate the power of my light green eyes, and on first dates I always wear makeup that plays the color up.
If I’m in a date for va-va-va-VOOM for sure wink, I also never underestimate the power of slight subtle shimmer across my cleavage.
My personal favorite tool for that task is called “Diva Dust” by slumber parties. Its lovely silver shimmer and vanilla scent pack a secret weapon of it’s own! This magical body shimmer is laced with pheromones. Yep, that’s right girls. The guys never know what hit them, it’s fabulous.
This may be the most ridiculous secret first date weapon, but I have these kites that are basically full of magic. I got them from Wal-Mart for 99 cents on a day with perfect weather. About a week after I bought them, I was talking to this guy I had been flirting with in my Art Class about how I wanted to go fly kites and he was like, “Let’s do it. Right now.” He grabs my hand, shouts at the teacher “We’ll be right back” and runs to my car to get the kites. We spend the rest of the class out in the sunshie goofing off. I dont know if they’re lucky or what, but I still keep them in the trunk of of my car—just in case =)
my lucky charm, of course! it’s a little heidi klum (i had no idea until i saw her on the late show), but i always carry a little bronze tooth (not my own- i work in a foundry and i made a crop of ‘em a few years ago). maybe my luck is kismet, but everytime i have one… lucky!
Being a nerdlinger. I love video games, zombie movies, comic books and anime.
So it’s not always the “sexiest” thing, but it’s a secret weapon. I find being a big dork sets people at ease and makes them feel better about whatever “nerdy” things they have in their life. Not to mention, almost every boy without exception, loves one or all of the above nerdy things listed. :)
I put out on the first date.
Kidding!!!
I have 2 secret weapons, the first is being properly moisturized. If I’m on a date with someone who doesn’t comment on how soft my skin is the first time we touch I know it’s not meant to be. I need someone who realizes the importance of moisturizing ever if he does so passingly.
My second secret weapon cannot be revealed for it would no longer be a secret!
Also, whether I win this or not, I need to own these underwear asap!!
My secret weapons are things I am so proud of. I outline my eyes in brown to make the blue really POP and I put colorless gloss on my lips to make them have a beautiful pout. YAY!
My secret weapon? Black seamed stockings, pumps and a spritz of Chanel 5. It’s a classic for a reason!
my secret weapon would be to go and do something that makes me blissfully happy before the date. Personally, I love to go running. It’s a good remedy against nerves, it fills my body with endorphins, and leaves me feeling satisfied.
So when my promising stranger whiskes me away for the evening I look happy with that great post-workout glow and my day is already a good day. I feel more relaxed & free and anything that does or doesn’t happen is “just” icing on the already delicious cake my day has been.
Confidence…
knowing who I am as a person and exuding that in a first date would be my secret weapon. What’s sexier than a woman who’s comfortable in her own skin and know’s how to just be herself? Especially in front of a perfect stranger.
Green eyes and the smile…
Messy hair! :D I love cute(/sexy) and messy hair and if the guy is all about neat and tidy hairdo… well.. there won’t be any magic!
When I met my guy 5,5 years ago, I had a huge, bright red and pink messy hair and even though he never fancied that kinda hairdo before, he was sold and I became his Little Red-Haired Girl (inside joke we had as he had the Charlie Brown type, 2mm long hair then LOL).
So I have proof that messy hair works!
I have two super secret weapons.
Super Secret Weapon Number One: My nerves ! I’m a super nervous person, especially on first dates, but as luck would have it whenever I get nervous I talk ! A lot ! This has helped me ace presenting projects, oral reports, in-class reading, telephone calls, and first dates for years. I can keep the early-in-the-date conversation going like nobody’s business and by the time I feel comfortable enough to not have to babble it’s just about time for comfy-cuddling or catching a movie or looking at something lovely (an art gallery, a band, each other, you know). I like to think my talking is endearing, because I try to ask a lot of questions as well.
Super Secret Weapon Number Two: Is only super secret because people don’t realize it’s a weapon ! My 2007 Halloween Edition Nike Dunks. The bright green ones with the tombstones ! Thank you, little kid’s foot locker. I think they’re the cutest shoes ever, and not only are they my favourite colour and represent my favourite holiday, but I feel like just their look fits my personality. Comfortable, quirky, stylish in an off-beat way, and fun ! A lot of girls I know tend to go for heels or girly flats, but neither of those styles are really me. I can wear heels, and I like them, but I’d much rather be able to sprint down the street or race to a cafe or something. I’m active and fun and I like being on my toes ! I can’t do all that in a pair of Steve Madden four inch heels ! Trust me, I’ve tried. Hahaha ! So wearing my dunks gives me this huge boost of confidence. And even if I look like a dork, hey, at least my shoes are super fly !
A low, low voice and Welsh lilt, and telling people what I think is very beautiful about them the first time that I meet them. Making quiet, unforceful eye contact for awkwardly long spans of time, and then catching them off guard by smiling madly with my eyes only. I tell people “I forgive you and I love you for whoever you are already” with my eyes the whole time—I think they can hear me. It’s like whispering love into cupcakes when you bake them or putting gold glitter in other people’s shoes.
Outfit-wise, something eye-catching! Something that’s not to hir personal style, but something that will intrigue hir. Something that is familiar enough to attract hir to me, yet unfamiliar enough to make hir think a little. Like spiked choker, an androgynous vest, or even something as simple as robot or plastic gun earrings.
Similarly, I always try to show (without telling, because nothing is more obnoxious than someone telling you how special ze is) all the different sides I have, and that, why yes, I am a bit of a unique snowflake. (And if you’re lucky, you might get to melt me with your tongue.)
Hey , I want holographic knickers ! Even saying it makes me smile ;)
Well, my secret weapon when dating is a combination of 1) Ultra-long eyelashes ready to help me to have the cute-little-deer look, and 2) My wit. Yes, I know that boys love to date sugary-bambi things, but if they can’t stand the brainy-funny side, no, thanks !
To me, that makes the best attractive-repulsive combo, resulting in a natural selection of the best guys around ;o )
I guess my secret weapon on a date is what occurs before the date.
I dance around my room singing to my favourite songs, take a long time picking out my favourite outfit and accessories. Basically just making myself extremely pretty so I am not selfconscious about anything.
My favorite jeans, everytime I put them on I feel like I can kick ass, and it doesn’t hurt that I look awesome in them.
Confidence, a sense of humour, & a smile.
-Any of my high heels, but most importantly my pink satin ones with a lovely bow on front and ankle straps. They are so sexy, and the pop of bright pink with any outfit really stands out. The higher the heel, the more confidence!
-My Chanel perfume, which I think makes me smell expensive.
-But my best weapon? My smile! I had 5 years of braces and it paid off! My smile is huge, and my teeth have been called ‘lovely white chiclets!’ haha.
I think cofidence is the #1 secret weapon.
Who wouldn’t be attracted to a super-confident girl.
But I also love to smell yummy. Give him something that lingers so he’ll be thinking of you when ur gone.
That perfect perfume, or maybe sweet shampoo that stays in your hair all day. And some glitter!
Bring up my collection of prosthetics in casual conversation.
Duhhhhh. ;)
My positive attitude, and my big beautiful behind! As a chef friend of mine once said, “Fat is flavor” which is why I celebrate my heinie… or as I prefer to call it, my “largesse” [largasse].
I discovered my secret weapon by accident – I am surprisingly comfortable at dinner parties with his friends, even when I barely know him and have never met them. Such an invitation has come up a few times with different dates, always with an expectation on his part that I may feel awkward. Every time, I have received glowing praise in the car on the way home: “you were amazing! you got along with everyone!” or “they loved you!” or “I thought you would be uncomfortable – I can’t believe you had such a good time!”
My theory? this weapon comes from my willingness to dive right in and make my own fun in any situation. I don’t rely on HIM to make the date fun and that leaves him pleasantly surprised, wanting to figure me out :)
My secret weapon is my sense of humor. My past boyfriends find it charming and it relaxes them too.
Peppermint lip gloss! It leaves a little tingle on the skin! ♥
Lots of smiles, a sense of fun and adventure, my favorite outfit. And Lip Venom – makes kisses tingly.
My secret weapon is to wear something bright red somewhere hidden. Be it my toes painted, red undies or covering my red tattoo. I like having a secret treasure somewhere on my being to up my confidence and make me aware of what a treasure I am in (not so much) disguise too.
mini altoids mints sounds simple, but my boyfriend could never understnad how I always tasted sweet when we first started dating.
confidence. my sexiest undergarments. good hair. all of these are essential. but i think the iCiNG on the cake is a good sense of humor and spontaneity. Dates don’t always go as delightfully as planned, but with a positive attitude you will always end up on top. No pun intended.
Killer Secret Weapon = An appetite. Keep it lady like but eat up! & shiny clean beautiful hair, if the hair is fab, you’ll get away with the rest ;)
ps: don’t apologise for your booty shots! if you’ve got it, flaunt it, right? right! the knickers are super cute!
My secret weapon is not taking myself or the situation too seriously, and having fun and being fun! laugh, cuz life is funny!
Confidence, laughter, thick bouncy red hair, blue eyes, & a hint of cleavage! High heels, margaritas with salt on the rim, and excellent conversation. :)
My secret weapon is something that shows a bit of cleavage, being a flirt and just being myself.
my smile for sure!
Order a drink with lots of character. Some of my favorites are sidecars and salty dogs. If you learn a new one every week, you’ll always have something interesting and appropriate for the atmosphere of the venue.
a great pair of earrings and a sexy attitude ;)
Making my long hair big and wavy and fun to play with. I always feel really sexy but still cute when I do that. Big confidence boost!
i have been in love with one person for a very long time.. he’s my soulmate. when i have wanted to feel beautiful and gorgeous with him, i make sure to do my hair so it’s soft and long, and wear pretty makeup that complements my eyes. cute mini skirts too!
Alright, I’m going to give this a whirl! And I love reading everyone’s responses :]
Here’s my little go-to arsenal:
1. Perfume. The right scent really does make a difference. Everytime I wear Victoria’s Secret “So in Love,” or Bulgari’s “Omnia,” someone always asks me what I’m wearing. Oh, and the boys love it.
* 2. Sense of humor.* I love to laugh and I love to make others laugh. It lessens tension and everything is more enjoyable. The real keepers are the boys that can make me laugh.
* 3. Be a storyteller.* This comes naturally for me since I’m a writer, so talking about interesting and uncanny experiences are a part of who I am. I also love to listen – who is this person? Where did he come from? What does he have to say? Everyone has a few stories or two, share them! It’s more interesting than the typical small talk of what you do for fun, common interests, and the like. (And you usually get to that as well).
* 4. The outfit.* I figured this goes without saying, but, a great outfit I feel confident in. Whether it’s deep dark denim jeans or a flirty cocktail dress with a little lip gloss, concealer and mascara; if I feel great and confident, it shows.
Not shaving my legs. I always do it to avoid going too far, but that moment later when I say “aw, screw it!” and kiss away, those are great times.
I always have a box of sparklers tucked into my purse — no one sees it coming, especially in january, and it turns any moment into an instant celebration.
Natural happiness. Relatively normal things often make me ridiculously happy, and I think guys like it when I don’t try to hide that.
I always wear pretty lingerie, garters and all on a day-to-day basis. But when I know I will be seeing my mysterious stranger, I always wear my favorite Cuban-heeled back-seamed silk stockings, the same pair I bought a few years ago from a sex shop I crept into whe I was just 16. I always feel naughty and pinup girl perfect. Despite being short, I feel like my little dancer legs are endless and sexy and that line up the back draws the eyes onward and upward to who knows where?
i hardly ever wear perfume, but i dab a little musk body lotion and a jasmine+secret ingredient oil mix from this arabic shop (they serve royalty & they’re inexpensive, score!) on my wrists, to accentuate the dramatic hand gestures i cannot control, & my neck. my dates always seem to fixate on my neck & collar bones, i’m not quite sure why, but why not?! : ))))))
i have no trouble with guys without my glasses on- they don’t notice my eyes til i take them off. BUT! if i feel the guy’s really something, i leave off the contact lens. the challenge i set myself is to ensnare him with ME before he ever notices i can be kinda cute sometimes.
also, i was a tomboy growing up, and the awkwardly girly me is said to be oddly endearing. contrast to the theatrics, i suppose!!
heheh, this is SO empowering to write up! i’d‘ve never thought it through so thoroughly. FUTURE PRE-DATE BATTLE PLANS ARE IN PLACE! CHARRRGEEE!!
Squee! Those are super cute…
I haven’t been on a date with a stranger in some time, but if I was to do so, I would do so in my black flat, knee-high leather boots. What, no heels, you gasp! Yes, and that is because these boots are comfortable, go with EVERYTHING from jeans to the cutest cocktail dress, and prepare me for anything.
On my first date with my current sweetie, we went to a nice dinner and then rock climb/crawling at a nearby (supposedly off limits) beach where part of a city had crumbled into the ocean. Our first kiss was on a slab of roadway that peaked out over the moonlit waves. Super adventurous and romantic.
Put on your big girl boots and go get ‘em!
My secret weapon is asking the guy lots of questions. Everyone likes to feel important and like they are special, and asking questions and listening intently always works a charm. I always laugh lots at what they’re saying, sympathize with any troubles and really really listen. I’ve managed to find out so much about people- even in an hour over lunch.
Learning about other people is one of the best parts of life so even if they aren’t the dream guy, at least you’ve learnt about a bit about someone else’s thoughts, feelings and dreams.
My secret weapon is to come up with something unusual about me to share with this person at some point during our date. Many times they remember me for it and call again, but most of the time I do it because then they usually share something unique and unusual back!
a third playmate
confidence, and a good perfume!
all i can do is be myself and hope the other person finds it charming.
Just the fact you know you’re wearing the knickers is enough to make me feel sparkly and confident, and that comes through on the date!
Hmmm, my secret date weapon…A stun gun, maybe, to drag them back to the quarters..
Not really, I joke!
Probably a seductive glance and smile. Also, a magcial brassiere to enhance my quite small bossom. I admire them when it comes to sports, yet on dates I slightly feel obligated to do that small favor for the men.