Things I Love Thursday
[ 3 December 2009 ]
Making the most of Cyber Monday — So, on Monday night, I was just idly doing some mattress research, & I just HAPPENED to come across this amazing queen-sized memory foam mattress which was $1900 OFF, & so I just HAPPENED to add it to my shopping cart. I also HAPPENED to notice that this rad duvet set was way cheap… & finally, I HAPPENED to notice that the subscription prices for Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar, Elle, Playboy & Teen Vogue had been slashed. So I subscribed. Most excellent. I really wasn’t planning on taking part in any of the post-Thanksgiving madness, but well, I actually did need those things (NEED!), & I have an itchy mouse finger sometimes.
I also want to take a moment to discuss memory foam. Let’s journey back, way back, to 2008, & the Virgo Birthday Extravaganza. Remember?! & see that last photo? Oh geez I’ll repost it here.
So at the end of the night, Nubby & I crashed out in this enormous (I do mean enormous) Tempur-Pedic bed at the Hotel On Rivington & it was the best sleep I have ever had. I have been thinking about it intermittently since then. The kicker? Tempur-Pedic beds are about a zillion dollars. (Tiny exaggeration.) But I’ve been doing all this research & people seem to think that good memory foam beds are just as good, & if not, pretty damn close. Long story short, I am eagerly waiting for it, & I sure hope the UPS guy will lug it up the stairs for me! I will let you know how I get on!
Planning 2010 in a frenzied manner! I have this oversized Moleskine (I have written about it many a time) & it has become a bit of an all-purpose book. I am actually using it as a mousepad at the moment, god I really need a proper mousepad! Anyway! I am using that for planning my upcoming year. Whenever I have a brilliant thought (chortle), I flip it open & scrawl it down on the 2010 page, & soon (soon!) I will organise it into actionable lists, broken-down tasks etc. with check-boxes. WORD UP.
Fun on Park Avenue! I went uptown for a meeting today which was VERY promising… When you get to see the result, you will be as excited as me! I also love Park Avenue because when you dress in a ridiculous manner (as I often do) you can just about see people’s minds exploding. Additionally, there was a piano player in the lobby of the building I went to today, pounding out merry renditions of Christmas tunes for… the security guard. Who looked like he was pretty into it, actually. Cute to the power of a trillion.
Prince Edward!!! I am in love with this dog. I know he would end up huge & would destroy the house, & one 60lb pitbull is definitely enough especially given he sleeps in the bed with us & having two dogs in the bed would be like trying to sleep on a schoolbus, or something, but I LOVE HIM. I just keep thinking he probably has big velvetty chocolate brown paws, & it is all very endearing. Oh Prince Edward, I hope you find a home soon.
Honourable mentions: Le Dish, Le Dish, Le Dish, I love you; Q-Tip’s The Renaissance; turkey pot pie made from scratch by my lover; OPI designer series (I just bought Exclusive, Elegance, Extravagance & Mystery) — sparkly fingernails forever!; Baby By Me (have a baby by me, baby, be a millionaire); Chanel Iman; reading makeup manuals & trying new things; The Dish singing songs about gravy; the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show (so much fun & definite gym motivation); speaking of which, these knickers!!! (HELLO FLOWER-BUTT!); & also, I love my gym; unicorn soft toys; gold & pink Ganesha statues; big lumps of crystal; glitter letters; Molly Crabapple & Oh Chloe; obsessively looking for armchairs & love seats; getting excited about the hip hop karaoke championships (I am so there); Luis Tovar’s “The Best Songs of the Decade“ pmaCASTs!; my rainbow maker (seriously it makes me so happy); wig shopping (& subsequent purchases); mustard (always); Ace Of Cakes; buying big stacks of magazines & lugging them around; long walks; nap-time; secret planning; the new Rihanna album, & perusing Christmas ornaments! Oh! & I really really want to go & see the huge tree at Rockefeller Center! A lot. There will be pictures.
“It’s all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don’t know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever & forever & forever. Close your eyes, let your hands & nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, & you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky way soft cloud innumerable worlds long ago & not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect.” — Jack Kerouac
Okay, as always, it is your turn!
Oh, &, colour & activity book BONUS QUESTION! Do you believe in soulmates & what does the word mean to you? I am v. curious as to your thoughts.
MWAH!
Love letters & feather headdresses,
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Hi!!! I admire how you keep organised everything you do. I have a busy and kind of messy schedule and I’d love if you could post about how exactly you organize, what kind of Moleskine you have… that stuff. Thanks!!!
I believed in soulmates. He was my best friend & I can’t imagine either of us ever finding any better match than each other. We made each other better people and got through a lot of garbage times. We learned new things together- things about the world, things about each other. And I loved him beyond my foreseeable capacity. And he loved me in a way I never thought I could be loved.
But he gave it up for reasons that still make no sense to me. Maybe it was fear. But I know neither of us will ever love anyone the way we loved each other. I miss my best friend every day.
I have someone new now. He’s a great man. It makes me sad that I’ll never be able to give him what I gave my soulmate…
@ Alzy. Hugs. I could of written what you wrote. Except mine is trying to have a causal friendship with me. Its not working out well on my end. I still believe we’re soulmates, though, so maybe, someday….
I used to believe in having only one soul mate…now I realize that everyone evolves-and with that things can definately change. I’ve had people super close to me screw me over, and still pretend everything is grand. So yes I do belive in soul mates but only in the plural ever r-evolving sense
*Graduating from high school – in about an hour and a half. *Taking photos at my first wedding *Life in general is pretty great right now :) :)
Yeah I believe in soulmates but I don’t think of it as necessarily being a romantic thing. My sister is my soulmate fo’ sho. I just have a greater understanding with her than I do with anyone else in my life. Even though we always appear incredibly different to people on the outside, we understand everything about one another. That and she knows how to make me laugh until it hurts.
I was just lucky that my soulmate gre up in the same house as me so I’ve always had her by my side!
I really do believe in soulmates. In every aspect in relationships and friendships. A soulmate is someone who you can talk about anything with,loves your quirks,takes the bad side with you and good side.
^ reading Secrets of Longevity
^ pomegrante seeds
^ watching the Victoria Secret Fashion Show+roobios tea+ginger-os and peanut butter cookies!
^ going to the library
^ making a list of goals small and big and resolutions for 2010
^ our family dog Zoey got a haircut. She looks like a little lamb. so cute.
***I’m loving www.alimapure.com/ I placed my order, got it within 2 days, they gave massive glitter eye shadow assortment for free and chocolate!! Make up and chocolate. Happy packages rule.
***Loving profound thoughts like there is no such thing as time or space. “I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together.” Walrus-truth from the Beatles.
***Soul mates are real. We are all connected, see above.
***Decorating a little Christmas tree with my 5 year old son and him declaring, “It’s so magical.”
***Gala, I bought a Tempur-Pedic almost 6 years ago and I still LOVE it and miss it So much when we travel.
I don’t know if I believe in soulmates exactly…but there are those certain people I just click with.
Sometimes I think there are certain people I SHOULD click with but it doesn’t work that way…it’s weird and doesn’t make sense.
There are some people where when I’m talking to them, it’s like we are the only ones in the room and it’s easy to think we’re the only ones on the planet.
I don’t necessarily mean love or whatever, just in general? And this has happened with all sorts of people, not just people similar or not to me.
I feel like soulmates is such a loaded word though.
To me it’s too extreme, too…narrow? I can’t compare all the people I’ve “clicked” with, it’s all too different. The essence is the same, but the experiences themselves aren’t comparable.
When I think on it, I do believe in soulmates. I really want to. I like the idea of logical fate, where the people you’re destined to know end up in the same place that you are, just because their decisions brought them there.
There are people in the world who’ll mesh with you perfectly and who can tell exactly why you laugh at something (which says a lot about the parts of your character that are the hardest to understand), I’m just afraid I’ll never run into them. Or that it’ll be like that Murakami short where the two people 90% meant for one another never talk when they pass on the street, so they stay with the people they’re with, whom they love only 60% or 70%.
I believe in soulmates, but in the plural sense. And I think that we have perma-soulmates, for lack of a better word…someone who was meant to be in your life for a long time, and I think we have people who are more insta-soulmates in that they come into your life, teach you something, and then you’ll both end up going your separate ways. I think the term applies to both friends and romantic relationships. That all sounds very airy-fairy as I read it back but it makes sense to me, anyways!
I envy your organizational skills. I’m getting more so that way, I think I’m going to be super anal and try doing goals for every month of 2010 ahead of time, with the caveat that revisions throughout the year are okay, of course. I’m getting much better about using my daily planner, anyways.
Oh and as for TILT this week, I’m going to say getting new ideas, bouncing ideas off my husband, writing!, Carnivale (we’re at the beginning of season 2 right now, it’s so deliciously creepy), my silly cats, and of course, my loverly husband!
I love the picture of the stockings at the beging of your post! I want ones just like them.
Ugh, that “have a baby by me” song, I can’t stand it. Then again, I work in a group home with pregnant teenagers and teens with children who are very impressionable and listen to these songs all the time. Ah well.
As for soulmates…I don’t know about love at first sight and all that, but I believe in a soulmate being someone you could never grow tired of learning about, someone whose heart speaks the same language as yours, someone you can laugh with, cry with, and love up on, usually in the same day, haha. My husband is mine.
i agree with michelle as far as soulmates go.
i go believe that we have them, not just one but many of them… i mean think of how many people are in the world. we must have hundreds of soulmates out there but are lucky if we meet just one of them.
but i don’t think ‘soulmate’ means ‘forever.’ i think a soulmate is someone who is meant to change your life, even if they leave, and even if they hurt you.
I definitely believe in Soul Mates, but I don’t think the concept of Soul Mates is limited to a romantic attachment to someone. I believe that they’re someone who changes your world by showing you something about yourself and you didn’t know before.
I have met 3 of my soul mates in this life so far. And they are all completely different from eachother: 2 girls and 1 boy. All different ages, backgrounds, personalities. But the one thing that all had in common was an instant connection with my inner being. The moment I met them all I felt ‘the click’ and was never the same again.
I remember passing out on that amazing bed after we got married, but the one downside? They don’t bounce! No bed jumping! Sadness!
I dooosies. I was crazy young (18), and met an older hottie at my work, and it was love at first sight for both of us. I just thought he was the most beautiful man in the world, and every time I’d look at him, his gaze went straight into me in the most intense and magical of ways (we are both Scorpios… intensity plus!)
A month after our first date, we moved in together.
Nine years on, we are still utterly and deeply in love, things get more and more beautiful and deeper every year… and we are now six months pregnacious with our first child.
It was the most unexpected and loveliest of gifts from the universe…
and he still is the hottest, most beautiful man in the world.
:)
I still sigh over pictures of him when I’m at work… even though he works just down the street from me. hee hee hee!
Right now, life is really difficult, so the only thing I can say I love today is my friends. My friends, my friends, my friends. They are amazing, and they get me through the day. Also, I have a whole box of mandarin oranges. Yummy.
As for the question of soulmates, as always, Gala, your timing is impeccable. This question is difficult for me. I’m not sure if I believe that every person has one soulmate that is their one and only. It doesn’t make sense to me. But I have met someone that I believe to be my soulmate. He understands me in a way that no other guy I’ve ever met does. He and I have this connection that is almost tangible, and everyone notices it. No matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen one another or if we’re involved with other people, we are inexplicably drawn to one another. I’ve never experienced anything like it. However, this is not my boyfriend. I am dating someone who I love more than anything else in the world, someone who makes me laugh and can reduce me to tears with a single word, someone who I want to spend the rest of my life with. But he doesn’t understand me like the other guy does. I try not to think about it too much, to be honest. I would never leave a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for the possibility of being with the other guy, who has never voiced his feelings for me. I would never break up something good for something that MIGHT be better. But I do think that I connect with the other guy in ways that I don’t connect with my boyfriend, and I could definitely see us getting together in the future if things don’t work out with my boy. So, do I believe in soulmates? Yes, I do. But I don’t think they’re the be all and end all of relationships. We’ll see how things pan out.
-Almost being done with my huge Scanning Electron Microscope project I have due tomorrow. Thankfully it is all coming together and some of my images Kick Ass!!!
-The semester coming to a close, just hafta get through finals first!
-Remembering fun Thanksgiving times w/ my sister and best friend when I am feeling cranky or down this week.
-My Chemical Romance. They were my first musical obsession and I never tire of them.
-After a minor lapse, fully committing to completely giving up all beef products, and pig products too whenever possible.
-My little hot pink ipod nano. Since my computer has been screwing up it is my only source for music.
-My bestie and I planning fun reunion times w/ our group of guys from high school. There will probably be drunk monopoly and glitter involved. hehe
-Getting a nice email from someone who may or may not be special to me. I haven’t decided yet. It’s complicated and there’s a lot of history there, but I am making myself not worry or think too much about it and just go with the flow, whereever that takes me…
***Soulmates. They might exist. I wouldn’t know, I haven’t found one yet. But here’s hoping! :)
Hey I love reading and checking out your site! It’s awesome! You give great advice and I LOVE the vibe! Keep it up, don’t change a thing!
Oh, god, I love you so much for plugging that adorable puppy!! Here’s hoping someone gives him all the love he deserves…
Hahhahaa Tempur-Pedic mattresses are the best. My school – WashU in St.Louis – installed Tempur-Pedic mattresses in all the old dorms = bliss :D
i WISH i believed in soulmates. i mean, in the actual sense of someone REALLY being MEANT for you…i’m a little (okay, a lot) skeptical about that. but i do believe that there are people out there who just click perfectly with one another, who understand each other and at the very least SEEM like soulmates.
I have been perusing your site Gala for the first time ever over the past four days and getting giddier about life than I have been in a while. Thank you for the gorgeous loving person you share with everyone in your multitudes of ways.
• being asked to design my friends tattoo
• watching a trashy movie with incredible white-peppermint hot-chocolate with my younger sister whilst the cat barges between us to follow the movement on the television screen
• apples with locally bought spun honey, mint tea, and candlelit hopscotch
• my lucky bamboo that is still somehow making it after two years and the cat drinking out of the bowl when she gets up by the kitchen sink to gawk at the hummingbirds that are still visiting even though winter is sweeping over
• boy-short style skivvies
• texting my best friend a reminder that she is gorgeous and having her text me back about how horrible her day had been until she got the message from me as well as a reminder of the loveliness we bring each other
• finally tuning my ukulele and playing an Improv song through the open window with the wind chimes and rain
• horseradish sauce on green apple wedges – the best kick in the patookus I’ve had in a while – I should know, S&M can be fun :P
• Moving the elf-marker to mark the day being the third of December on the tackiest Christmas decoration I have ever seen in my family’s house.
• Bra’s that cup the breasts perfectly
• Hugh Hefner
• Watching the TV show Secret Girlfriend and checking out the ladies with a crowd of guy friends over hard ciders
• Having people from my college I left send me messages about how much I am missed and how they will fund a trip for me up to the school. “just wanted to say you are missed at _________. The last year just doesn’t seem filling without your presence here. I know i speak for a lot of ppl as well and not just myself.”
• The quote: “If you can’t make fun of it, it’s probably not worth taking seriously”
• Folding laundry in front of the computer
• Getting woken up by a squirrel scratching at your window
• Writing in books I own, and encouraging people who borrow my books to make notes in them whilst reading them. Writing in books I own, lending them out to friends and forgetting what I wrote in them, and having them comment on my musings later.
• Drinking watermelon juice out of a champagne flute
• Betty Dodson
• Everyone being the master of their own masturbatory transaction with their selves.
• An incredible loverboy (mini-Queen music moment) named Adam who recently came back into my life after a recent break-up and made me realize how crazy a pair of Gemini’s can be together…let alone any grouping of matching zodiac figures.
• A great friend choosing to not give up on living because of his first love, and finding a 50 gallon fish tank/two 25 gallon fish tanks, plus baking fresh bread and gardening to keep him happy.
• How pineapple and other acidic fruits make your body smell and taste.
• Wearing an engineering jumpsuit to an 80’s club and stripping down to an outfit beneath to dance four hours straight. Then coming back to the club about five months later and having the DJ recognize you and flutter lovely comments into the aural canal thus nesting cocoons of caterpillars in your stomach which burst into flight after a lemon drop shot.
• The possibility of donating my bone marrow to a complete stranger.
• Homemade grits with cheese and basil egg-whites, followed by some tea, skipping with the cat as she runs up the hall, and a satsuma.
• Having a friend phone you just so you can come over and give them a hug.
• Stumbleupon.com (speaking of incredible websites and toolbars)
• Having a wall of books in my room
• Counter Culture Humphrey’s – for making me realize the beauty that is frozen yogurt
• Pinning origami into your hair
• Taking my camera on a field trip into the ditches behind the houses on my street and finding all kinds of glorious things during a rainy day. Biggest surprise: upon returning to my backyard I found some turtles that obliged (though I’m sure their speed and the cold certainly could not have hindered them >.< ) to pose for.
• Zelda games
• Being addicted to my major
• Mastering the Crows/Crane pose
• Having a deep connection with a tree outside your window even if it is just for a few seconds
• Whole Foods
• A boy with a cute butt, tight abs, and a brilliant mind making a meal from scratch just for me and pairing it with a bottle of good wine.
• Constellations of kisses being laid over the new skin of my body as I age, just as the universe has new stars popping all over the scars of its space. – Crazy thought: what if when someone kissed you a small crater formed (be it on your body, on Earth, on another planet or asteroid, or even just in a pigs rectum)…way too many thoughts branched from this to type them out fast enough…over active Pre-frontal Cortex at work again…
• Jim Morrison
• The moment before you get into the shower or bath where you are standing in your butt-naked glory.
• Inventing INCREDIBLE food in crappy college cafeteria’s: Mint-Apple Waffles with Honey – very thinly slice the apples coat each side in batter then lay on top of the rest of the waffle mix in the waffle iron, sprinkle on some mint, then cook. Once cooked, take in the incredible smell, and then make love to that mystical being with honey.
• A slew of incredible movies coming out in theaters soon, and knowing you will not be able to afford all of them in the theater.
• How incredible wearing someone else’s sweater makes you feel, especially when it someone whose arms you would love to be wrapped up in.
• It possibly snowing tomorrow night in LOUISIANA!!!!!!
• Getting drinking tonight with Adam, then going to see a movie in theaters and falling asleep in his lap and apparently snoring because I had not slept last night. After a “brief” nap, going back to his house and him setting up a tent in the backyard, making hot chocolate, and watching V together in the freezing outside air huddled together.
yay! did my things I love thursday this week too!!
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thank you for continually being an inspiration
Best songs of the decade – I look forward to trawling through that list!
MY TiLT:
1. I finally got some alone time this week, during which I’ve managed to finish 2 old paintings which were haunting me in their unfinished state.
2. Putting up the Christmas tree, with HOMEMADE decorations, woohah!
3. My boy will be living at my house for all of next week! (We live in different cities and it is crap.)
4. HEALTH. (I’d been pretty damn ill for a while, and now that I’m better I’m being extra-nice to my body).
re: soulmates.
I think a soulmate is someone with whom you feel wholly compatible, to the point that you stop searching for somebody else. That’s beautiful enough without bringing in the whole ‘one and only’ and ‘destiny’ stuff.
When I was 16 I met a boy with whome I have this unbelievable connection, it was as if our souls recognized each other. I know him without knowing him, and him me. Fast forward 6 years filled with misunderstandings, heartache and me moving to the other side of the world, I am still so in love with him. Whether or not we’re meant to be together in this life remains to be seen.
Cyber Monday would be my absolute downfall if I lived in the US, I find Online shopping far too big a temptation at the best of times, I’d bankrupt myself with the kind of deals I saw advertised on Monday!
Prince Edward is so cute! (and that’s coming from a cat person!)
My TiLT is here: sparkleandglitter.co.uk/2009/1…
Oh hello! =]
Things I love this week:
~ Having a five-day weekend
~ Seeing men with waist-length dreadlocks and awesome hippy style clothes
~ Spontaneous gigs
~ Muller Light in Lemon Cheesecake flavour
~ 3 weeks ‘til Christmas Eve!
~ Looking forward to getting a hearing aid next week, no more deafness, yay!
~ Miso soup
~ Taking up cooking
As for soulmates…
I don’t really believe that we all have one person somewhere out there who’s our soulmate. More like, everyone is pretty much the same beneath all their layers of personality and poise and opinion, so the closer you get to someone and the more of these add-ons you untangle, the more you find your connectedness.
That’s just a theory though, and maybe I’ll find I’m wrong…
I do believe in soul mates, however I think we have way more than just one. My lover is my soulmate. We have an electric attraction and we have a connection that goes way beyond that. However my best friend is also a soulmate and I’ve met other people that have been soulmates…. it’s an unknowable reaction when you meet that other person and just click.
dang im gonna have to figure out how to link my webpage better
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soul mates:
its just when they are in the world with you everything just makes sense
i believe in multiple soul mates—that is, that one meets specific people throughout their life of great importance who become their soul mate for an allotted time. i think it’s sort of fluid though & the universe tends to bring exactly into our lives who we need at each junction in our lives—this is why it is sometimes hard to let go of an attachment when we haven’t realized yet that we have learned/experienced all we can from that person…but i don’t think that makes them any less of a soul mate?
a soul mate’s purpose is to merely mingle and celebrate and grow with your own soul for a time—not unlike a dance partner—but it is by no mean a guaranteed permanent relationship.
This is such a lovely idea Gala…I read before that souls are born in groups and are collectivly referred to as “soul flames”. I’ve pasted the wiki quote about soulflames below…
A soulflame is a twin flame or soul mate – someone you have a very deep bond with. Many times when you meet this person, even though you don’t know them very well you feel a tremendous bond with him or her. You can feel like you have know them forever. You feel like you are supposed to be together. It is a form of love but on a much higher level – almost spiritual. Sometimes like twins will say, you can feel it when the other one who is your twin flame or your soul mate is going through difficulties or maybe experiencing something joyous. For example, if your soulflame/soulmate is experiencing difficulty you can feel his/her anxiety over the situation. It’s difficult to explain but if you have ever or do ever experience it you will completely understand what I am trying to say. You somehow connect with this person is a way that you don’t really understand. It is very powerful and strong. You will feel very deep love, unconditional love for this person.
This is what I have with my boyfriend, I know I am meant to be with him, he is the love of my life and the sunshine in my day, every day
I dont know about soul mates per say, but I 100% believe in having chemistry with certain people – sometimes the most inconveniant people, but hey, fate doesnt take much note of our conveniance most of the time! The guy Im seeing at the moment is highly highly inconveniant for numerous ridiculous reasons, but we have such incredible chemistry it works. Judging from past experience, you (or at least I) stumble across one of these people roughly once every 3-4 years, and you know about it :) xx
Prince Edward is so adorable, those puppy eyes!! Lucky your dog gets to sleep with you, my boyfriend won’t allow it :[
I can’t believe I missed TiLT two weeks in a row almost..
currently loving:
- participating in craft fairs, – new graphic design clients – thinking about making snowmen when it snows – etsy’s virtual labs – looking at shiny new technology even if i can’t afford it – peanut butter pancakes (so so delicious) – dragging out unfinished writing and thinking maybe i’ll start on them again…
Oh, cool discussion!
I too believe in ‘clicking’ with certain people, and I believe it’s something special. I also believe that these relationships are special in one’s life. I’m sure most everyone agrees on that.
But I guess my understanding of that so-easily-established-yet-very-deep connection does not involve a theory of soul mates. I’m a social scientist, can you tell?
I love that magic feeling when it happens, but when I say magic, I mean super-amazing rather than super-natural. I can think of a lot of all too human reasons why clicking happens, so in my personal belief system concepts such as soul or fate are not so relevant.
I don’t fully buy into the biological view of ‘clicking’ (it tend to be mostly hormone-based, and hopefully we are not just hormones!), but sociology and psychology bring a lot of arguments that ring true to me. I believe it’s a mix of all those things shaken together.
So interesting to read everyone’s opinion on this
xo
To answer my own question, I don’t know whether I believe in soulmates or not. I know that there are people I have a strong connection with which is sometimes inexplicable, & I know that these people (& my interactions with them) have the ability to alter the course of my life & change the way I think about the world, the people in it & the way I relate to the whole thing. But as for a soulmate? I don’t know, I have always thought the definition of a soulmate was someone who was chosen for you, or something. Fated. Destined. & I’m not sure I go for that stuff, because, um, I am a control freak. Haha.
I believe in soulmates, but I don’t think it’s limited to lovers and I don’t think we only get one. Your best friend could be your soulmate.
+ a big, fluffy husky named panda + lemon bars + lady gaga + getting a raise + vision boards + super secret million dollar ideas + making jewelry + fake nails with skullies and rhinestones + slipper boots + sons of anarchy + snow flurries + sunny mornings + purple leopard print tights + slouchy hats + saving money + blog challenges + making dinner for my man + lists on notecards + printing coupons +
making this list gets easier and easier every week :)
Good things this week?
*The first snow of the year *Being reunited with my Eskimo coat *Fresh Air by Brother Ali *Send out my ‘Year in Yes’ calendars and getting such positive responses *Laughing till my cheeks ache at ACME comedy club’s open mic night *plotting world domination with inspiring friends *reconnecting with old friends *attending suprise birthday parties
Soul mates? I’m not sure that I believe in those. Kindred spirits? Absolutely.
Here’s what I am loving today:
as far as whether I believe in soul mates…it’s a very difficult question for me to answer…I used to believe in them very strongly. But, every relationship I’ve ever been in with a guy has never clicked in the sort of blissful magical way that it works for others.I think for it to be a soul mate relationship the guy and girl(girl girl -boy boy)in the relationship have to both feel that it’s a soul mate relationship. They both have to feel that click where things fit together where they both love each other beyond lust and aren’t afraid in each other’s presence, you need to feel like you’ve come home when you are with them. Anyway to conclude my ramblings :) I do still sort of believe in them.-coming up with rad outfit ideas
-finding earrings I didn’t use to like but that I now lurve
-having my beautiful friend over this weekend
-making bbiscuits for my niece ‘cause she always loves mixing things up
-hot cocoa
-switching to good organic chemical free cosmetics
-making magic happen
-being done classes for the fall semester
-getting started early on things …I’m a damn bad procrastinator and it is going to end
-my mom
1. my dance lessons!!!
2. soup when it’s really cold outside
3. eating things my bf cooked for us
4. my new petrol coloured nail polish
5. strawberry vanilla body scrub from LUSH
Re TILT:
My gorgeous overtheknee boots (lovelovelove) that are insanely hot, high-heeled, slouchy and a chocolatey colour perfection; freshly baked dark whole wheat bread; my cute cousin dressed up prematurely as Santa Claus; my boyfriend Dash texting my ILY for no reason at all; warm brie with a trickle of honey; inspiration in the form of your gorgeous self; family dinners; Mac Strobe Liquid lotion; kelp supplements; running 5K in the pouring rain and finally coffee with a whole lot of milk.
Re Soulmates:
I partly believe in what Richard from Texas (From Elizabeth Gilbert’s ‘Eat, Pray, Love’) said: A soulmate is someone who opens your eyes and shows you stuff about yourself. I think a soulmate is someone who is signficiant to you for whatever reason, who usually facilitate self-learning and not necessarily stay with you forever. So, I think they exist and have actually met a few people that met my Soulmate Standards.
However, whenever I see the word on a wedding invitation I roll my eyes.
+ Getting writing jobs.
+ Buying moleskines.
+ Going shopping with my mum.
+ My beautiful new bookshelf!
+ Winter.
+ Bursting with creative ideas.
+ Camomile tea.
+ Planning for 2010.
+ Feeling inspired & positive about the future.
I’m totally lusting after that duvet set. So luscious.
Here’s a few of my things I’m loving lately:
+chocolate covered macadamia nuts
+Au Bon Pain soups for lunch
+Perrier and other sparkling water drinks
+peppermint tea
+my Barnes & Noble Day Planner with leather outer and author quotes on the interior
+sleeping in
+cleaning up and cleaning out (my house and my life)
+simplicity!
Soulmates? Pffft. I think it’s an unneccesary, limiting, putting-things-neatly-in-boxes kind of term, really. There are connections you have with people that are profound — whether they are romantic or platonic or Other, and whether they are fleeting or for as forever as things get. I don’t think it’s really all that important to try to classify all of that into neat little terms. (Not only that, but it seems to mean some very specific things for a lot of people, and this gives a lot of other people who aren’t playing with the same dictionary plenty of chances to feel like whatever they might be experiencing with others is somehow lacking or not enough, and I don’t think that’s a very good thing at all.)
hmmm…my list…
-christmas anticipation
-kissing
-playing guitar
-end of mock exams!
-wearing two pairs of socks
-big jumpers
-smiles
-realising things
My TiLT:
My new gray wall. My baby picked out the perfect gray for the bedroom and did all the painting too. Win.
Christmas trees. I now have 2. I am super freaking excited to decorate the 2nd one tonight. Black ornaments anyone?
The holidays. My next few weeks are totally packed with shopping trips and parties. Very exciting. I am also really amped to spend some time getting reorganized.
As for the whole soul mate thing… I am more into the idea that we create our own destiny. But who knows.
gala – this is a bit random, but i really love the way you wrote this TiLT. it sounds so personal and lovely, as if i can feel your enthusiasm and excitement through the words themselves. like a said, a bit random, but i wanted to compliment you on your writing style in this :D
+Lady Gaga… I think I’m in love. Haha, there’s something so amazingly inspiring about someone who feels compelled to be as weird as they please and can still be successful. And she’s hot. XD
+my friends, who never cease to make my heart asplode with glee
+christmas decorations
+planning christmas gifts for my friends
+new sparkly tight-socks
+making clothes work for me
+the imaginary characters in my head and the silly things they do
It snowed in my town today! First snow of the year! YES YES YES YES YES!!! It is truly, really beautiful
I believe in soul mates. I loved mine dearly as a friend all my childhood. Then he left and I thought he was never coming back and it hurt like hell to even try to stay in touch. Hearing his voice made me want to scream. So we lost touch. Then he came back and he didn’t know where to find me – so he started looking. Tracing my movements from when he left – through colleges and universities. Then one day he showed up at work. And hes not left since. If he wasn’t my soul mate he wouldn’t how found me – thats how I figured it anyway.
AJ
Way way late, but so what…
MY FRIEND IS ALIVE!; The way the lady at Duane Reade wrapped up my box of pads so carefully (in two bags, too) so that nobody would see them, and the way she sprang behind the counter when I was about to check my items with the guy behind the register; the living statue who gave me a note and lollipop after I dropped money into his box; the note itself, which is still in my pocket; the free decrepit Rubber Soul vinyl that I was given; the guy at the restaurant who very kindly and for no reason gave me a little coconut cake for free (what a kind guy!); the guy dressed up in a bee costume that was handing out free “real Vermont” honey; talking with my mom late last night; making travel plans!!!; yummy guitar sounds; I woke up today and my skin looked luminous; boots are finally breaking in; cold winter weather; fresh pita bread and tea in the morning; the rain-snow last night; being a local and knowing things tourists wouldn’t know; my burgundy scarf.
The soulmate bit actually got me thinking and I ended up writting about it on my teeny tiny blog. catscube.wordpress.com/2009/12…
I think soulmates are more common than we think but, they’re not all romantic soulmates. Some are more like…best friend soulmates
PRINCE EDWARD has a home! so it seems, that is wonderful. as is the comment from one girl about believing in soulmates, but hasn’t found one yet-here’s hoping. Hope indeed, HOPE HOPE HURRAH!! I have been a bit hope-less this week, my brain has been diving around a lot of really intense philosophy and I get super angry that this institution I am choosing to attend is making me learn about these (sometimes) stupid! men, who have been given life on a platter and offer no hope to the masses for our existence, in fact they have reduced us to beings SANS magic. It makes my little heart break. The boy I have crushed on for awhile has decided he is dating someone else. That sucks, but the dialogue that happened around it between us was good. I am a communicator in progress and find I wait sometimes till its absolutely necessary to say something to someone else…...so I can work on it, now that I see it’s not getting me what I want: Which is greater love and intimacy…but it makes me so scared I almost start to cry. When I was 15 I was taken advantage of by a group of guys after agreeing to go to a party with them, we did a lot of mushrooms and then they treated me like I was a burden, trying to have sex with me, calling me names when I wouldn’t comply. I pretended I was asleep, or dead. This was a week after I had just started to experiment that way and it has profoundly affected me ever since. I feel stupid for never getting over it. I am scared, dear universe, and yet I keep loving so it must mean something. I think he is a soul mate of mine, we look the same, dress in the same colours, when I spend any time with him I leave feeling good. I really like him. I wish him love and life.
Sorry I know its supposed to be a TiLT. I am grateful, that I can let the world know I learned something today.
xoxo
natalia.