28 February 2014, 10:11
It’s almost March and I’m getting excited! Spring is creeping ever closer and I’m aching to bust out my florals! This has been a particularly brutal Winter, and when you add Winter to a super-rough Mercury retrograde, well, it was not the best season of my life. But I’m thrilled: 2 more days of Mercury retrograde and we’re free!
Ahem. In other news, here are some of my favourite tidbits from the internet this month…
Is there any truth to Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People? Science says yes.
My Avatar, My Self is a great piece about how the public persona we create can overtake who we really are.
Are you a creatrix? Here’s Justine Musk’s take…
A creatrix can look past her own personal drama and understand how her story hooks into the bigger picture, the global system. She understands that when you change yourself, you inspire others to change, and the system has no choice but to change itself around you.
Tim Ferriss on how to get published.
Here’s a post from James Altucher, on how Louis CK and the Hare Krishnas use the same techniques to succeed… And why you should, too.
Has blogging changed? Definitely. Grace’s post on exactly how the blogging world has changed is absolutely on-the-money.
My dear friend Loulou interviewed me for her Be Your Own Magician series.
Magic is about learning to see with new eyes. It’s about flipping your perceptions and seeing the beauty. It’s connecting with the extraordinary in the everyday. And that doesn’t mean you have to do rituals or dance around with a wand in your hand: it was only last year that I realised I have been creating magic with my mind and my thoughts since I was a little girl.
Capitalism.blogspot.com, a little ditty about fashion blogging and cash.
Martha Stewart takes really ugly food photos.
From the New York Times: Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex? What do you think?
Want to know how to communicate more effectively? Here are 6 powerful tips from some of the World’s best interviewers.
It’s all over the internet, but in case you haven’t seen it, Ellen Page’s coming-out speech is definitely worth a watch.
Lindsay Botto’s post on selfie comments.
The authority people feel they have to share their opinion on my appearance is something myself and many other girls online deal with daily.
I love these Do Not Disturb signs from hotels all around the world!
People magazine won’t publish photos of celebrity children anymore. A small step towards sanity.
Soundboardt will fulfill all your Beyonce needs.
This little girl makes incredible dresses from paper.
Twitter, I Love You, But You’re Bringing Me Down. Some guidelines for living online.
The net doesn’t understand that people change, and doesn’t tolerate it — all growth is seen as hypocrisy.
Emma Watson helps us to find love. This is AWESOME.
It’s what you do every day that really counts. Here’s how to be successful just by improving your routines.
Want to learn how to thrive in an attention economy? You need to read this interview between Clayton Cubitt and Kim Boekbinder.
This is so right: Rebecca Solnit on our distracted existence:
Our lives are a constant swirl of information, of emails that can be checked on phones, and phones that are checked in theatres and bedrooms, for texts and news that stream in constantly. There is so much information that our ability to focus on any piece of it is interrupted by other information, so that we bathe in information but hardly absorb or analyse it. ... A restlessness has seized hold of many of us, a sense that we should be doing something else, no matter what we are doing, or doing at least two things at once, or going to check some other medium. It’s an anxiety about keeping up, about not being left out or getting behind.
Growing-up for goths. Punks grow out of it and ravers stop raving. Why do goths just carry on? Good question!
Witches flying on broomsticks? Turns out, they were hallucinating. Fascinating!
It’s official: Internet Trolls Really Are Horrible People. Narcissistic, Machiavellian, psychopathic, and sadistic. Well, no surprises there!
The world is an incredible place. Amusing Planet celebrates that fact.
University of Missouri now offers a class on Jay Z and Kanye West’s relationship. Huh!
Restrain Yourself. As fashion fetishizes fetish more than ever, it’s worth considering the power dynamics of our enduring obsession with bondage chic.
The universality of a love triangle. I found this one through Mystic Medusa, and it’s great!
More complex are the triangles which involve non-human companions. One partner may feel a sense of jealousy and betrayal about the other one’s dedication to work or artistic involvement or spiritual development. Such triangles can evoke exactly the same feelings of jealousy as the sexual variety. When one withdraws into a creative space, one has somehow “left” the person one lives with, and it can create enormous jealousy on the part of one’s partner. ... The one thing they have in common is the component of one or another variety of love, which, in a triangle, is no longer exclusive. And when we must share someone’s love, whether with another person or with something ineffable like the imagination or the spirit, we may feel betrayed, demeaned, and bereft.
10 Ways To Share Your Creativity and Get Discovered, lessons from Austin Kleon’s new book Show Your Work!
The anatomy of a magazine cover, or, why do all those terrible tabloids have yellow headlines? Now we know.
I like The Philosopher’s Mail. You might too.
If you’re hungry in the middle of the night in New York City, here are the ten best all-night restaurants. Empanada Mama, French Roast and Veselka are definitely a few of my favourites.
This diary of a custom love potion is glorious! Sounds like a Los Angeles must-do.
8 Lessons From Jeff Bezos And The Early Days Of Amazon. Awesome stuff.
Can you accelerate serendipity? YES!
Seth Godin on being an elitist:
We write history about people who were brave enough to lead, not those that figured out how to pander to the crowd. Elites aren’t defined by birth or wealth, they are people with a project, individuals who want to do work they believe in, folks seeking to make an impact. Averaging down everything we do so that it becomes cheap and ubiquitous and palatable to all is a hollow goal.
Here’s the frequency of some things in life.
If you’re still waiting to peak, relax. Major creative breakthroughs happen in your late thirties.
In Drag, It Turns Out, There Are Second Acts. I love a good RuPaul piece!
Someone donated $10,000 worth of flowers to a senior citizen home. It makes your heart melt, doesn’t it?
This Father Stood Up To The Entire Fashion Industry After Visiting A Makeup Aisle. This is one of the best things I’ve read in a while.
Choose your dream. But not from a department store shelf. Find the still-quiet place within you. A real dream has been planted there. Discover what you want to do in the world. And when you have chosen, may you faithfully pursue it, with integrity and with hope.
The Amtrak writer’s residency programme is one of the coolest ideas ever.
How dogs rescued me from an eating disorder. This one brought tears to my eyes.
Your husband doesn’t have to earn your respect... And vice versa.
When’s the last time you read Si’s blog? Still one of my favourites.
If you’re in L.A., you should definitely attend LACMA’s live read series, where famous actors do a table reading of a great movie. Most recently, they did Pulp Fiction, with Joseph Gordon-Levitt as Vincent Vega, Lizzie Caplan as Mia Wallace, Jonah Hill as Butch, and Seth Rogen as drug-dealer Lance. So cool.
Barbies had so much sex, back in the day.
For some people hate and anger and bitterness and regret last for years. Sometimes the time it takes to heal a wound lasts longer than a lifetime. This is a waste of a lifetime. That’s ok also. Nobody is requiring you to have a fulfilling life. It’s totally your choice to waste your life.
On the internet’s empathy vacuum.
Things that exist: fruit salad trees!
Here are the four most-desired people in New York (according to OK Cupid).
More RuPaul awesomeness. (I loved the first episode of the new season on Monday!)
“We’re dealing with people who have been shunned by society and have made a life regardless of what anyone else thinks of them have decided,” RuPaul says. “It shows the tenacity of the human spirit, which each of us watching relates to. And we root for them. I think that’s what’s so captivating about it, seeing how these beautiful creatures have managed to prevail.”
Finally, the death of Charlotte Dawson was immensely sad. In contrast to a revolting piece published in the Herald, these are two fitting and loving stories: Little CD In A Prospect Of Flowers and Michele A’Court on Charlotte Dawson.
Photo of Hanna Koczewska from Bizuu S/S 2014 Campaign by Lukasz Pukowiec.
31 January 2014, 10:11
January is o-v-e-r, which means it can only get warmer from here on out! Hooray for that! I’m heading out to Palm Springs in a couple of days for a much-needed dose of sunshine, and needless to say, I can’t wait! (Be sure to follow me on Instagram so you can keep up with my assuredly ridiculous antics!)
Okay, here we go with the best links of the month… Enjoy ‘em!
Make Something Useful Instead. Wise words from Paul Jarvis.
The trouble with Twitter isn’t that it’s full of inanity and self-promoting jerks. The trouble is that it’s a solution to a problem that shouldn’t be solved. Eighty percent of the battle of writing involves keeping yourself in that cave: waiting out the loneliness and opacity and emptiness and frustration and bad sentences and dead ends and despair until the damn thing resolves into words. That kind of patience, a steady turning away from everything but the mind and the topic at hand, can only be accomplished by cultivating the habit of attention and a tolerance for solitude.
Darling, it’s time to own it. Love this piece from Justine and the info about the age at which we start to suppress our natural voice (boys at 5, girls at 12).
Have you ever considered donating your eggs? Here’s the truth about doing it.
Recreating selfies: this woman’s phone went missing, and now the new owner’s photos are being uploaded to her cloud. Sooooo she’s recreating them (complete with glorious moustache). Pretty amazing.
It reminded me of Greil Marcus, talking about the early days of Rolling Stone, when they said, “My God, people are actually paying attention to this. Let’s pretend they aren’t.”
Need help with your blogging? Try writing for two people, instead.
What does it mean to be a quantified writer?
Sarah Wilson just turned 40 and I love, love, love what she had to say about it.
Here is a good list of places to visit in New Orleans if you, like me, are enchanted by American Horror Story: Coven.
A great and powerful piece by Kate: the low-grade misery of wanting to be thinner
Trapped by TL;DR.
As you begin the new year in your business, ask yourself if you’re as passionate about sharing your work with others as you are about creating it.
How has BUST magazine survived? Loved this piece!
Why Is Self-Promotion Considered the Eighth Deadly Sin? By perennial genius Justine Musk.
This is great: 5 reasons weight-lifting is better than cardio. I only do cardio to warm-up!
Does a high IQ equal a high sex drive? Students at Cambridge university spend more on sex toys than at any other university, closely followed by students at Oxford, figures show, sparking speculation that higher IQs can lead to higher sex drives.
10 thoughts on focus.
Materialism forces us into comparison with the possessions of others, a race both cruelly illustrated and crudely propelled by that toxic website. There is no end to it. If you have four Rolexes while another has five, you are a Rolex short of contentment. The material pursuit of self-esteem reduces your self-esteem.
Wish you could improve your skin? Try the face-lift in your fridge!
Oh my god. If you’re squeamish, don’t click this… But if you can take it, click to read these hilarious gummy bear reviews.
Lena Dunham is on the cover of Vogue. GO LENA! And the feature on her is brilliant.
In such moments, she thinks about an observation Antonoff made one day when she was feeling low. “He’s like, ‘You know what’s hard? People want the person who wants to share it all. But they want the person who wants to share it all minus foibles and mistakes and fuckups. They want cute mistakes. They don’t want real mistakes.’ If I placed that many censors on myself, I wouldn’t be able to continue to make the kinds of things that I make. And so I just sort of know there are going to be moments where I take it one step too far.”
Lol. Reversing gender roles makes for some really good engagement photos.
There are some great ideas in here: 10 creative rituals you should steal.
This niche group of professionals apply psychological theories to what we wear, understanding that our clothing choices impact not only our own thoughts and emotions, but also those of the people we come in contact with. “I style my clients from the inside out and bridge the gap from perception to reality,” Karen says.
James Altucher tells us how to get an MBA from Eminem. Brilliant!
How to help people who are grieving or suffering.
This is fascinating and brilliant: 5 Surprising Ways Your Language Affects How You Think
I Tried Jackie Kennedy’s Caviar Diet. Man, I love this weird celebrity diet series. It makes you realise how silly the whole thing is.
Trainer Tracy Anderson and the Epidemic of Self-Sabotage. Tracy and her BFF, Gwyneth, have a new show called The Restart Project. This interview with her is smart and honest.
What do you hope that viewers will take away from the show?
Hopefully [they’ll] get the message of not wanting to crumble under any circumstances they’ve been dealt, whether their boyfriend breaks up with them or their best friend disappoints them or they don’t get recognized at work. Or, that they may have no reason in their life to not be achieving and that they’re really not bringing their best to the table. I hope women [realize] it’s important to take care of me for myself and I would really love to turn the focus away from the noise of [celebrity bodies]. It’s hard in this position that I sit in because I watch so many women who are such beautiful people and have such beautiful potential telescope their desires and just dim their own lights every single day because they’re so focused on what’s in magazines (that’s not even real) or what it is on their body that they don’t like (but yet they don’t really want to show up for themselves to change it in a sustainable, natural way). It brings the human aspect of why we should take care of ourselves into focus.
What if women already have it all?
I recently installed Nanny for Chrome (a free plugin) which restricts your access to the sites you use to procrastinate. It has kind of CHANGED my LIFE!
Killing Yourself to Live: on the value of the teenage death wish.
Get married + be submissive (my ass). Justine Musk’s take on a disturbing trend of romanticising the way “marriage used to be”.
Traditional gender roles are easy. Real intimacy is not.
Veronica’s spell for becoming the person you want to be in 2014.
Oh man, this made me laugh. Miserable men on shopping trips.
On being straight meh-dge.
The boys from Full House — John Stamos, Bob Saget and Dave Coulier — did an Ask Me Anything. Funny!
And finally, to celebrate hitting 30,000 followers on Facebook, I’m running a little contest! Go get it!
27 December 2013, 09:11
Christmas is over and hopefully you’re feeling relaxed and well-rested, eager to jump into the new year with both feet. This is the last Carousel of the year, and if this isn’t quite enough reading for you, be sure to click on the Carousel tag for more!
My interest in Louis Theroux’s documentaries led me to researching him. Among other things I learned: Louis Theroux is a cousin of Justin Theroux (Jennifer Aniston’s beau), and his father is Paul Theroux, famous travel writer. And because everything is somehow connected to Michael Jackson, you won’t be surprised to hear that Paul Theroux used to receive phone-calls from the King of Pop himself. The call he’ll never forget.
Oh, Charlie. Rolling Stone went into prison and interviewed Manson. It’s pretty weird, as you might expect.
I vote a hearty yes to glow-in-the-dark sidewalks!
Meet the Woman Who Waged an Artistic War Against Her Street Harassers. Brooklyn oil painter Tatyana Fazlalizadeh got fed up with dudes invading her space. So she started telling them.
Russell Brand rips Rupert Murdoch a new one.
And when I asked our Philosophy PhD-turned-VC why I felt most productive on a plane, he opened his Moleskine to the opening cover where he had this quote from Pascal pasted: “The sole cause of man’s unhappiness is that he does not know how to stay quietly in his room.” In other words, not being able to go anywhere cuts away the need to think about new stimuli—and finally allows us to focus.
Florida’s Strange and Beautiful Mermaid Theme Park! I can’t believe this exists!
Oh, TLC. Best Funeral Ever is a truly bizarre concept for a show…
10 personal finance tips from hip-hop lyrics. Yes indeed!
So, Elon University is offering a self-pleasure course to teach students how to masturbate.
My main babe Helen and her husband, Vasely, underwent some massive changes in 2013. She losing 66lbs by eating fat, and Vasely has dropped over 145lbs. It blows my mind! It was fantastic to see Helen in November, and she is feeling so much happier and more confident.
This recent interview with Paris Hilton is fantastic!
Haha! Here are the most perfectly-timed pictures of 2013.
John Saward is one of my absolute favourite writers. His stuff makes me laugh and think and swoon a little bit. Informerciless is a brilliant piece (see below), and I also really enjoyed pick-up artists, man caves, bad yearbook photos and Kanye West, and requiem for my hairline.
Watching television at four in the morning is to be profoundly, exhilaratingly free and alone, occupying a kind of fourth dimension where you can become everything but don’t have to become anything. Where you can get rid of your acne with six easy payments, where you are a renegade Godbro listening to Big Tymers in your Jeep Grand Cherokee as you peel out of the high school parking lot, but where you are also still sitting there, semilucid, eating waffles with your hands in the flickering glow of three blonde women nodding and applying creams to each other and trying to change their lives. It is a last salvation; you are safe to dream of plastic, homogenized American vanity without the realities of mirrors and fluorescent lights and people who think your thighs look like stegosaurus feet. Those people exist, but they are not here, only you are, triumphant and scared at the same time.
Carrageenan is scary. Kristin wrote all about it, because it’s in everything! (I can’t have it anymore, it messes up my stomach too much!)
Seth Godin on not trash-talking your own important work.
If you’re psyched to be productive in 2014, this might help you: Energy, Time, Priority, Work/Life: 4 New Ways To Organize Your To-Do List.
What if you don’t want or feel anything? Ask Polly: My Life Is A Beige Pointless Hellscape!
We imagine glory for people in the spotlight, but if they’re not balanced, what they mostly achieve is an anxious state of perpetual pursuit.
Beyonce and Jay-Z went vegan for 22 days.
It’s socially acceptable for women to identify as bi-sexual, but men seldom get the same courtesy. Why Should Fluid Sexuality Be Women-Only?
Research on women’s sexual desires (as opposed to their behavior) reveals the female libido to be, in the words of author Daniel Bergner, “omnivorous.”
Alexandra Franzen has a gift to give you: the gift of focus and clarity.
Wow. This is special! Porn Hub comments on stock photos.
The 14 Habits of Highly Miserable People, or how to succeed at self-sabotage. Total truth!
Cleaning: The Final Feminist Frontier, or why men still don’t do their share of the dirty work.
...a women’s desire for a clean home has deeper origins than just marketing. Cleaning, Hoschild says, is not simply physical work. It’s emotional work. “Letting the house go is in a way letting something deeper go. … You get a sense of safety in an orderly home,” Hochschild says.
Paul Jarvis doesn’t live up to his online self. And hey, none of us do!
This is pretty genius and I am seriously considering giving it a try in my own life: The Notecard System for rembering, organising and using everything you read.
Absolutely loved this interview with Elizabeth Gilbert of Eat, Pray, Love fame, on how she writes. I agree with what she says 100%!
We say we love creativity, but we actually don’t.
“Eating disorders have always been a competitive sport, but social media just increases the number of people you are competing with.”
Attention, writers! Writing a book won’t change your life.
Here’s some unsolicited career advice for the Gossip Girl crew.
It’s better to run towards things, rather than away from them.
Beyonce Broke the Music Business and I love her for it.
On artastherapy.com, you pick your problem, then let art solve it for you!
I really enjoyed Autumn’s interview with Kate on being a new mother, and how body image plays into all that.
Women aren’t good at being arrogant self-aggrandizing jerks, even when it would help them.
On the rising intonation (or “uptalk”) that is so prevalent in New Zealand (and among valley girls).
In such instances, uptalk, rather than suggesting insecurity, may in fact signal confidence, paternalism, coercion or faux conviviality.
This is awesome: Nearly 25 Years of Fathering — and All I’ve Got Are These 3 Lousy Tips.
Higher resolutions. Can you commit to doing something every day in 2014?
Mike and I have been marathonning old episodes of American Horror Story (starting at season one) and I’m loving it. I also adore Taissa Farmiga, and I wish I knew how to pronounce her name. Check out these American Horror Story tarot cards!
This made me laugh until I cried.
Here are ten mind-blowing facts about yoga. Makes you wanna get out your yoga mat, no?
When you step onstage (literally or metaphorically), many people will cast you in a role of their own imagining. You will become, in their eyes: A guru – or an egomaniac; a role model – or an example of what not to do; super cool – or coldhearted… you see where I’m going with this?
Austin Kleon on 10 Things Every Creator Should Remember But We Often Forget. ‘Don’t wait until you know who you are to get started’ and ‘be boring’ are two important ones…
If you’re terrified to turn 30 (or to age in general), this is a must-read.
Celebrities pose with their younger selves! Cute.
Here’s why your name matters. Fascinating stuff.
Drake innately understands how to live in public in the post-post-post-modern era. Though he is a musician, he’s a pitchman first and foremost, and the product he’s pushing is himself, his narrative, his life. True fans of Drake don’t just consume the music. They consume him, and he, symbiotically, consumes them. It’s like being taken over by The Thing.
This concern with pleasing others over the self can, if you let it, consume your life to the point where suddenly everything you do is somehow performative. This isn’t Drake’s fault, but it sort of is. In the age of social media, anyone can become a public figure, simply by virtue of screaming loud enough and reminding enough people that you exist, to distract yourself from the inevitability of death by creating a hermetically sealed bubble in which you seem to matter. I live on Twitter, to the point where if I don’t tweet for three days, someone will text me to make sure I’m not dead. My friends and I can’t just have fun, we have to tweet about our mishaps, instagram ourselves having a good time, or else we haven’t instilled the requisite amount of FOMO in our peers so it doesn’t count. Doesn’t matter if we were too busy proving to others that we were having fun to fully appreciate the experience for its own inherent worth.
You can buy an urn that turns your ashes into a tree when you die.
You’re not a large corporation. Thank god.
Seth Godin says, when you’re offered precisely what you were hoping for… say, “yes.”
The Most Important Thing You’re Not Doing to Start 2014. Instead of setting goals for 2014, do this.
Keep the fear out by counting your blessings.
James Franco wrote a piece about the art of the selfie. It’s pretty silly… But some of it is on-point.
I love what Alain de Botton has to say on making resolutions.
And finally, this is one of the best things I read all month. When Your Mother Says She’s Fat.
As you sat in front of that pathetic scoop of mince, silent tears streamed down your face. I said nothing. Not even when your shoulders started heaving from your distress. We all ate our dinner in silence. Nobody comforted you. Nobody told you to stop being ridiculous and get a proper plate. Nobody told you that you were already loved and already good enough. Your achievements and your worth — as a teacher of children with special needs and a devoted mother of three of your own — paled into insignificance when compared with the centimeters you couldn’t lose from your waist.
Photo of Charli-XCX.
29 November 2013, 09:02
Yankees, I hope you had a lovely turkey day. Ours was lovely, and now we’re taking a few days off to rest and recalibrate. Perfection!
Here’s your Carousel for the month of November. It should be the perfect distraction, especially if you’re trapped with your family, and at a bit of a loose end!
Starbucks is cashing in on the tea craze and opening Teavana stores all over the damn place. Would you go there? I’ll definitely be checking it out…
Here’s why it’s smart to court your friends. (I totally do this.)
Being asked to write for free is offensive. This piece from the New York Times is brilliant.
Erica emailed this one through to me: 61 quotes that will make you feel beautiful, no matter how you look. Fabulous!
Rachel interviewed me about how I do it. I had the privilege of meeting her in Australia, and she is such a fantastic woman! Her blog is an excellent read, so bookmark that ish!
Oh man. Chinese Students Hilariously Describe What They Think About Regional American Food. “Why eat that? That is not good.”
I thought this analysis of Rihanna’s Pour It Up video was really interesting, and especially the comparisons between RiRi and Nicki.
Saying goodbye at parties is awkward. I never say goodbye to everyone, just the people I actually had a conversation with. I have felt a little guilty about this in the past, but this article on ghosting has eased my conscience a little.
Millennials already have the lifestyle that baby boomers are still working towards. Ding ding ding!
Oh, Lorde. Here’s what she can teach her pop peers. It must be tricky to grow up in public, though. I don’t envy the pressure!
Have you checked out Lulu, the boyfriend-ranking app? Hmmm…
Are anorexia memoirs more like how-to manuals?
So engrossed in this thread: groupies tell their favourite stories. I actually ended up reading segments of this this aloud to Shauna when we were waiting at Brisbane airport… It’s pretty amazing.
On Labelling Women ‘Crazy’. Otherwise known as, stop that.
Trying to one-up someone else’s pain never works… And doesn’t make you feel better, either!
Wow! These bad engagement photos are very special indeed.
Black Friday is a pretty gross phenomenon. Seth Godin knows what’s up. “People like doing what other people are doing. People don’t like being left out. The media likes both.” His quick questions on marketing are great, too.
I loved Kat’s 50 pieces of advice for a happy marriage.
The Addams Family’s living room is pink! How wonderful is that?!
Garance Dore writes about things New Yorkers do. (Guilty as charged.)
Here’s some excellent writing advice from Walter Benjamin.
Nervous about slithering into a swimsuit? Never fear, read this instead: Baring My Bikini Body.
What has been important and revelatory to me is the fact that I’ve actually had a bikini body all along, because I had a body and I could put a bikini on it. I spent so many years hating my body, and thinking that my life would change when I was thin instead of actually going ahead and doing what I wanted to do.
This American Horror Story: Coven drinking game made me laugh!
Here are 17 things to do today that will make you proud of yourself in a year. I like it.
Yelling at kids is as harmful as spanking them. No huge surprise there. I would go so far as to say that yelling at other people, regardless of age, can be as damaging as physical abuse, too.
Hate labelling yourself? Tough luck. (And some good tips.)
Sarah Wilson was interviewed by Srinivas from Blogcast FM… And of course, it’s awesome.
This is how they painted Bond’s golden girl.
Here are the 13 things mentally strong people avoid.
It’s cold. I love cashmere. But there’s a difference between a $75 knit and a $225 one… Learn all about it!
An abandoned railway station in Russia. Gorgeous!
The Lunatic Asylum at Morristown, before and after.
Would you shop at this grocery store full of taxidermy?
A 13th century church filled with dirt and flowers…
Kiriko sent me the radical politics of selfies.
There was a time I thought that selfies were obnoxious and that the people who over used them were narcasisstic and ridiculous. Upon further examination, I realized that I was projecting my stuff unto others. My struggle to accept myself was clouding my vision therefore, when I saw others who were unabashed and deliberate with their self-love and acceptance it made me uncomfortable. The fact that people who are maligned, marginalized, and strategically erased find the courage to make the deliberate choice of seeing themselves as beautiful, is both astonishing and miraculous.
Sick of using the same ol’ words? Here are 56 delightful Victorian slang terms you should be using.
I might have linked this one before, but it’s worth linking again, just in case. 33 Unusual Tips to Being a Better Writer.
Should you give homeless people money? Ask a native New Yorker all about it.
Men who try to “explain” rap to women are a pain in the ass.
I love polo necks. I wore a chunky turtleneck sweater from Zara all winter last year, so I’m thrilled that they are making a comeback, and thus I will have more options to choose from.
Sick of making the same old face in every selfie? Try these new techniques.
Sophia Bush on 5 qualities of self-wealth. Are you rocking all of them?
An animation of Hannah’s outfits from Girls.
Air travel could really be so much better.
These are some of the most clever hip-hop one-liners.
Apparently 47% of UK parent-bloggers are being asked not to disclose that their posts were paid!
Eminem talks about fame and creativity with Zane Lowe (best music journalist ever).
This Mouseketeer — who used to be a prominent Pagan — has converted to Christianity.
Them thighs though: Badass babe Elisabeth Akinwale on the “thigh gap” phenomenon.
I loved this story about Jenny helping out her super during Hurricane Sandy.
Tim Ferriss — of 4 Hour fame — has a new television show, and it’s available to watch for free. I really enjoyed it!
Learn all about the evolution of bitchiness.
Some advice if you’re in a really dark place.
I might have posted this before but it always makes me tear up.
Here’s how to stay in love if you’re on a weight-loss journey.
Have a wonderful weekend!
25 October 2013, 13:30
I’ve got my pink suitcase packed and I’m ready to embark on the adventure of a lifetime: heading down under with my two BFFs!
Today, I fly from New York to Los Angeles, and this evening, hop a flight to Brisbane with my babe Shauna. We arrive in Brisbane on Sunday (!!!) and meet Kat, and pretend that we are totally not confused and bewildered by the fact that two days just disappeared…
In other news, here are the best bits of the internet for your consumption and delight!
I’m beyond obsessed with this abandoned Wizard of Oz theme park!
Music affects plants… And it can affect you, too. (This is a great blog, have a browse!)
Just try and stop me from clicking on anything James Altucher tweets. Check out lies we tell ourselves to be liked:
I had to stop using all the energy in my brain coming up with imaginary futures. The brain is too powerful and needs a lot of fuel to keep the lies going. Better to use that fuel for being happy and good now than to make up futures and anxieties and regrets.
I absolutely adore Jonathan Fields, and his interviews are just brilliant. He sat down with Danielle LaPorte recently, and, well, I don’t think I need to tell you how beautiful, illuminating, and real it is.
6 Truths About Exercise That Nobody Wants to Believe. Harsh/true.
There’s a blog called Fucking Awesome Bulimics I Know — whoah, right? — full of interviews with fantastic women who either have or have overcome bulimia. I loved this interview with fitness guru Patricia Moreno.
This woman was the real Jessica Rabbit! Fantastic.
Ever wanted to eat lunch 750 feet underground? If that’s a desire you have, rest assured, you can indulge it!
I’m definitely battling strong urges to book a room here and bathe in a martini glass. How very Dita!
You can go up the Eiffel Tower… Online! Quelle vue!
I love these silly business cards from the 1970s.
This is the most amazing paint roller wallpaper (!!!) I have ever seen! It’s also the only paint roller wallpaper I’ve ever seen…
Sad and fascinating and poignant: Joyce Carol Vincent: How could this young woman lie dead and undiscovered for almost three years? And then a documentary was made about this woman’s amazing life. I read about this for hours, it completely sucked me in.
Portraits Of My Family aims to represent family members through the objects they’ve owned. What would your portrait look like?
I’ve always said we should just cut the ads out of fashion magazines. This guy did.
Imagine living with a lion! Now that’s nutty.
This is the most intense and mysterious doodling I’ve ever seen!
A witch summons hidden forces to castrate the social order, poison the hearth, and fly above her “natural” station. She presides over irrepressible antagonisms, drawing on the bottomless caldron of resistance. Her power is real.
Here’s how to deal with the Pluto-Uranus square...
Is your life full of energy suckers, or as Mystic Medusa calls ‘em, “qi vampires”? Here’s how to deal with them.
Joan Jett did an Ask Me Anything!
If you’re in L.A., I dare you to try out the psychic barber!
This is how big companies figure out what to sell you. And the research is absolutely fascinating.
Also linked to your Guest ID is demographic information like your age, whether you are married and have kids, which part of town you live in, how long it takes you to drive to the store, your estimated salary, whether you’ve moved recently, what credit cards you carry in your wallet and what Web sites you visit. Target can buy data about your ethnicity, job history, the magazines you read, if you’ve ever declared bankruptcy or got divorced, the year you bought (or lost) your house, where you went to college, what kinds of topics you talk about online, whether you prefer certain brands of coffee, paper towels, cereal or applesauce, your political leanings, reading habits, charitable giving and the number of cars you own.
I really enjoyed Kate’s post I think I finally don’t care as much about the way I look.
Totally in love with this campaign to boost girls’ self-esteem. There’s a poster up near my house, and it makes me smile.
Where’s Waldo in NYC?
Here’s why you should quit your job.
Derek Sivers writes great notes on the books he’s read. I enjoyed these ones from Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You, where the author talks about how following passion alone can lead to feeling unfulfilled.
If you want to love what you do, abandon the passion mindset (“what can the world offer me?”) and instead adopt the craftsman mindset (“what can I offer the world?”).
Jen Dzuira is the shit. Check out the best of Bullish. This one — A Day In The Life of Bullish (Caffeine, Pinstripe, and A Lack of Time-Wasting Bullshit) — is particularly brilliant.
Srinivas on junk food of the brain (and some antidotes).
There’s a witches’ market in Bolivia.
Very interesting: 154 minutes with Graydon Carter.
In his memoir How to Lose Friends and Alienate People, a former editor at Vanity Fair named Toby Young quotes Carter as saying: “ ‘You think you’ve arrived … I hate to break it to you but you’re only in the first room. It’s not nothing—don’t get me wrong—but it’s not that great either. Believe me, there are plenty of people in this town who got to the first room and then didn’t get any further.’ ”
This “psychic” scammed people out of their life-savings! Booooo!
Staying at the Chelsea was one of the more memorable experiences of my life, but times they are a-changin’. Here are some juicy tidbits from the hotel’s rock ‘n’ roll history.
This made me laugh! Non-Americans on the weirdest things that are normal to Americans. America is really bizarre, okay?
The Ugly Reality of Creating Reality Television. Reality TV attracts millions of viewers and thousands of hopefuls, but at what cost?
Might need these myself… Homeopathic remedies for travelling.
I absolutely loved Petra’s post on censorship and the female body. Powerful stuff.
30 lessons learned from selling $30 million worth of ebooks. Wowsers!
Very Halloweenie: why dark rides scare the pants off us.
If you had to, how would you define love?
Here’s a great — and wonderfully inspiring — interview with Bobbi Brown.
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