12 February 2013, 09:53
If you’re a weirdo or an outsider (like I definitely was!), the debate over going to prom (or ball, as we call it in New Zealand) is ever-present. Sometimes seen as the domain of the lame, it can be hard to get excited about voluntarily spending time with people you’d rather ignore.
But just like every 80s high school movie, in which I am imagining myself as the rebel heroine of the story, I decided to go to mine. Otherwise, I decided, I wouldn’t know what I’d missed!
I was in full-on goth mode at the time, & chose a crimson maxi-dress in a dark brocade. It had boning in the bodice & a full skirt, & I wore it with fishnets (I think?!) & Mary Janes. Actually, looking back, it was kind of a badass choice for a 16 year old girl to make.
I took two dates — one was my boyfriend, the other was a guy friend — & the only remaining photo I have from that night is of the three of us sticking our tongues out at the photographer!
But despite my cool dress & rad dates, I was still self-conscious. There was no way in hell I was going to get on that dance-floor, so my boyfriend & I stood around the perimeter, raising our eyebrows at one another until I finally said, “Okay, I’ve had enough… Let’s go do something else.”
We got in his car — there was a five year age difference between us, which was quite a scandal at my Anglican girls’ school! — & went out for pizza. We had way more fun eating greasy pizza in our formal wear than we did at the ball itself!
It can be easy to feel that, when it comes to your prom, you have to be traditional & play it safe. But those old rules are made to be broken!
These days, we have the luxury of being able to express ourselves in every piece of our lives… & the prom is no different. You have to put your own individual stamp on it; make it an expression of who you really are! Even if twenty years later you look back on it & cringe, at least you know you went with your heart… !
Re-imagining your prom is pretty fun. If I knew then what I know today, I’d have worn a bright pink dress with a tulle petticoat, & turned up on a bicycle. I’d take my best friend as my date & give her flowers. I might try to bribe the DJ to play a couple of songs by Missy Elliott. I’d mix it up & team my frothy dress with combat boots, fill my purse with candy & sparklers, & dance all night long!
Of course, it’s all about the dress… So many, many options would need to be scouted. In my quest to find the perfect prom dress, I stumbled upon Camille La Vie, a store which packs a punch & houses an extensive collection of dazzling party dresses. If you’re a girl/magpie who loves all things sparkly, check out their site!
I love this one the most, probably because it looks like psychedelic cotton-candy. That would definitely be my pick. But having said that, this gown is perfect for mermaids (& mermaid dancing), & this one is glorious. (I’m a sucker for sequins.) This dress is so modern fairy! J’adore!
Is your prom just around the corner? Have you thought about what you’re going to wear yet? Can we discuss it AT LENGTH on Facebook?! (I want to live vicariously through you!)
...& if you, like me, are several years past your
prime prom, I want to hear what it was like! Did you wear something cool or something shocking? If you were going to do it all over again, what would you do differently?
Dreaming of corsages & spiked punch,
This post was made possible with the help of Camille La Vie! If you like what you see, check out their site here!
Vintage photography courtesy Time & Life Pictures/Getty Images.
22 January 2013, 04:52
My nutty-looking iPhone is a point of personal pride. It’s true. These days, we have the ability to customise practically every aspect of our lives… & we should!
My phone, which is encrusted with teeny-tiny toys & casts rainbows around rooms when the sun hits it, is an incredible conversation-starter. Women squeal when they see it, little girls flip their wigs, & even tightly-laced dudes in suits have something to say about it (usually along the lines of, “Wow, that’s some phone case!”). My Japanese manicurist tells me every time she sees it that it is “really kawaii”, which in my mind, is the ultimate compliment!
It’s not fun to hog all of this stuff for myself. I want to encourage you to dress up your phone, too!
But be warned! I am telling you now, once you start to do a little research — otherwise known as falling down the rabbit hole — you will be astounded, amazed & slightly disgusted by the amount of crazy things you can do in the quest to thoroughly “personalise” your phone!
I’ve mentioned a lot of iPhone stuff below, but the great news is that there are plenty of alternatives for other phones, too. So don’t feel left out! (& don’t think this lets you off the hook, either!)
My case is from LUXYLOLI on Etsy. I really have swept the entire internet for the coolest, most interesting phone cases, & I haven’t seen anything that beats hers. (Not even those Swarovski-encrusted My Little Pony ones.)
I love her cases so much, in fact, that once my iPhone 4 finally bit the dust, I commissioned her to make me one for my 5. It is glorious.
If you want one of her crazy cases but you don’t have an iPhone, don’t fret! LUXYLOLI will make a custom case for you, no matter what kind of phone you have. (Kat has one for her Android, & loves it.) She can even make the whole thing pink, purple or rainbow if that’s more your style! Hooray!
But if a toy-encrusted iPhone case isn’t quite your speed, don’t worry, I understand! You have other options, for sure…
Yes, a pink glitter case can be practical! This 3D leopard head isn’t really, though. Nor is this very blingy peacock, but it sure is fabulous. Bows & pearls! A very chunky & rather over-the-top collection of toys! Hello Kitty’s face in Swarovski crystals! Leopard print & pink & crystals! (Kinda want that one for myself…) Hot pink cheetah print!
If you want your case to look edible, you’re in luck! This one is a veritable smorgasbord. This one too. Waffles, anyone? But perhaps you’re more of a macaron girl. Or do you prefer chocolate mint? There are also crackers, bacon, toast & Pop Tart options. This one is more general pastries.
This case is very spiky. This one is for you if you wish your phone was a Leica... Or a twin lens reflex camera. This one is for the steampunk in your life (!!!) & this retro phone-shaped docking station is kind of rocking my world. (I mean, they’re not strictly iPhone cases, but they’re too cool not to include!)
I’m secretly a bit afraid of this Little Mermaid iPhone case! This girl will make you anything you want. This is perfect for Barbie fans. (The same girl will also do you a pretty chic YSL or dripping Chanel logo…)
I can’t believe I couldn’t find an astroturf phone case, though… ! SURELY that is a gap in the market!
If you want to be astounded, simply type “dust plug” into Etsy’s search box. It’ll give your mind quite a thrashing!
I didn’t even know these things existed until I walked into Patricia Field’s boutique one day. I immediately selected a bedazzled pair of turquoise bunny ears, which have taken pride of place in my headphone jack ever since.
So, plug something into your headphone jack, why don’t you? If you’re stumped for ideas, how about a dangly rhinestone heart? This is easiest the sparkliest pink phoenix I’ve ever seen (if not the only one!). You can plug the gap with a macaron, a fluffy pom-pom, a McRib (?!), a bowl of Lucky Charms, a hedgehog, a painted or crystal skull, a sparkly whale, a little knitted hat, a leopard bow, a donut...
The choices truly are endless. There’s enough stuff in there to push your husband RIGHT over the edge, I tell you!
There are even Starbucks dust plugs, which totally crack me up!
Rhinestone rabbit ears, though, are to me the clear choice.
These things, sadly, don’t last forever. My turquoise bunny ears bit the dust a few months after I bought them: the bendy plastic stopper finally bent too far. Boo! I think it can probably be fixed by someone crafty (like my husband), but I wanted to let you know that this kind of thing is usually not a “forever” purchase.
Still want to go ahead? Yay! You might want to buy a couple, or if you’re feeling DIY-tastic, you can buy the plugs & then attach whatever you damn well please!
There are so many fun accessories for phones. For example, the iPhone scuba suit means you can take your phone underwater & shoot photos or video with it. AHHH! (They don’t have a version for the 5 yet, but hopefully they will soon…)
This keychain tripod means you can film a video of yourself anywhere. Set up your phone in the woods & start filming! (Awesome.)
One of my newest obsessions is attaching different lenses to my phone. It makes using your camera so much more fun, & encourages silly creativity.
I have decided I need this set of Holga iPhone lenses! They are too cute. As they say, this set includes “lenses for dreamy vignettes, vibrant red and green color lenses, multi-image lenses for Spidey-vision (double, triple, and quadruple images), a macro lens for beautiful close-up detail and red, yellow, and blue filters with clear centers for framing your subjects!” I mean: YES!
One of the coolest iPhone accessories is something designed by Will.i.am: the iam+ foto. sosho. It’s essentially a case for your phone, but it has its own camera with interchangeable lenses & a crazy amount of megapixels. I saw Will using it at the EKOCYCLE event, & swooned hard!
You can use your phone to take great pictures, & I’ve written pretty extensively about how to take amazing photos with your phone.
I’ve since discovered a bunch of other fun camera apps since writing that piece, & here are some I’ve loved playing around with…
PictureFrames allows you to put a few photos together: great for showing multiple angles or a full-length shot with some details on the side.
Postagram allows you to make postcards of your photos. This is one of my best friends when I’m travelling! So much love.
Popbooth takes four photos of you & arranges them into a little photobooth strip. Then you can send that photobooth strip as a postcard!
Ink was created by the same company that did Postagram & Popbooth, & enables you to send 5×7 cards using photos from your phone. The designs are slick & cute. Love this app, too.
LensLight is great for adding bokeh (especially heart-shaped bokeh!) to a picture.
Picfx has a selection of cool filters. Again, some really nice bokeh!
Pici Booth makes your iPhone into a little photobooth! It takes three shots in succession, then compiles them into a strip.
PhotoWonder allows you to do really weird things, like enlarge your eyes, “delete” your blemishes & “thinify” your face. I mean, wow!
Kaleido Lens & Kaleidoscope turn your camera into a psychedelic wondertrip.
GirlsCamera gives you approximately three trillion stamps that you can apply to your photos, just like being in a Japanese photobooth!
Afterglow is a great photo-editing app which gives you circle frames & lens flares, among other cool effects.
ShakeItPhoto only develops after you really do “shake it like a Polaroid picture”... !
iBlendBabe takes two photos & combines them. The results are weird & sometimes beautiful!
On the non-camera side of apps, I love…
Day One is a clean, simple & easy journalling app. You can even set reminders so that you remember to update it.
MakeupAlley which is great for looking up makeup reviews while you’re in the drugstore!
Amazon which I mostly use as a way of adding things to my shopping list, books etc.
Yelp because I can never remember the address of anything, & I am compulsive about reading reviews.
KAYAK is an international playgirl’s best friend!
Fandango is the easiest way to book a movie ticket…
Etsy which I used in the Apple store to buy my new case before my iPhone 5 had even been rung up.
MyFitnessPal which I use to log my food & exercise. I know, I’m a nerd!
So much fun can be had with your phone. Do you have a case, a dust plug or an app that you’re completely crazy about? Tell me all about it!
12 December 2012, 11:30
Photo by Lisa Devlin.
When Hurricane Sandy hit, & I found myself without an internet connection for a week, I did what any stylish Virgo would do: I decided to tackle my closet. I even wrote about it on xoJane!
I really do believe that you can make sense of your messy life by cleaning, tidying & organising like a fiend. I mean, at least, it has always worked for me!
So for two days, I grabbed, assessed, sorted & tidied, trying to find some sanity, & clear my closet of its madness.
By the time I was done, I felt fantastic… But I have to admit, that was a month ago, & I still have bags of clothing sitting in my office! I’ve taken at least two huge loads to Buffalo Exchange, where they happily took my items, but I still have a lot left over.
The first couple of loads I sold were mostly inexpensive pieces from ASOS & the like, but a lot of what’s left are big ticket items. I haven’t really known what to do with them. It makes me cringe to remember selling an unworn Betsey Johnson dress to Buffalo Exchange & getting $30 for it. Ouch!
I mean, sometimes it feels like it’s worth taking almost anything just to get the clothes out of your house, but let’s be honest: we’d rather not be slapped in the face when we do it.
So even though I’ve been very lax on dealing with these remaining clothes, I’m kind of glad I waited… Because I just heard about Hello La Mode.
Hello La Mode is like eBay… But verified. If you’re anything like me, you loooove a bargain, & eBay’s one of the best places for that. But you don’t always know that what you’re getting is the real deal, & it can leave you feeling a little gun-shy.
At Hello La Mode, they verify every single item they sell, allowing you peace of mind in addition to your new garb!
To celebrate their launch, Hello La Mode invite you to perform your very own Closet Detox (though I like to think of it as a kind of wardrobe exorcism!). If you go through your closet & list your unwanted clothes with them, you’ll get a $50 credit to shop for something you really adore! Even better than that, one lucky new member will win a $3000 shopping spree, so you can really kit yourself out for the new year!
So awesome, & don’t worry, I’m participating too! I’m selling Rick Owens boots (above!), an alice + olivia dress, Sonia Rykiel trousers, some Helmut Lang, a little Rodarte… It’s a pretty fabulous gaggle of items! Click through to own a little piece of my wardrobe!
Are you ready to get cracking on your own closet detox? Hop to it!
This post was sponsored by the good people at Hello La Mode, but as always, thoughts & opinons are entirely my own!
10 December 2012, 08:56
Kate Spade Ta-Da! t-shirt $58 / Gap two-tone leather clutch $39.95 / Gap leather tote $125 / Bauble Bar Ice Bloom Bib $48 / ASOS Cat Ear Headband $21.11 / Kirna Zabete for Target lips ring $7.49 / Strawberry striped candy $3.79 / Melissa Ultragirl Ballet Flats $114.34 / Miu Miu cat eye glittered acetate & metal sunglasses $390 / Marc by Marc Jacobs Stripey Lips iPhone case $38
If your best friend would rather go dancing than get her hands dirty, if your sister would rather wear glitter than gumboots, & if your cousin would prefer to pick accessories than berries, then you’ve been paired up with a girly girl!
Often referred to as “the girl who has everything”, buying the perfect present for her can feel like a Sisyphean task! But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered! Here are some fabulous hand-selected gifts that will make her smile…
Be sure to use sparkly wrapping paper!
16 November 2012, 15:09
It’s a question we’ve all asked ourselves, especially when the holidays start to creep up on our calendars: really, what do you buy the girl who has everything?
This is a question that has always vexed me. As much as I love “stuff”, the truth is that most of us don’t need more of it. On the flip-side, I believe your home can never be too beautiful… & our friends can help make it that way!
You’ve probably guessed what I’m driving at. Art is the perfect gift!
I’ve teamed up with Art.com to bring you a Perfectly Eccentric gift guide, bursting at the seams with a selection of fabulously weird prints & photographs.
Magic tricks? Yes! Warhol? Of course! Pin-ups & Edward Gorey? It would be my pleasure!
You get the gist, darling!
Imagine your best friend tearing open a huge, framed print of a gazelle in a dress for Christmas! I mean, how fabulous, really.
Now obsessed with finding the perfect pieces,
This post was sponsored by my dear friends at Art.com, & I love ‘em!
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