24 December 2012, 14:52
What a bloody mad & fabulous year it’s been. I just looked back through my photos from 2012 & it’s all quite astounding. Sometimes you don’t realise exactly how much you’ve done until it’s all over!
So let’s do a little recap, shall we?
Mike & I rang in the new year in all our finery, which of course included mouse ears (for me, at least!).
Shortly afterwards, I flew to Salt Lake City to speak at Alt Summit. It was my first time there, & I was so delighted by the whole thing. What a fun event… & great vintage shopping, too! (I bought this leopard coat there & proceeded to wear it all year!)
That same month, I was featured on the cover of a Japanese magazine!
I dyed my hair black just in time to speak at Social Media Week in New York City…
...& promptly flew to Las Vegas to get into plenty of trouble with Kat & Shauna!
We had good times at the Circus Circus…
...& hanging out on the back of an Airstream, of course!
I flew to Pittsburgh & spoke about radical self love at TEDxCMU. Do you think I’m the only speaker at a TED event to wear ears in my official photograph?!
Rachel & I went to Queens to celebrate Holi… It was messy & marvellous.
Mike, Fumi, Asami & I all rode over to Brooklyn to to celebrate spring.
Kat came to NYC just as the weather started to pick up.
We spent an incredible day with the babes from Made U Look Photography, & most importantly, introduced them to the glory of the Salty Pimp ice-cream!
We LOVE them & can’t wait to see them again soon!
Kat had barely gone home before I jumped on a plane & met Shauna in Santa Monica!
We had a great time riding bikes, doing poolside yoga, going for walks at the beach, & rejecting one another’s advances… !
(Incidentally, this was one of my favourite manicures of the year.)
I jumped on a bed for a campaign with alice + olivia, & got to eat a lot of ice-cream in the process.
Then I flew to San Francisco with a gaggle of bloggers for a fantastic weekend with art.com. They treated us like rockstars, & I started to see the appeal of the city by the bay…
I was appointed Beauty & Style Editor at xoJane.com, & going into the office to see the girls has become a highlight of my week. They are so cute!
At the height of summer, my husband & I celebrated one year of marriage. Amazing!
My parents came to NYC for a week; I made my mother pose with me on this Alice in Wonderland statue!
I got all dressed up & hosted a Fashion’s Night Out event with Swarovski… I think I need this couch in my life!
I was featured in a 12-page spread in Ink Fashion. It took two days to shoot, but it was super-fun.
A week after my birthday, I flew to New Orleans for a few days with my BFF from Australia. I totally fell in love with the place…. & I can’t wait to see Jess again soon!
I was on the cover of Her magazine in New Zealand… & the feature was pretty fantastic, too!
Shauna, Kat & Lisa all came back to New York, & we held our very first Blogcademy event. It was a raging success & we had an unbelievably great time doing it!
I partied with will.i.am…
...& that’s not even half of it! PHEW. No wonder I’m so pooped!
I’m so excited about 2013, & as such, I’m taking some time off before kicking back into gear again. I’ll be back on the 1st of January, but of course, I’ll still be tweeting up a storm!
Thank you for coming along with me on this journey. 2013 is going to be absolutely amazing for all of us. I promise!
Have a beautiful new year’s eve!
16 December 2012, 10:28
I’ve been writing here for six years today, & it boggles my mind! Who would have thought?!
One of the reasons this is so amazing to me is that before I started doing what I love — namely, writing every day — I felt like I had no “sticking power”. Before I started this blog, my longest position had been a year & a half at Lush Cosmetics, & by the time I quit, I felt like I was having the air crushed out of me by a vengeful boa constrictor.
I figured I was just lazy or had no work ethic, & I’d look around at other people & completely fail to understand how they could just keep going to the job they hated every day, day after day. I just couldn’t do it. I’d get fired, or quit in a stressed-out rage.
I had this friend, a journalist, who I met under very strange circumstances. We would get together, drink scotch & talk for hours. He was much older than me — I was about 21 or 22, & he must have been at least 45. It was one of my most treasured friendships. I remember telling him one night how much I loathed my job, & lamented my lack of work ethic.
He replied, “Once you find something you really enjoy, trust me, that work ethic will come out of hiding. This job you have right now,” he took a breath, “Well, if you were gung-ho about it, I wouldn’t have much respect for you. You’re destined for something much greater.”
I didn’t believe him, but I always remembered his words… & a couple of years later, I was delighted to discover that he was right.
My goal has always been for this to be a place that makes you feel good. But really, the biggest, best & most awesome thing I could hope is that you are so inspired by what you’ve read & seen that you take a leap in your own life.
Maybe your dream right now is to quit your awful job as a telemarketer, or to leave behind everyone you know & travel to the furtherest reaches of the globe. Maybe you want to start a charity or adopt children. Maybe you want to become a politician or a world class doctor. Maybe you just want to make some space in your life so you can start writing the book you know you have inside you.
People always have excuses for not doing the things they really want to do. “I can’t afford it,” they’ll say, or, “I just can’t.”
When we make excuses, we take a sledgehammer to the knees of our dreams.
Excuses are just that: excuses. If you really want something more for yourself, don’t listen to those doubtful voices deep down inside, & even more importantly, never allow someone else to talk you out of it.
There will always be someone who feels the need to be the voice of reason. Your parents, best friend or Great Uncle Milton will all caution you against doing this or that.
“Be sensible!” They cry. “Be logical!” They insist. “Be rational!” They squeak.
But sensible, logical, rational people don’t often live their dreams.
I’d rather get in trouble in Paris than sit behind a desk in a small town. I’d rather sob my eyes out in London than do another soul-sucking commute. I’d rather embark on an ill-advised romp than do what other people expect of me. Always. A hundred times over.
I moved to New York City by accident: I flew over for a party, & I decided to stay. I arrived with one suitcase, & four years later, I’m still here. I am living my dream every day.
Yes, I had a return plane ticket; I could have gone back to Melbourne, to my old life. It would have been as easy as taking a cab to the airport. But I decided to take a risk. I decided to do something that felt terrifying but right… & I have never regretted it. Not once. Not one day.
We all have reasons to play it safe, be prudent, toe the line. Your heroes, your idols, the people you admire? They had reasons to play it safe, too… But they decided to do it anyway.
We are on the brink of a new year. This is the perfect time to draw some lines in the sand & come up with some brand new rules of living. You don’t have to live a half-baked life. You don’t have to settle, or do what everyone else expects.
You don’t exist to make other people happy. You are here to make yourself happy… & if you’re not, now is the time to do something about it.
I want to encourage you to take a risk. Scare yourself witless. Go out & do that thing. Until you do, you will never know what you are truly made of.
“The goal is to live with godlike composure on the full rush of energy, like Dionysus riding the leopard, without being torn to pieces. A bit of advice given to a young Native American at the time of his initiation: ‘As you go the way of life, you will see a great chasm. Jump. It is not as wide as you think’.” (Joseph Campbell)
Inspire your friends: tweet it out!
When we make excuses, we take a sledgehammer to the knees of our dreams. (Click to tweet!)
I’d rather get in trouble in Paris than sit behind a desk in a small town… (Click to tweet!)
“As you go the way of life, you will see a great chasm. Jump. It is not as wide as you think.” (Click to tweet!)
For the last six years, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your support, love, encouragement & enthusiasm have always meant so much to me, & I adore you more than you could possibly imagine!
So many of you have written to tell me that I am like the best friend you’ve never met, & it is such an honour. I think about that all the time when I’m writing, & it makes me feel like what I’m doing truly matters.
Thank you for that… & for everything else.
With endless love from your BFF, who always believes in you!
4 December 2012, 13:50
It’s all getting a bit festive around here. Even Dolly is getting into the holiday spirit!
I just spent the morning putting up our tree, while listening to a festive mixtape I made! (Don’t worry, I’m sharing it with you tomorrow!)
So: this is our first full-sized tree ever. Previously we’ve had teeny little ones, but when it comes to anything festive, it’s truly a case of the bigger, the better!
I absolutely love this tree. It’s 6 feet (!!!) but skinny, perfect for New York City livin’. The branches are irridescent white, & they sparkle beautifully. I decided to go simple on the decorations, & stuck to silver & disco balls, though I did have to buy a couple of feathered birds. (Our star for the top is still on its way.)
Our living room isn’t very fancy, but this tree makes it feel a little more sparkly in here…
We’re not religious, & I haven’t been to church since I left school, where compulsory chapel attendance was a part of daily life. But I love the experience of celebrating the seasons, marking time, & honouring the transitions.
My mother is a Christmas fiend, & gleefully puts up her tree sometime in November. Her tree makes me look like a total amateur (which, admittedly, I am — this is my first full-sized tree of my own!). I can only hope to aspire to her extreme Christmas enthusiasm & decorating prowess! Clearly, I need more sparkly crystal things…
Do you get into the holiday spirit? How do you decorate, what do you do to commemorate the passing of the seasons? Tell me! I’m curious!
19 November 2012, 10:07
Time flies when you’re having fun… Can you believe Mike & I have been married for over a year now?!
Yep, it was just over a year ago that Mike & I were grinning giddily at one another, & I was twirling in pink glitter Louboutins outside Grimaldi’s, where we had our “reception”!
Looking back at our wedding video is incredible. It doesn’t just bring tears to my eyes, it is also amazing to think about how much changed, to see how different we look, & to remember everything we’ve been through in the year that has passed!
To celebrate the occasion, we looked hopefully at famed British wedding photographer Lisa Devlin until she finally relented & took a few snaps…
We took all these photos in our neighbourhood, the East Village. When I first moved to NYC, I lived in the West Village. It’s beautiful over there, & I love it, but the East Village is where we’ve made a home for ourselves. Sometimes we think about moving somewhere else, where we might have a little more space, but it feels like a Herculean task when you know all your neighbours, & all your favourite haunts are just a block away…
It’s a weird thing to make a life with someone else. When I was younger, I was always so insistent on being super-independent, not realising how much better life can be when you really allow someone else into it. I think I viewed leaning on someone else as a kind of weakness; actually, I’ve come to discover that it’s the complete opposite.
This photo makes me laugh every time I look at it! I actually set it as the lock screen on my phone because I love it so much. (I even made it into an animated gif… Yes, I am definitely having a “moment” with animated gifs!)
By the way, in case you’re wondering, I am wearing…
Pink cashmere cardigan from J.Crew
Teddie dress also from J.Crew
Vivienne Westwood skull necklace
Wolford tights from ASOS
Dr Marten Darcie boots. (I’ve had these boots for a good long time now, & they’re still going strong. It looks like Dr Martens have stopped making them, though… WHY?!)
I think some people get married because they want to have the romantic portion of their life all “sorted out”, so they can focus on work or raising a family or whatever. This is a mistake. Finding the person you want to spend your life with is not the end of the road; in fact, it’s not even close. It’s the beginning of a whole new set of challenges, which hopefully will make you stronger, bring you closer, & enhance your trust & love for one another.
For all its not-picture-perfect moments — of which there are plenty! — it’s so worth it. Being married is like having a slumber party with your favourite person EVERY DAY. I can’t really think of anything better than that… & I never thought that the man I randomly met at 11pm on a Saturday night would end up my husband!
12 November 2012, 13:28
We’ve had power back for about a week. Showers, lights, heating, the whole nine yards. I swear, I’ll never complain about low water pressure again! We’re immensely thankful. But I wanted to let you know, for those of you who are not in NYC, that we are the exception rather than the rule.
Our neighbourhood isn’t looking too pretty right now. There are still massive piles of garbage on the street: some people have had to throw away every single earthly possession. The trash is beginning to really smell. Our nearest supermarket — which was thoroughly flooded — reopened a couple of days ago. I went in on Sunday, & immediately turned & walked out again. It stinks in there. I don’t know how they can be allowed to be open, when it’s still so filthy.
But we’re the lucky ones. For most people in Manhattan, life is starting to return to normal. The subway works. Our places of business are open. Our local coffeeshop is, once again, serving up soy lattes.
This isn’t the case for everyone. Almost 60,000 people are without power. Some of them are disabled, & stuck in their apartments, the stairwells pitch black. Looting & violence is rife. Schools have been transformed into enormous homeless shelters, & conditions are terrible.
Turning the power back on is one thing, but what about the thousands of people who are now homeless? So many people lost everything. Where are they going to live? Where are they going to go?
It’s really easy to change the channel, to pretend this isn’t still going on, that NYC is back on its feet & everything is dandy. But that isn’t the case.
Instead of sitting around & feeling useless, which is how most of us have been for the last week or so, here are five ways you can help out.
You can buy supplies for Occupy Sandy through their wishlist. As you can see, most of their needs have been met, but not entirely. You can also donate money, & consider giving some to New Jersey, too! They were hit REALLY hard.
If you’re in New York or New Jersey, simply ask your neighbours if they need anything! Our landlord gave everyone in the building a space heater once we had power back, but when the boiler was fixed, we were left with a surplus heater. We donated it. Your neighbour might have a family member who could really use extra blankets or toiletries. Just ask.
Let people know about the free housing being offered through Airbnb. Almost 1000 people are offering a room in their house to people left homeless by Sandy, which is such a beautiful thing.
...And once the clean-up is over, the only thing left to do is rebuild. If you know any construction workers who could volunteer their time, please let them know that they are needed!
You can follow @OccupySandy for realtime updates on what is needed & where…
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