29 May 2012, 15:44
Okay, it’s officially summer. It should be one of the most exciting times of the year, but if you’re filled with Body Dread™, it can feel like a nightmare come to life!
Some people would tell you that if you’re having nightmares about appearing on the beach in your swimsuit, you should start watching what you eat. I disagree. Your body is GLORIOUS! You don’t have to change an inch! But if you’re not happy with it, the answer isn’t diet pills — it’s a major dose of radical self love!
There are a lot of different ways to embark on your radical self love journey — you only need to look at the radical self love tag for a ton of ideas! But if you’re not totally sure where to start, or you’d like me to hold your hand while you dip your toe in, Radical Self Love Bootcamp is for you! & now’s the perfect time to do it, because it’s half price until Wednesday the 6th of June!
What is Radical Self Love Bootcamp? It’s a 30 day course which will teach you how to fall in love with yourself. In addition to daily reading & activities, there are instructional videos, MP3s, & the best thing of all… Access to the top secret Radical Self Love forum!
The forum is an integral part of the course, because it connects you to so many others who — just like you — are committed to seeing the magic in the everyday, widening their view of what beauty looks like, & learning how to live their passion. It’s an amazing community of women!
Radical Self Love Bootcamp started in October, & since then over 500 people have signed up for the program! The emails I get from participants are so incredible. It’s amazing how much we can transform our lives when we decide to make it a priority!
I want you to feel good about yourself this summer. I want you to skip down the beach in a bikini & feel like the sauciest thing on the planet! I know the cost of the program can be prohibitive for some people, & it’s important to me that people who really want the program can get their hands on it! For this reason, until next Wednesday, I’ve knocked Radical Self Love Bootcamp down to half price!
Super special for super special babes! For a limited time, Radical Self Love Bootcamp is only $50US. You don’t need Paypal to sign up: if you have a credit card, that will work too! All you have to do is click the heart on the left.
Once you enroll, you can start whenever you want: today, tomorrow or next week! You’ll also receive your invitation to become a part of our bangin’ Radical Self Love FORUM! (It’s awesome. We become real life penpals. Seriously: come join us!)
Don’t just take my word for it — here’s some feedback from just a few of the women you’ll meet in the forum!
“I love your blog, your RSL bootcamp, and the parts of Love & Sequins I’ve read/listened to so far. You are one of my biggest inspirations, not because you inspire me to be like you, but because you inspire me to be me.” (Susannah)
“For me, the best part of RSL Bootcamp was the encouragement (through activities, homework, and the forum) to write about my hopes, dreams, and fears in a journal. This really helped me to stop bottling up the thoughts that were stressing me out, and to tackle them on paper instead. I found I got the most out of the bootcamp when I followed through with the activities, wrote my gratitude lists, and wrote in my journal daily. The women on the forum are wonderful, kind, and helpful people. They are from all different types of backgrounds, all different ages, and each has something brilliant to bring to the table. Meeting and chatting with a number of these women has been a great experience.” (Meaghan)
“I love the book, and I think you have a lot of great advice in it! You have a wonderful energy and I love the joy that you bring to what you do. I feel like it is helping me move forward on my own journey. You are a real inspiration, and so thank you.” (Katheryn)
“After reading through Love & Sequins several times, I decided to take the big plunge and do the Bootcamp. I had made some strides in therapy, but the Bootcamp really helped give me concrete things to do on a daily basis. I’ve slowly started to put myself first, listen to my intuition, & blossom into a better version of who I was before. As you say, it’s not an overnight transformation. It’s a lifelong commitment to caring for the person who matters most, ME! I think I’ve improved leaps and bounds in the past 3 months. I can only imagine how much better things will get. Thank you for your commitment to radical self love and your willingness to share it with those of us who need it most.” (Emily)
“I’ve thoroughly enjoyed this journey you have created, to help me learn how to apply these great tools to love myself FINALLY!!!!! You are a brilliant fluorescent angel of love. Keep up the revolution!” (Alyssa)
I know that sometimes we feel guilty about spending money on ourselves; we feel like we’re being self-indulgent or ridiculous. The truth is this: you are your own best investment. Learning to love yourself will change everything else in your life. You will feel more confident, more happy & more aware. You’ll be more positive & more assertive. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want — you will know that you deserve everything you desire.
I promise that if you complete the exercises & do the work laid out for you, in 30 days time you will feel like a completely new person. It is that powerful!
Remember: happiness is a choice you make! Here’s to the best summer ever!
Photo by Made U Look Photography!
14 February 2012, 14:06
Image by Daryl Banks.
Today is Valentine’s Day — in case you hadn’t heard! Now, Valentine’s Day can be lovely. For example, tomorrow, everything pink, red & heart-shaped will be on sale. (Bonus!) & maybe today, someone will write you a nice note or give you some flowers, & you’ll smile. But maybe not.
It’s wonderful to celebrate love between two people. But it’s even MORE wonderful to celebrate the love you have for YOURSELF.
If you pin your hopes & dreams on someone else & expect them to fulfill your every wish & desire, you’re going to be disappointed. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. A lot of us know that but still we pursue a “perfect love”, waiting for that day when Prince or Princess Charming will come riding over the hill & rescue us from ourselves.
No one can rescue us. We have to do that on our own. Similarly, real love can’t be found in some perfect person. It’s only once we really & truly adore ourselves that we can experience perfect love!
If you don’t really & truly appreciate & value yourself, your relationships will never work. As RuPaul says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love anybody else?”
A major part of RADICAL SELF LOVE & going on the adventure where we discover who we are & what we’re really made of is KNOWING who you are & not apologising for it.
So here’s how to really make love to yourself this Valentine’s Day: Stop trying to please everyone else. Stop trying to make everyone love you. Drop everything that is false or untrue or revolves around someone else’s ideal. Just be who you are!
You cannot make people love you. Either they do, or they don’t. You may think that if you start this business, stop being so opinionated, learn how to bake or lose 10 pounds, you will be more lovable. You think people will shower you with compliments & adoration, & life will be like the high points of a Bollywood musical. Or like this. All the time…
So beautiful, right? But as much as we all want a life full of rainbows & sugar highs, we are always going to come up against obstacles & encounter people who don’t get us, don’t like us, or try to tear us down.
The truth is that no matter what you do, some people will love you, & some people will hate you.
That may be a bitter pill to swallow, but it will free you. It will free you from all the unnecessary bullshit & nonsense you have unknowingly surrounded yourself with. It removes you from false circles of friends, or ridiculous industry insincerity. It extracts you from trying to impress people who will never be impressed by you… & it moves you closer to the TRUE ESSENCE of who you are.
You are magnificent. You are gorgeous. You are a sultry genius, a waterfall of stars. You are a brilliant muse, a glorious deity. You are a blossoming lotus, a crackling thunderstorm. You are a supernova. You are more spectacular than you can possibly imagine.
Pretending to be anything else is simply a disservice to your true self.
Shine on, you crazy diamond,
1 February 2012, 13:32
Two years ago today, I put out a plea to end the Valentine’s Day madness, & decided to declare February the month of Radical Self Love. I didn’t know, then, what it would become. I didn’t know how much it would grow & swell, how much it would become a part of so many girl’s lives, & how much it could help us, change us, & make us happier.
Radical self love has since become my passion, my mission, my raison d‘être. I want nothing more than to show women — ALL women — how beautiful they are. Doing this inner work is what leads to everything else that is wonderful.
Loving yourself changes everything about your life. You stop putting up with other peoples’ bullshit. You start to demand more of others, & expect more from yourself. You leave destructive relationships & fizzled-out friendships in the dust. You start to wake up to what you’re truly passionate about, & make steps towards pursuing it. It completely alters your existence in a way that you could not possibly imagine.
My own journey to radical self lovin’ was a rocky one. I was clinically depressed from a young age, even diagnosed with bi-polar disorder by a doctor who barely took the time to speak to me! I started going to therapy when I was 13 years old, but no matter how many sessions I attended, nothing changed. When I moved out of home, I developed an eating disorder which consumed my life for several years. I always had huge dreams but I felt utterly crippled by what I perceived as my problems, my curses. My life felt hopeless & destitute. I felt so alienated from what was “normal”, & was afraid of what my future might look like.
My life completely changed when I started using EFT & consequently, learning how to love myself. My boyfriend — who was sick of me being a miseryguts all the time! — encouraged me to explore this path, & we had no knowledge of where it might lead.
I went from being a girl who felt stuck in her horrible corporate job, having terrible unromances (oh, the stories I could tell you), & feeling sad all the time to the woman I am now. I live in my favourite city in the entire world, I’m married to a fantastic man, & I get to do what I love EVERY DAY. If that’s not a personal revolution, I don’t know what is… & I think it’s worth celebrating!
So here’s what I have for you this February…
1. I’m going to be dishing out radical self love homework & activities ALL MONTH LONG!
2. For the duration of the month — all 29 days! — both Love & Sequins & Radical Self Love Bootcamp are going to be HALF-PRICE! (Eeeeeeeeeeeee!) This way, if you feel inspired to delve deeper into your own radical self love adventure, you’ll have a new & fantastic way to do it.
Why yes, yes it is!
Radical Self Love Bootcamp is
$100 $50! It’s a 30-day course which comes with videos & MP3s, as well as an invitation to our exclusive (& FABULOUS) forum, where you can interact with other radical self love warriors!
If you enroll today, you’ll be (immediately!) sent a link to download the entire course. You can start whenever you want: today, tomorrow or next week!
Love & Sequins is is
$12 $6 per chapter, or $84 $42 for the WHOLE thing! All you have to do is click the heart on the right & you’ll be taken to a page showing you all your options — or you can click right here!
Each chapter is 10,000 or more words — a pretty large serving of sparkle! You’ll be sent your chapters of choice straight away, along with an accompanying MP3 to listen to on road-trips or while you walk around your city!
By the way, you don’t need a Paypal account to get your hands on the deliciousness — you can simply use your debit or credit card! Yay!
I can’t wait to share all this goodness with you… Get your radical self love bible ready & LET’S DO IT!
Happy Valentine’s Day month!
2 November 2011, 14:21
Call me (call me) on the line! Call me, call me any, anytime!
LIVE! Wednesday 9th November
London: 8pm Wednesday
Los Angeles: 12pm Wednesday
Paris: 9pm Wednesday
Hey bunny love! Stop by at this time next week for a FREE LIVESTREAM, coming direct to you from Radical Self Love Headquarters! I’ll be embedding it right here on the blog, so you can watch from wherever you are!
I’m going to be speaking about the holiday season, body image & loving ourselves: how these things intersect & ways we can ease up on ourselves during this trying time!
Thanksgiving is just around the corner, & Christmas is nipping at our heels. The horror! It’s difficult enough to stay on track during the middle of summer, but when you add cold weather, cabin fever, eccentric relatives & tables piled high with chocolate, it can send even the most sane girl over the edge!
How can we love ourselves when our relatives insist on treating us like the children we once were? How can we feel good about our bodies when there are no healthy food options? How can we take a mental holiday from the insanity going on inside our own houses? I’m going to be sharing some tips & tricks, so you don’t end up purchasing a panicked one-way ticket to Djibouti in the middle of the night!
In order to make it as relevant to you as possible, I’d love to hear what you’re dealing with right now! If you have any comments, questions & ideas you’d like to share, did you know you can call the RADICAL SELF LOVE HOTLINE anytime?! It’s true!
(If you’re outside the U.S.A., add +001!)
(Of course, you can always let me know on Facebook, if it’s easier for you!)
So, like… call me & let’s make this thing sing! Looking forward to next Wednesday!
12 October 2011, 22:01
In my livestream yesterday, I announced that I was opening up a Radical Self Love Bootcamp scholarship program!
The reason for this is simple: I know that sometimes we don’t have the cash to do everything we want to do… & I know a lot of you would love to participate in Bootcamp, but don’t have the resources right now. Well, I want to help you!
I’m giving away FIVE SCHOLARSHIPS to Radical Self Love Bootcamp! To enter, all you have to do is tell me why you’d like to be part of Bootcamp at this link. In the interests of making it really fair, the winners will be selected randomly. It’s not a creativity or popularity contest at all! Hopefully, the winners will be people who are really excited about Bootcamp, who are able to commit time to complete the program, & who will make wonderful, fun new additions to the forum!
(Pssst… The forum is A-M-A-Z-I-N-G-! Wanna see?!)
So much fun! We want YOU! You’ll win a copy of Radical Self Love Bootcamp, as well as access to the forum, videos & MP3s!
The winners will be drawn next Wednesday morning so if you want to enter, please do it RIGHT NOW before you forget!
P.S. If you want to enter on behalf of your best friend, little sister, big brother, wife, husband or grandmother, go ahead! Just say so in your entry! GOOD LUCK! xoxoxoxxx
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