2 October 2011, 01:00
What does radical self loathing look like?
It’s a creeping malaise. A feeling of despair & desperation. Hopelessness. Apathy. Not knowing what to do next. Wanting to improve your life but having no idea how to do that. Feeling disgusted by the way you look. Not wanting anyone to take a photo of you. Feeling like your insecurities are dictating your life. Feeling demotivated. Being “stuck”. Feeling lost. Loneliness. Thinking you have no options. Wanting to love yourself but feeling like you’re not worth it…
I officially invite you to STOP THE MADNESS!
In 2006 I began making the transition from being a total miseryguts (!) to who I am today. I didn’t know how to love myself, & I didn’t think I deserved to love myself, either. In fact, I thought the whole concept was bogus!
All you need to begin, though, is to make the decision to change. Once I did, I started learning how to dismantle my own thought patterns & examine the things which were holding me back. These simple ideas helped me overhaul my entire life! The changes I went through were massive — there is no way that the girl I was in 2006 would be able to fathom doing a quarter of the things I do today!
I get emails all the time from amazing girls & wonderful boys who are starting on their radical self love journey, but don’t know what to do next. Once you’re ready to take the first step, where do you go from there? In Radical Self Love Bootcamp, I tell you exactly what to do!
Teach you how to fall in love with yourself! It’s time for romance, baby! For the duration of this month, you’ll date yourself, & learn how to treat yourself like you do your best friend.
Revitalise your view of who you are! Your vision of who you are isn’t necessarily true. Maybe some of those ideas came from someone or somewhere else. We’re going to take a big, deep, loving look at ourselves & reexamine who we really are!
Help you realise how incredibly beautiful your body is! I’m going to lavish you with oodles of tips, strategies & little tricks to help you become more comfortable with the way you look, & show you how to work the hell out of what you’ve got!
Introduce you to a group of incredible souls going through the same journey as you! HELLO, radical self love forum! OH YES!
Encourage you to live spontaneously & karate-chop your limiting beliefs! We’re going to be reminded how sublime & delicious it is to dance to the beat of our own drum! We’re going to examine our dreams & learn how to make them come true.
Motivate you to make essential changes… Because sometimes what we really need is a good kick in the pantaloons!
Encourage you to live with more integrity & truth. We’ll investigate what it means to “give your word”, & how things can feel off when we’re not really living with passion.
Get you feeling motivated, energised & excited again!
& most of all, inspire you to start living the life you’ve always wanted!
30 days — that’s 4 weeks! — of mind-expanding lessons & activities
Access to an exclusive Radical Self Love forum, where you can swap tips & make friends with other radical self love warriors! (!!!!!!!!!!!!)
Your invitation to live-streaming radical self love workshops, broadcast from International Playgirl HQ, with plenty of Q&A from YOU!
Videos to accompany & illustrate specific lessons
& a bundle of MP3s to get you psyched up every morning, & to chill you out at night!
Every day, you’ll read (or listen to!) a new lesson & be asked to think about or actively work on various facets of your life. There are worksheets, round-ups & lots of questions.
Radical Self Love Bootcamp isn’t a course. It is a TOTALLY IMMERSIVE experience! We’re going to get our hands dirty, & bring radical self love into your reality!
One of the most fabulous things is that you’re not doing this alone! With 24/7 access to the Radical Self Love Bootcamp forum, you have an instant network of incredible people who are going through the exact same process as you! Can you imagine the marvellousness of being able to LIVE CHAT with other radical self love warriors at 2 in the morning?!
Radical Self Love Bootcamp is $100US. You don’t need Paypal to sign up, a credit card will do just fine! All you have to do is click the heart on the left.
If you enroll today, you’ll be (immediately!) sent a link to download the entire course. You can start whenever you want: today, tomorrow or next week! You’ll also receive your invitation to become a part of our bangin’ Radical Self Love FORUM!
Alternatively, if you don’t have the cash right now but want to secure your place, you can pay in installments! You can either pay 2 installments of $50 or 4 installments of $25. You’ll be billed monthly, & you’ll receive your copy of Radical Self Love Bootcamp when you’re all paid up!
I am so incredibly excited about sharing Radical Self Love Bootcamp with you! It has been so illuminating just to put it together, & I can’t wait to experience awe-inspiring transformations with ALL of you!
P.S. Huge thanks to Kris Atomic. Didn’t she do a killer job on the illustration?!
P.P.S. There are some frequently asked questions about the bootcamp here!
18 September 2011, 10:56
21 July 2011, 15:28
Photo by Seraphically Drunk.
An excerpt from Radical Self Love Bootcamp
Your most powerful weapon in the war against self-loathing is something you are going to create for yourself. You are going to take a blank book & fill its pages with truth, with beauty & with love. The further that you go in your radical self love journey, the more you will realise that all the answers come from within yourself. Great thinkers, writers, philosophers & hairdressers can all give you wonderful ideas & morsels to chew over — but the way you assimilate them will be entirely personal, & it’s for this reason that I say everyone should have a radical self love bible. It’s your way of noting your progress & reminding yourself of the simple truths which make your world a happier place to be.
One of the best reasons for creating a radical self bible is to localise all your genius. I’m serious! Especially in the time of the internet, we’re all so overloaded with information — & constantly learning new tips, tricks & lessons — that it can be easy to lose track of it all. I don’t know about you, but my memory isn’t the best. Sometimes, it seems like I have to learn (&/or repeat mistakes) multiple times before the message sinks in.
Why is that? Well, the reason is that — as I said earlier — we all assimilate information differently. You can tell someone something a million times, & then someone else will come along & their way of putting it ignites a big fire in your mind. When you write down the lessons you’ve learned with a personal slant, they become more powerful, & more potent.
Back to the bible. There are no rules. It is a free-form experiment, & you’ll make it up as you go along. To start with, I’ll give you some guidance, & then you’ll learn how to fly on your own.
Everyone’s radical self love bible is totally different, & that’s precisely what makes them so magical, so wonderful. Think of it as a journal crossed with a book of shadows, a top-secret toolkit to help you pull you out of any slump, & a scribbled devotional to your own magnificence.
It is something to put positive energy & intention into. You can write your secrets, goals, hopes & wishes. You can write about what you’re afraid of — & dissect it so the fear no longer controls you. You can disassemble old patterns & break disempowering habits.
It is something precious & sacred. I would recommend that you never show it to anyone else, & write it with that in mind. The problem with writing is that even the idle thought of a someday audience will alter the structure & form & essential bones of what you’re putting down on paper. It will warp your words, & the idea is to make this as true & real an expression of yourself as possible. So don’t show it to anyone else. Keep it private, keep it personal. This way, you won’t be afraid of admitting things out loud.
As for picking the right book: you can use anything which speaks to you. Some girls will choose a soft-covered Moleskine, while others will prefer a small ring-binder. The only criteria is that you need to able to write inside it, & it helps to be able to stick pictures in there too. We are visual creatures, so the more optical stimulation the better!
I like to use A4-sized books with hard black covers & enormous sheets of blank white paper inside. I love to operate on paper without lines or constraints. You can write sideways, upside down, & tape huge pictures onto the pages. It’s my favourite way to work.
But like I said, it’s up to you. Go to a stationery or art supply store & run your hands over the blank books. Pick something which hums with promise. Then take it home & make it your own.
20 July 2011, 11:02
Photo by Ellen Von Unwerth.
Our launch of Radical Self Love Bootcamp has been a huge success! It’s so exciting to see the names of all the Bootcamp Betties roll into my inbox! I can’t wait to unite with you all in the forum & make this thing BANG!
I’ve received a few questions about the programme since then, & I wanted to answer them publicly in case you’re wondering about the same thing!
Here we go… !
“Is the price ever going to go up?”
Definitely not! I promise you that the price will never go up!
“Do you have a payment plan? I really want to do it but I can’t pay for it all at once!”
Yes! You’re welcome to pay 2 installments of $50 or 4 installments of $25. You’ll be billed monthly, & you’ll receive your copy of Radical Self Love Bootcamp when you’re all paid up!
“I’m curious if any of the content will be from Love & Sequins or the blog itself?”
Nope! All of the content is new. Having said that, you know me & you know what to expect when it comes to writing about radical self love! I will mention a few ideas or concepts which have been on the blog before, but they will be presented in a new, fresh way!
95% of the content will be totally new. I’m doing so much reading & research, with the intention of making it a really well-rounded, solid programme. That makes it much more challenging & satisfying for me, & more educational & informative for you!
“This is very exciting, Gala! I’ve been hoping for something like this from you for a while =] I think it’ll take off. Do you have plans for any sort of “life-time benefits” or extended support beyond the 30 day boot camp for the warriors who sign up?”
Yes! You get lifetime access to the forum — which is amaaaaaaaazing, & such an important tool for a radical self love journey! — & there will be mega-discounts & incentives for future programmes, too!
“Looks fabulous! Will there be a per-event basis method of buying into the bootcamp? Say $100 is a big sum to drop for a lot of us (although it’s absolutely worth it), but say you can charge $5 or $10 per broadcasted classes, mp3s, or whatever else you may have in store. I have a friend that I definitely want to get involved in this… but again, the cost is a bit high (for the unemployed like us) – if it’s divvied up into smaller chunks where we could really pick out something that could work for us.. it’d be fantastic. Regardless, good luck with it!!!”
Yes! I’m going to be live-streaming a radical self love circle regularly — probably on a weekly basis. This will definitely be open to anyone who wants to join in, & it will be very inexpensive!
I might make other bits & pieces available, too. Stay tuned!
“I’m so excited about your RSL bootcamp—I’ve really been doing some transformative stuff lately and I think it could just be the cherry on top. Anyway, I had a quick question. I’m going to be studying abroad during the fall and winter, and am concerned I won’t have enough time to give myself to the bootcamp during October. Is it something that I could do at my own pace, kind of catch up throughout October, November, and December? Or is it pretty scheduled into the month of October?”
The best thing about Radical Self Love Bootcamp is that it’s a self-study course, & entirely up to you as to how quickly you devour the material. You can start October 1st or January 15th. If you want to savour it & move slowly, you can! If you’re going away on holiday halfway through, it’s okay! You can come back to it whenever you want.
The forum will be perpetually brimming with people starting at different times, & moving at different rates. The great thing about this is that it means oldies can help newbies, & there will be an even more wonderful wealth of information to draw upon!
So, all this to say… Yes! It is definitely something you can do at your own pace!
“I am so happy that you are kicking off the bootcamp for RSL, I don’t think I mentioned it to you but ever since I heard the first L&S installation I figured you should do this. Anyhow since I’m based in a completely different time zone, Sweden is 6 hours ahead of NYC, I am wondering how this will work for the live sessions. Will they be available someplace after you have “aired”? Might you hold some sessions on times that would be feasible for us europeans?”
I’m going to hold the live-streaming classes at various times, to give everyone around the world a shot at interacting with me in realtime! However, having said that, all classes will be archived so if you miss one, there’s no sweat! I’ll be taking questions before the classes, too, so if there’s something you want me to answer but you’re going to be at work or asleep, you’re still able to get my feedback on your issue!
“Do you have a blog badge for the Radical Self Love Boot Camp? I’d love to promote it on my blog!”
Yes ma’am, I do! Just copy & paste the code below the image to have this picture show up on your blog!
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