What Do You Love About Yourself?

[ 2 February 2012, 08:58 ]

If you’re feeling un peu down on yourself, here’s one really easy way to pull your socks up. Start writing a list of the things you love about yourself. I’m not talking about no 5 item list, either. No! I want you to get to 100 THINGS!

Sound too difficult? It’s not, I promise. If you’re coming up totally blank, here are some ideas to get your juices flowing…

The arch of your eyebrow Super-long arms which can reach any item on any top shelf Excellent taste & personal style Personal bravery Killer compassion Your dedication to optimism Strong fingernails Fearless wearing of crazy hats & weird sunglasses, no matter the occasion “Get ‘er done” spirit Excellent tea-making skills Unbeatable list-writing Relentless curiousity Vast knowledge of beat poetry Super-responsible pet mama Ability to make complicated concepts easy for others to understand Stellar accessorising…

Start writing it in your radical self love bible, or even on a scrap of paper! Carry it around with you so you can add to it when you have a flash of genius insight. By the way, if it takes you all month to complete this exercise, that’s totally okay. On the flip-side, if you blitz through your list in a day, KUDOS! (Maybe you could help your best friend write his or her own!)

Radical self love starts HERE, with a real & honest appraisal of the things that make YOU so brilliant!

Get writing, baby!

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In Celebration Of All Things Radical Self Love... & A Very Special Valentine's Day SALE!

[ 1 February 2012, 13:32 ]

Two years ago today, I put out a plea to end the Valentine’s Day madness, & decided to declare February the month of Radical Self Love. I didn’t know, then, what it would become. I didn’t know how much it would grow & swell, how much it would become a part of so many girl’s lives, & how much it could help us, change us, & make us happier.

Radical self love has since become my passion, my mission, my raison d‘être. I want nothing more than to show women — ALL women — how beautiful they are. Doing this inner work is what leads to everything else that is wonderful.

Loving yourself changes everything about your life. You stop putting up with other peoples’ bullshit. You start to demand more of others, & expect more from yourself. You leave destructive relationships & fizzled-out friendships in the dust. You start to wake up to what you’re truly passionate about, & make steps towards pursuing it. It completely alters your existence in a way that you could not possibly imagine.

My own journey to radical self lovin’ was a rocky one. I was clinically depressed from a young age, even diagnosed with bi-polar disorder by a doctor who barely took the time to speak to me! I started going to therapy when I was 13 years old, but no matter how many sessions I attended, nothing changed. When I moved out of home, I developed an eating disorder which consumed my life for several years. I always had huge dreams but I felt utterly crippled by what I perceived as my problems, my curses. My life felt hopeless & destitute. I felt so alienated from what was “normal”, & was afraid of what my future might look like.

My life completely changed when I started using EFT & consequently, learning how to love myself. My boyfriend — who was sick of me being a miseryguts all the time! — encouraged me to explore this path, & we had no knowledge of where it might lead.

I went from being a girl who felt stuck in her horrible corporate job, having terrible unromances (oh, the stories I could tell you), & feeling sad all the time to the woman I am now. I live in my favourite city in the entire world, I’m married to a fantastic man, & I get to do what I love EVERY DAY. If that’s not a personal revolution, I don’t know what is… & I think it’s worth celebrating!

So here’s what I have for you this February…

1. I’m going to be dishing out radical self love homework & activities ALL MONTH LONG!

2. For the duration of the month — all 29 days! — both Love & Sequins & Radical Self Love Bootcamp are going to be HALF-PRICE! (Eeeeeeeeeeeee!) This way, if you feel inspired to delve deeper into your own radical self love adventure, you’ll have a new & fantastic way to do it.

Why yes, yes it is!

Radical Self Love Bootcamp is ~~$100~~ $50! It’s a 30-day course which comes with videos & MP3s, as well as an invitation to our exclusive (& FABULOUS) forum, where you can interact with other radical self love warriors!

If you enroll today, you’ll be (immediately!) sent a link to download the entire course. You can start whenever you want: today, tomorrow or next week!

Love & Sequins is is ~~$12~~ $6 per chapter, or ~~$84~~ $42 for the WHOLE thing! All you have to do is click the heart on the right & you’ll be taken to a page showing you all your options — or you can click right here!

Each chapter is 10,000 or more words — a pretty large serving of sparkle! You’ll be sent your chapters of choice straight away, along with an accompanying MP3 to listen to on road-trips or while you walk around your city!

By the way, you don’t need a Paypal account to get your hands on the deliciousness — you can simply use your debit or credit card! Yay!

I can’t wait to share all this goodness with you… Get your radical self love bible ready & LET’S DO IT!

Happy Valentine’s Day month!

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Radical Self Love Lifestyle Tip #2: Celebrate Everything!

[ 18 January 2012, 17:13 ]

Celebrate everything!

The world is full of small wonders. Who can argue with the magnificence of baby teeth or big fluffy clouds? Who could deny the beauty of a pink convertibles, or a plane streaking its way across a blazing sky? There is so much beauty in small things, like discovering a stray sequin on the footpath, or finding a $20 bill in your pocket. What would life be without first kisses, & the first snowfall of the season?

These things are worth celebrating, & there are always more. Make it your duty to delight in the details.

Create altars in your home. Build devotionals to your charmed life. Decorate shelves & windowsills with photos, candles, flowers & little statues, & light matches every night. When you do, take a moment to think about your blessings.

Remember: When you feel stuck, ensnared, entangled & embroiled, you have a choice. You can choose to see the magic & the wonder — even though it might be difficult — or you can choose to focus on the problems. You’ll always get more of what you think about…

Choose to infuse your life with burning candles & birthday cake, whenever possible.

Photo of Christina Aguilera by Ellen Von Unwerth.

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Things I Love Thursday: I Am That Girl

[ 27 October 2011, 08:59 ]

On Wednesday afternoon, I stood in a doorway in the East Village, clutching a cup of lavender earl grey tea, while I listened, rapt, to the two women at the end of my phoneline. I was on a call with Alexis Jones & Emily Greener of I Am That Girl, a non-profit organisation devoted to the championing of healthy media for women.

Alexis Jones is a force to be reckoned with. She blagged her way into an audition for Survivor, ended up on the show, & used every second of camera-time she was afforded to talk about I Am That Girl. She speaks to groups of young women around the world, & appears on stage looking super-cute, with her hair done, a great dress, big eyelashes & fab shoes. Halfway through her presentation, she grabs a baby-wipe & takes off her make-up. She pulls her hair up into a bun, & she changes out of her cute dress into a pair of trackpants. Her goal? To show us that we are all the same. When I was told about her doing this, I got tingles all over my body. What an incredible living demonstration of confidence, & most importantly, radical self love! As soon as I heard that, I knew Alexis was a woman I wanted to know.

I Am That Girl is doing amazing things. They recently went to the White House to speak with the First Lady, Michelle Obama, about creating healthier & more positive media for women. So impressive! Alexis told me that America exports 80% of the world’s media, & that there needs to be a higher standard & more accountability for what’s being put out there. She thinks that the current state of media — with its Real Housewives & Jersey Shore idiocy — constitutes a global health crisis for girls.

Their goal is create the first ever all-girl driven network, with smart, sassy, hilarious content produced by women, for women. They want to inspire women everywhere to use their phone, FlipCam, or webcam to start getting their voices heard. I think it’s so important to give women a platform & invite them to shine, & this is exactly what I Am That Girl is working towards.

It was so exciting to talk with Emily & Alexis; they are two women who really have their heads screwed on tight, are following their passion & trailblazing the new wave of feminism. I was thrilled to speak with them on the phone, & even more delighted when they said they wanted to work with me! I’m absolutely over the moon to help out with I Am That Girl… Watch this space!

In the meantime, there are some great articles on the I Am That Girl site. Have a read of donate a conversation; a Bellism reminder & girls need girls! Look around, follow them on Twitter, check them out on Facebook, be inspired by IATG’s Tumblr & get ready to rally for the cause!

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Radical Self Love Lifestyle Tip #1: Create Disneyland In Your Heart Every Day...

[ 12 October 2011, 15:05 ]

Create Disneyland in your heart every day.

...Because radical self love is not just about learning to love who we are. Our vision of radical self love extends to how we treat ourselves, our lovers, our environment & our responsibilities towards everyone else on the planet. When you create Disneyland in your heart every day, what you’re really doing is transforming your existence & your experience, & by extension, everyone else’s existence & experience!

You can morph the mundane into the magical with only a small change of perspective. Make breakfast a luxurious event, send emails with a smile (the receiver can feel it!) & make an effort to welcome the beauty of life — which exists all around you — into reality.

Adding a bit of flourish to your life doesn’t have to be tricky or expensive. Fresh flowers which will brighten your apartment cost less than a cocktail in Manhattan, & sending your loved ones postcards will only set you back the price of a stamp.

You can’t make magic unless your heart is full of love. Similarly, when you make space for beauty, your brain works better. Ideas flow thick & fast; genius, eureka moments become a regular occurrence; & that smile on your face makes you look ever so gorgeous!

Focus on the things which make you happy, & fill your heart with so much love that you think it will burst. In fact, your capacity for love, light, fireworks & birthday cake will only grow.

With thanks to Christopher from SoulGarden, who always inspires.