EFT Tips & Tricks
[ 6 February 2008 ]
So many of you are using EFT now, & it makes me deliriously happy! It’s a wonderfully empowering thing to know that you can actually get rid of your problems, & not stew in their juices for the rest of your life. I have had quite a few questions about EFT recently so I thought I’d address a bunch of them in one go. Let me know if you have any additional queries!
“I don’t know if I’m actually “doing it right”, if that makes sense. I do the whole tapping my head, eyebrows, under-eyes, under nose, between chin & lips, chest, side of chest, under chest… but it somehow doesn’t feel like enough! How many sessions do you recommend for one problem? Should a whole sequence of the above be on one over-arching issue or can I tap out completely different things?”
(FYI, the points are: top of head, start of eyebrows, side of eyes, under eyes, under nose, under mouth, collar bones, chest, side of chest, wrists!)
For some reason, I am able to tap out issues in just a couple of rounds (top of head down to wrists), but it wasn’t always that way. When I first started out & was dealing with some really big problems, I would do many many rounds on one problem, or even on one aspect of a problem. Sometimes I would go around tapping for ten rounds to clear something out. The general rule, however, is just to keep tapping until you feel the problem shift or move. I often find that if I’m tapping on something, I know it’s gone when I can’t remember what I was tapping on, or I start to laugh, or I feel no emotional attachment to the problem anymore. You will feel some kind of change if you’re doing it properly. If it doesn’t feel like it’s budging, try approaching it from a different angle or saying something else — even if it’s just “Even though EFT isn’t working & I feel like a moron doing this”. Say what you feel.
It can be tempting to tap on three things at once (“I’m fat, I’m ugly, I’m demotivated”), but it’s hard to get any traction if you’re thinking about too many things at once. If you feel like you have a laundry list of problems, write them down on paper so you’re not trying to keep track of them in your head, & then tap through them one by one, crossing them off as you go. Remember that detail is everything, so the more you say or feel, the better results you will get.
Try not to be afraid to go to dark places — allow your mind to go wherever it needs to. Often the problems we have on the surface (not concentrating in school) are related to deeper things from our past (parents always told you you’d be a failure). Tapping is like unpeeling an onion — sometimes it takes a while to get right down to the core of a problem, but it’s worth it!
“Basically I have a tremendous phobia of the dentist and I’ve got a problem with one of my teeth that I’ve been putting off for months now. It’s gotten to the point where I’m living off of painkillers just to dull the pain. Which obviously sucks. I won’t bore you with the details but I had some pretty horrible experiences with a dentist when I was little (I’m fairly sure it would amount to malpractice). I’ve changed dentist now but the fear remains. Do you think I would benefit from EFT? Can EFT work on phobias? And how would you recommend I go about it?”
Yes, EFT is fantastic for getting rid of phobias! Here are some articles on the main EFT site about dentist phobia: 1, 2, 3 & 4. A lot of those people have had the same kind of issue as you & they’ve explained how they’ve used tapping to remove their fears & memory of the trauma.
I think the best thing to do is sit down somewhere quiet, grab a sheet of paper & start making a list of reasons about why you’re afraid of going to the dentist. If that doesn’t work, you might like to try remembering what happened the time(s) that scared you off — as you play that “movie” in your head, you don’t need to speak, just tap around the points. But basically, think of all the individual pieces that add up to this fear. Past experience, pain, immobilisation, whatever — just tap out each thing.
It is absolutely possible to have no fear of going to the dentist & to have a complete turnaround in terms of how you see the situation (“he’s a horrible man who wants to hurt me” versus “he’s an educated dude who is helping me take care of my health”). I would also strongly suggest tapping on forgiving yourself for what happened all those years ago — you were a kid & it was not your fault. Lots of love to you.
“I’ve been having allergy problems for forever, but since I’ve gone to college they have been 5x worse and now have crossed the line into asthma. That, and all the stress of school and not eating properly has got me feeling down lately, which doesn’t help. But I am still at a loss for where to start — so I was wondering, if you didn’t mind telling me, what sort of things you tapped on to help with your asthma? I’m hoping to start tapping on that and work my way to other issues I’ve been having.”
My asthma had been a problem for me since I was about 7. I used to use a preventative inhaler every day & my actual inhaler probably every day or second day. I don’t know when exactly or why it started, but my father always had asthma too so maybe I just expected that I would suffer from it too. I actually inherited the unholy trinity of asthma, eczema & hayfever from him, none of which I have problems with now. Okay, all of that aside, here’s how I dealt with my asthma!
Asthma was actually the first thing I tapped on. My boyfriend was using EFT for emotional things & making great progress & I thought it was total bunk, so I decided that I would try it on something that would give me a definite, measurable result. Asthma was an obvious choice since it was such a huge part of my life.
I did some tapping on forgiving myself for having asthma, & forgiving my father for passing it on to me. Then I broke the issue down into segments. I would get asthma from all sorts of things — exercising, going from a hot to cold environment or vice versa, walking up hills, cold weather & cats. (That’s all I can think of now but I’m sure there were other triggers too.) I wrote all the reasons for getting asthma down on a piece of paper & then tapped through them individually. “Even though I get asthma from exercising, I deeply & completely love & forgive myself…”
I drank so much water & passed out. The next morning, I walked up the hill in the cold (three of those individual reasons in one experience!) to catch my bus, like I did every morning, & which also gave me asthma every morning. Surprise! No asthma. Brilliant. My asthma was gone.
However, a couple of years later, when I went back to my home town for the first time in ages, I got asthma again as soon as I stepped off the plane, & it plagued me the whole time I was there. I came home to Melbourne & it still wouldn’t go. I couldn’t figure out what the hell it was, & after lots of tapping I realised that it was actually fear about the future. I was afraid that I would have to go home & live in my home town, & afraid that I wasn’t ready to live in New York. As soon as I tapped that out, poof! It was gone again. Weird, man!
Oh, & re: eczema & hayfever… When I started using tapping & reduced my anxiety about life, my eczema disappeared, never to be seen again. At the same time, whenever I got hayfever I would just tap on having allergies, being allergic to pollen, & the physical symptoms (itchy eyes, runny nose etc.). I did this a few times & since then, it has never come back.
Remember to…
Drink lots of water
Go into as much detail as you can remember
Say what you feel or think
Allow yourself as much extra sleep as you need
Read other people’s testimonials on Emofree if you’re stuck
Keep tapping
Use it on everything! (Depression, binge eating, insomnia, social anxiety, panic attacks, anger etc.)
& now for some EFT success stories, in their own words! These are all emails from nonpareils that I have received recently! If you don’t think EFT works, these testimonials might change your mind…
“Although just about any of your articles can cheer me up or put a spring in my step, the ones on EFT have, I’d say, genuinely made my life take a turn for the better. I mentioned this in a comment on your latest EFT piece, about trying it for my depression, but wanted to just say “thank you!” properly and also let you know about my experiences with EFT since then. Basically, I feel as if some huge blockage or burden has fallen away from me. It’s incredible. The night I tried tapping on my depression, I was suicidal. I was willing to try absolutely anything that promised to help me feel better. After I tapped, I left that comment on your article, and then I started to feel incredibly shaky, cold and nauseous. I took that as a sign that the tapping had obviously done something. It was quite extraordinary. Two weeks later, I feel as if EFT has made a subtle but huge difference to my attitude.”
“I actually heard of the EFT exercises from a friend before, but I’ve never really tried it. Last night I did it for a series of problems that’s been nagging at me for a few weeks and it’s been an incredible relief – my mind stops wandering over to it now and replaying it in my mind. I have a question though – does EFT make you very tired? I slept for a good 11 hours after doing it for the first time, and today I still took a lunchtime nap. Not that it’s a bad thing; I usually have insomnia, but this incredible amount of unbroken sleep seems too good to be true!”
“i’ve read about your experiences with eft & i’ve always been very skeptical. my mother is a doctor so i tend to trust only things that can be scientifically proven & have evidence to back it up. so i’ve always skimmed over it & moved on. tonight i figured what the heck things are so awful right now that it can’t hurt. so i tapped on the karate chop point while crying & thinking about what was upsetting me. maybe it worked, maybe it was just the repetition & repeating things in my head but i felt calmer, something that i never feel when i think about things that upset me. i tend to avoid thinking about them at all because i find that it just makes me more upset & makes it harder for me to get back to “normal”. since i felt calmer & was no longer crying i decided to read more about it so i went to icing, watched the videos, read the whole article throughly, & chanted & tapped along with you video. i tapped about a couple of things including my depression & insomnia. then stopped so i could refill my water cup. i live in a dorm so i have to walk down the hall to get to the bathroom to get some water. by the time i got back to my dorm i felt tired & sleepy & ready for bed which might not be a big deal for some people but i have really bad insomnia. i usually take a prescription sleep medication to fall asleep & without it i can lay in bed for hours & typically won’t fall asleep until 4 in the morning. needless to say i’m pretty impressed. though i must admit i’m still quite skeptical & am trying to rationalize my calmness & sleepiness. maybe i just tired myself by crying for so long. maybe it’s just a placebo effect. or maybe it really did work. i’m actually quite interested in eft now & am so impressed that i had to shoot you an email before i went to bed. maybe you’ve introduced me to something that might actually work [unlike the millions of antidepressants that i’ve tried over to years]. thank you so so so much. if there’s anything else i should know or you think is important about eft that isn’t mentioned in icing or in the eft manual let me. good night & thank you for helping me get my first sleeping pill free night of 2008.”
“After that I did EFT at home every day. I didn’t believe it would work, just like most people don’t. So I tapped on “even though this feels really stupid and it will never help me feel any better because I’m so heartbroken…”. After a couple of weeks I noticed I was not tapping on the same feelings anymore. My heart was healing, my soul was healing, and I felt great. ... I see the light and beauty in so many things now. I feel like I am now beginning to really understand life; I am understanding my Self & the connections between all people & all experiences – how everything has meaning, if you choose to let go and allow the Universe to reveal it to you. I feel very neutral most of the time, but when something nice happens or I see something fun or amazing, the joy in my heart is overwhelming! I haven’t had an anxious thought in over a week. I haven’t felt hopelessly lonely or depressed like I was, in about 2 weeks. I have stopped biting my nails. When I do feel yucky, I just do a few rounds of EFT and trust that it will help. This is a real accomplishment for me, because I’ve had anxiety since I was like 9 years old!”
“after reading about EFT on your blog, and watching your video and the videos you linked to from your site, i decided to give it a try. i was pretty unsure, and even believed it probably wasn’t going to work, but i told myself to remain open-minded. i tried the tapping techniques while sitting in the bathtub. i’d run through the tapping exercises 10-20 times each sitting. i did this for only 2-3 days in a row. at which point, i gave up because i wasn’t noticing any improvement. i figured i was wasting my time. as i said, there wasn’t an immediate improvement, so i stopped after day 3. this was about 4 months ago. something weird has occured though, i haven’t itched in a few months! even when showering in the morning— something that would normally set my legs itching— i’ve been fine. i haven’t called in late to work or canceled activities for a long time. i’m not saying that its completely gone… there were a few days when i noticed the beginning sensations of it and anticipated that my legs were going to burst into itching flames, but.. you know what?! ... they didn’t. everything was fine. its like the early symptoms started, but then almost immediately subsided. i can’t explain it, but i’m starting to believe that EFT worked!”
“i suffer from depression and anxiety problems and, per your suggestions, have started using EFT with great results. a steady combination of your words and tapping away my problems has uplifted my soul so far beyond anything therapists or medication has ever done for me.”
“I wanted to thank you so much for introducing me to EFT. I read your article thoroughly for the first time today and did my first real session (previously I had only absentmindedly tapped my karate-chop point when I was anxious, which worked well, but was nothing like this, when I did the whole deal) Once I got going with it, I started to rant and it opened up to things I wasn’t even conscious that I was dealing with. Using EFT, when I eventually started saying things like “even though I’m not good enough and noone else will ever want me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” I started to shake and cry, because deep down, I’d beat myself up all the time and call myself vain and shallow for considering myself confident, but then basing my good opinion of myself on my talents and looks. Using EFT as a starting point, I’m learning to base my self-worth on something more substancial, which will make me happier person, genuinely confident, rather than just propped up by all sorts of unsubstancial “stuff”. Your website has really touched my life. During a blah sort of day, I’ll go to galadarling.com and be mentally rejuvinated by simply hearing a positive voice in my head, reminding me to lick life’s icing when I’m at my bluest!. Your EFT advice, however, really takes the cake of all the ways you’ve improved my life without even knowing it! Thank you, thank you Gala!”
I am so happy for all of you & I hope you’ll continue using EFT! It changed my life & I know it can change yours.
Super-love & cupcakes,
Gala
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Gala, Gala, Gala, I have mad love for you because you introduced me to EFT. :)
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but I really have problems with sticking to EFT, though. It’s the drinking water aspect of it, for some strange reason…I don’t want to go and get it, I don’t want to chug it and feel stuffed with liquid, I don’t know. I’m so strange. This is something I need to tap on, hehe. :P
I tried to dedicate myself to writing a EFT journal a few months ago, and it was interesting. But after I stopped (after a week, how pitiful…I made SO much progress though, why am I not dedicated to this!?!) I kind of told myself, “Well, I probably uncovered these hidden feelings because of the fact that I took the time to focus on them instead of pushing them aside.” What’s your opinion, Gala? Do you think that has something to do with the effectiveness of EFT, or is it something else in your opinion?
BTW, reading you story about tapping away your asthma helped me think of things that may be affecting me physically. Thank you for being so wonderful! And sorry for the novel! :D
Valerie — Well, you only need to take a look at Livejournal to see people concentrating on their problems. It doesn’t mean they’re making any progress! Yes, EFT (when used properly) does encourage you to look more deeply at yourself than you might do otherwise, but you know, navel-gazing doesn’t achieve much unless you have a tool to deal with all the, uh, belly-button lint! (Bad continuation of metaphor.) But I definitely think EFT helps you drill down, it really lets you uncover more that it was previously blocked by emotion & craziness. Re: the water thing, you won't be stuffed with water, tapping dehydrates us! You're just replenishing your system :> Oh & you’re probably not continuing with EFT because of some self-sabotage thing, fear of change, not wanting to be different. You can tap it out ;D
I’ve tried EFT once or twice, but my problems never subsided. Now I know to keep trying and definitely go into more depth & detail, which I didn’t do previously. I’ll probably be trying it out tonight or tomorrow. I should probably do it before bed too, since I’ve heard it can make you sleepy?
Elizabeth — Yup, if you do it right, it’s exhausting! I’d suggest doing it kind of after dinner & then going straight to bed. You will probably need the extra hours :>
I’ve always remained silent on your EFT posts, because while I’ve flirted with the practice, it really isn’t my thing. But as always, I really admire you for being encouraging and reminding people that their greatest needs and desires are always achievable – and for being the eternal “happiness crusader”! :)
thanks again for posting on this subject. I use EFT and think it is a wonderful technique. I just wish you could have been there to see the look on my Dr’s face when I was explaining to her about doing EFT to overcome anxiety! it was a scream :-) I am sure she thinks I am a complete nut job, but I don’t care, it works for me, it doesn’t hurt it isn’t addictive how can there be any harm, hey? go girl.
As I have told you before, I discovered that EFT is like an onion that peels the problem to it’s very core. AT first I thought it wasn’t working, until I realized that it had allowed me to discover what my problem truly was aknowledging that I could work on that and it was easier to start healing. Even though I should use EFT more often, I’m sure now it helps, and everytime I feel al broken up I use it.
When I found your website, Gala, I was in desperate need…you changed my life you know? And EFT did too.
Infinite x’s & o’s!
thank you so much for the updates, it’s nice to hear some of your readers give testimonial!
can you give us another update on your raw eating? i’ve been really excited about starting to add more raw foods to my diet…although i messed up this evening by toasting my ezekiel bread. when it popped up i realized and said “oh! it’s dead.” to no one in particular…
also i learned today that 1 out of every 4 australians (and maybe NZ also?) has had or has skin cancer. VERY SCARY. maybe do an article on the benefits of sunscreen and the myriad of products you can use? (moisturizer, complexion products, mineral, etc.)
Shauna — Of course! I have just started working with a raw GENIUS so I will have lots of info for you soon hopefully! x
Oh sweet EFT!! You help me get through everyday when I feel down and depressed or even when I feel like I’m having a fat day n_n.
I love EFT, you know that it has changed me as a person so much. Now, whenever I feel anxious about something, I start tapping my karate chop point. My friends look at me weirdly and they ask if it works. Of course it works!!
I find it extremely effective whenever I’m overly stressed and I can focus on every little detail of my problem. I feel relieved instantly, well except that ONE time that I forgot to drink water before AND after doing EFT. I made myself sick so bad.
EFT works if you believe in it.
Kisses.
I’ve found that any sort of meditation produces the same effect as EFT — an overall calm, and relief from the scattered and intense thoughts that anxiety, fear, or any other negative emotion can produce. True, the tapping of certain “points” also adds to the process, but is there a reason that EFT is so different from any other kind of meditation or breathing exercise?
Meg — I find that the difference between meditation & EFT is that meditation brings calm, but EFT removes problems/fears/worries permanently. They’re quite different in that way, though of course they’re mutually beneficial :>
Thanks so much for this, sweetie! (And a happy Waitangi Day to you, as well.)
Kisses!
Gala – vipassana meditation reportedly has potential for self-transformation. some friends of mine do it, and i’m sort of looking into it just now –
http://www.dhamma.org/en/vipassana.shtml
(just for reference :D )
Thank you so much for answering my question and just for writing this article Gala. ((major hugs)) I was thinking of things to tap and I thought about how my allergy and now asthma problems have been kicking my butt since I’ve moved to college.I thought maybe my problems have gotten worse because of something related to my feelings about college. I’ve added it to my list of things to tap now.
I have an appointment with an allergist and a pulminary doctor next week, so hopefully seeing them and me starting EFT will start helping me get better. Keep writing awesome articles Gala. Much love,
Mandy
Natalie — My boyfriend went on a 10 day silent vipassana retreat last year! He said it was pretty interesting but he also said that while there is potential for self-transformation/enlightenment, they don’t say how long it will take. He said, “More to the point, they say they can’t tell you how many lifetimes it will take”. Yow!
Mandy — Yay! Happy to help cutie. & of course, anything the allergist or pulminary doctor tell you will just give you more stuff to tap on :>
I’m going to try EFT again. I became lax about maintaining EFT after I changed careers and moved. I became distracted and didn’t keep it up.
I do have some questions; how long or how many “rounds” should one perform? Three, four? Until the “bad” feeling goes away?
And how does one decide on what to tap about? For example, I want to lose weight but I know my weight gain is due to stress and trying to hold on to the past.
Do I tap regarding weight loss or stress or not being able to move forward in life or all three?
Thanks for all your advice and help, Gala!
‘tine — Tap until you feel the emotions shift. You might find yourself yawning or really thirsty or just feeling like it doesn’t matter anymore, but there will be some kind of perceivable change. & if you know the reasons for your weight gain, tap out the individual issues (stress, holding on to the past) & then the weight gain itself. You want to delve further into why you’re holding on to the past, too — like maybe if you let go of that, you don’t know who you are, & stuff like that. Good luck cutie!!
:)
thanks gala.
i’ve been doing really well since we last spoke via email. i think the combination of the eft, taking 100mg of 5htp a day, & incorporating more raw foods has made a huge difference in my attitude & general mood. even my boy has noticed how much happier i am.
Oops I was searching through your older EFT posts and I commented on one of them instead of here! Here’s my comment hehe:
I am very intrigued by EFT. I’ve been studying it since your first mention of it and recently tried a small session on Monday. Through my research though I have found some varying information. One guide says that after we do the sequence of tapping and saying the phrase we have to do this 9 Gamut Procedure where we close our eyes, hum, and count, and then do the sequence again. I wonder if that Gamut part is even necessary? The guidebook says it is, but from what I’ve seen on your site and other forms of info, they don’t include that. Do you think it would just be a distraction to the method/process or have you heard of it and is it actually valuable? Thanks lovey!
Mae Jane — The gamut procedure is useful when you’re shifting really big/difficult stuff, sometimes it seems to be the final thing that makes it go. But I have only used it a couple of times. It does have its uses but I’m not totally sold on it, I guess it sounds too weird to me for me to take it seriously! Maybe I am being closed-minded :> But in my experience, I don’t really need to use it.
I was cynical about EFT when I read about it, but found myself giving it a go anyway. So far I haven’t really used it to shift any major problems, but it’s amazing for clearing my mind of worries and general racing thoughts when I need to sleep! (I’m terrible for thinking too much late at night). I also find tapping the sides of my hands when I’m frustrated with a customer at work amazing for calming my anger so I can deal politely with the next person!
So yes, here’s another thank you from a new fan of EFT thanks to your blog!
Thank you for the extra tips! I know there are some things I need to tap on, so this article will be very useful tonight.
I’m really inspired to do EFT, especially now. I was diagnosed with Epilepsy this past October and while the medication is helping take care of the bigger ones, I still have smaller ones coming up, not to mention my depression has been kicking up alot lately. So I’m going to try my best on trying EFT for myself. I just have to remember the water.
I feel stupid (not because of the EFT) just because i don’t feel i’m doing it right haha.
I’m just going to keep trying, and read all your EFT posts again until i finally believe im getting it right.
Thanks for this, i love the fact that you’re always giving ways to make life easier and more bearable.
Gala,
I honestly can’t remember how I stumbled across your web page months ago, but I was drawn in by your creativity in your style and loved tuning in to your daily outfits. But I also found your positive support towards every day life refreshing and empowering. I’ve heard you mention EFT a few times and I had never really delved into looking into what it really was until this entry. I followed the links to your previous entries and came across your story of beating anorexia….amazing. I’ve been going through my own journey of healing from many painful conditions that I was convinced I was destined to carry around for all eternity until the day I decided to take action and change my emotional outlook. I too thought I would be a boring person if I were to let go of my anger and intensity…like I would just blend right into the crowd. But it wasn’t worth being in physical pain every second of the day.
It can be hard to keep up the positive momentum and this is why I am so glad you speak about EFT. It’s so important for people to realize that they have control over their emotional/physical health and they can heal themselves! Because EFT seems to be something that can be done anywhere in a short period of time, those moments of panic in our lives can be calmed.
I am a Holistic Health Counselor and promote the idea of learning the tools to help yourself and to help people attain a life they love through nutritional and emotional support. I plan on trying EFT fully for the first time tomorrow morning to try and unblock my fear of being successful to allow my new business to grow.
Thank you for sharing your journey and allowing others to share theirs!
Hey Gala, sorry it took me so long to comment! I had to sleep as soon as your article was put up, but I DID read it so it was on my mind for all of today. I tried a session a few hours ago, much more detailed and long than I usually do…and although I have no feelings of jubilation or anything, I do feel much calmer. One thing I noticed is that my efficiency is very high after using EFT, which helps a bit because then I feel as if I can do whatever it takes to fix my problem! I still remember all of my issues though, but I think that’s just because I did four or five rounds. And I am SO not creative when it comes to things to tap about.
Thanks for the great article, Gala! You have completely restored my faith in EFT and I can’t wait to try it again. :]
Hi Gala!
Thank u a lot lot lot for sharing and presenting EFT to your readers. I am new here and a new blogger too, but since somedays ago, when i started reading your page, ive been practising EFT to try to heal my headaches and since then, they have been gone (at least i hope heaueh) also im feeling much much better. I have no words to thank u enough.
Congrats for such a peeeeerfect website.
huggies and cheers
lala
Firstly I want to tell you how awesome your site is! I’m so glad that my google search led me to you. I also want to say that your info on EFT was really helpful, because it’s explained to easily. I looked into EFT a few years ago, but there was this HUGE booklet that I was told to read, and just didn’t feel inspired to do so.
I do have one question for you, that I hope you can answer, but if not, no worries :-)
I have a hard time with the affirmations, because its like I’m reinforcing something negative. Here’s an example… I want to work on easily waking up early in the morning. The EFT process would have me say “Even though I hate getting up early in the morning…” but this sort of makes me feel like I’m reinforcing my distaste for waking up. Can I say “I deeply and completely love and accept myself, and easily wake up early in the morning” or is that just not going to work? I just feel like stating a negative phrase goes against everything I have ever learned about affirmations.
Thanks in advance!
xoxo
Candace
Candace — Well, basically when you’re saying those negative phrases, as you tap you remove the belief or attachment to what you’re saying. What I would suggest is doing one round (top of head to wrists) of the negative phrasing, & then as many rounds of positive phrasing as you like. You can really do it either way, & I think it’s pretty good to switch it up & drum in some ultra-positive stuff!
Hope this helps! xxx
Heya Gala!
Just wanted to say that I’ve been reading your site now for a month or so (working my way back through the archives) and find it one of the most pleasant, happy places I have been to.
You’ve managed to turn me around from moody, negative, obsessive, lacking in self-confidence to a happy, thankful, confident, and loving person through both your words and experiences.
So I would like to say thank you for being yourself and helping me become my real self :)
OH and I tried EFT this morning on two issues that have been plaguing me for YEARS (making me obsess and hate myself). After tapping out the first issues I started crying and laughing! This has taken a HUGE weight off my shoulders.
Thanks again,
Wednesday