Pow-Wows & The Law Of Attraction
[ 19 June 2007 ]
I once heard a story about Native American women. The story goes that within the tribes, every week, the women would meet to have a pow-wow. They would all sit around & talk, & if anyone had a problem, they were welcome to seek advice from the other women who were there. Now, this doesn’t sound too odd, in fact it sounds like your average lunch with a friend. However, there was one crucial difference to the way they operated.
One of the rules of the pow-wow was that if you were still struggling with the same problem after three weeks, you either had to deal with it or stop talking about it. Obviously, after three weeks, you have garnered as much advice or information as you could possibly need to deal with your issue, & if you hadn’t done anything to help resolve the problem, then you were on your own. There wasn’t any point in talking about it anymore, so it was no longer on the agenda.
This makes a lot of sense to me. If you’re still complaining about something after three weeks, aren’t you just whining for the sake of it? Don’t you know that you receive what you think about the most? If you don’t like your boyfriend/job/house/body, do something about it!
Get off your booty & make your life worth living. Why should you suffer every day? You SHOULDN’T. Guilt & self-loathing is totally gauche & uncool — move on! Your life is waiting… & I’m talking about your REAL life, the one where your relationships are great & your house is gorgeous, where you enjoy your work & every day you look in the mirror & smile at yourself.
If you haven’t heard about the law of attraction or the movie The Secret, then get with the program baby! This stuff is so mainstream now that it’s been featured on Oprah. You can live however you want, right now! Start manifesting your dream life. That’s your homework for the week. Okay, go!
Super-love & cupcakes,
Gala 
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you know i was talking about this very same issue with a friend of mine just yesterday! i agree completely – i think we’re all responsible for our own happiness to a degree and that we owe it to ourselves to change something if it’s making us unhappy! we can get us much advice as we want from our friends, but ultimately it’s up to us to act on it. it’s hard, sure, but in the end it’s more than worth it :)
wow, i feel very dr. phil right now. i don’t know if that’s a good or a bad thing! lol!
Fuckin love it!
It is so obvious and powerful in your posts and sharing of thoughts, ideas and your true style that you manifest beauty and positive power, that is why we love you so. iCiNG is like a hit of distant healing everyday. Please know that we are sending all our loving vibes in return.
I had a friend call me callous last night and I have been called selfish in the past by friends or family not ready to accept that wallowing in self-pity and drama is unproductive and energy consuming. I say the mind can only hold onto one thought at a time – make it a rockin good one! That is not to say that life is always one big prozac picnic, but having an awareness of how thoughts materialize sure does help for a blissful climb out of the spew bucket on particularly icky days.
If ya build it they will come…and they do!
The problem with “the secret” is that we’re meant to believe that if we just envision what it is we want, and really believe that we’re going to get it, and that we deserve it, that it will just happen. The truth is, I’m sure that can help by putting you in the right mindset, but you’re actually going to have to put some effort into getting what you want. The universe isn’t just going to give it to you. Your life isn’t about to magically manifest itself the way you want it. The entire fact that you included the words “get off your booty” differentiate what you’re talking about from “the secret”.
There’s a good article about the law of attraction, and plenty of excellent related reading at The Skeptic’s Dictionary: http://skepdic.com/lawofattraction.html
ha ha wouldn’t it be glorious if we could just sit back and dream it all up!!
Dreaming it, believing it is just the tip of the creamy icecream…building it, sweating it, creating it, working it, pumping it, grinding it, shimmying it and screaming it from the rooftops is the real deal – it takes a whole lotta booty moving, but that is the best part huh? Living it!!
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Candice — If you think “the universe isn’t just going to give it to you”, then… it won’t! That’s your belief & you’re entitled to it but I don’t agree with you. Mostly because I have seen this stuff work (repeatedly) for me, my boyfriend, my family & some of my close friends.
The reason I mentioned getting off your butt is because when you make a decision, there is always some kind of action to take.
If you think you need to do something to ‘deserve’ good things, then that’s exactly how your life will be. Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy :>
I’m not very good at articulating my thoughts on the subject of the law of attraction, but it works for me every day & that’s good enough for me!
I haven’t seen that movie, but I bought the book a couple of months ago and at first I didn’t expect much of it, but as I read on I decided I wanted to start having the life I wanted.. So I started dreaming and making things happen.. After all that I really thing we’re all responsible of what happens to us and the amount of happiness in our lives. I still like to take advice from my friends though, mainly out of custom, but I still make my future happen.
Whoa, not really sure if anyone’s going to understand what I just wrote..
I totally believe in the law of Attraction. I started thinking differently and took another view on life, and everything changed for the better almost instantly. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows but it still shows a lot of improvement.
i agree with candice in that ‘get off your booty’ is a basic contradiction regarding the law of attraction. the law promotes itself as simple positive thinking and manifesting mentally, not being physically proactive.
although it may mentally prepare you for taking steps to success, this is not exactly outlined in its principles. anybody who reads about it may assume that mentally ‘attracting’ success and not actively doing anything about it will naturally cause success for them, because that’s how it’s marketed. i think you’re just lucky to be of a practical persuasion and realise that it takes more than that.
it gives me the heebie-jeebies. i’m a positive thinker, but i don’t like it when something as simple as being optimistic is promoted as borderline religious dogma.
(sorry for the rant… :S)
anna — I don’t know where you got that impression from! Most of the well-known guys who speak about this stuff (James Ray etc.) all talk about taking action… there is a further school of thought that believes you shouldn’t have to do ANYTHING at ALL to get what you want but I’m not quite a believer of that… though my boyfriend is & it seems to work for him!
Hmmm . . .
I am fully in support of stopping whingeing after three weeks! Also, positive thinking and visualising your goals are sterling ideas. For me, it’s also really important to be grateful for the goodness I do have, and to seek contentment. I can’t really take the law of attraction all that seriously, though. Sometimes you wish and wish for something and never get it because it really is beyond your control. Ask any mum with 3 or 4 sons how many daughters she would have liked . . And sometimes the unexpected happens – I’m thinking of illness and injuries that I’ve experienced. Bad things that never ever cross your mind until whammo! There they are in your face and all over your life. Still gotta keep seeking the joy at all times!
Will stop rambling now. ;-)
The only thing I would dispute is that your life is NOT waiting for you. Your life is happening, going by in fact, whether you are “living” it or enjoying it or not. Sometimes change is too “large” to embrace, so it’s a good practice to break it down into smaller bits and figure out what action needs to be taken to change this one thing. Keep doing that, and over time, the situation will be changed. Indeed, if we believe in ourselves and our value, we can achieve so much.
aww. you’re right i need to get off my bum. its worked for me in the past, but i just get lazy and grumpy and caught up in negative thinking again when things get difficult. i guess its a hard habit to break. especially cos lots of people around me are pretty negative. but anyway! getting off my bum starting tomorrow! ♥
Great idea about three weeks.
The law of Attraction is focusing upon something that in my opinion does not exist; the manifestation of a greater being/power. Concentrating the mind upon a specific achievement over a long period of time with positive connotations is in no doubt going to force the mind to reach out for this. Whether it be a new partner or job subconsciously you will feel a positive reaction to this as the mind’s eye has focused so closely and in-depth upon creating this result that you will be drawn towards anything that brings the goal closer, inviting body language for example. It may be my cynicism that allows me to wholly discredit the universe as being in control of this process rather than your own narcissistic desire but as no experimentation has been carried out it is difficult to say one way or another. Not that I have any self-deprecating doubts.
However, the pursuit of a goal through regular positive thinking will surely have a favourable effect. Firstly, re-evaluation may allow you to re-think the angle to which you are looking to pursue your goal which allows for greater planning therefore increasing your chances of success. Not only are you constantly evaluating your own capabilities you are also evaluating the world around you. Being aware of this change is beneficial to your own adaptation as is a key component of life.
Ya- know :) very few post’s could Illicit an emotional response from me but God I love it . That’s right get out of the victom loop and get on with living life!
When you come to the realization that you are creating it all, you just stop complaining and you get on with . Nice post keep up the great work!