27 June 2007, 15:19
This is a follow-up to my article from yesterday, Eating Disorders. To receive the full benefit of this piece, please read & watch the videos in order!
What is EFT?
Gary Craig (founder) talking about how EFT works:
So, here’s my personal experience with EFT. My boyfriend discovered it online & started using it. I thought he was mental, but was like, oh, whatever, it’s his prerogative, he can do what he likes. He kept raving about it, though, & trying to get me to use it. At the time, I was convinced that I was going to be a negative, cynical person with mental health issues for the rest of my life. I was resigned to my fate. I didn’t like it, but I thought it made me unique, so whatever.
He kept going on about how great it was, so I buckled under the pressure! I decided to use it on something concrete, physical — something I couldn’t be fooled into thinking had worked if it hadn’t. I chose my asthma as a starting point. I had had asthma since I was about ten years old, & while it provided me with excellent excuses for getting out of physical education at school, it really bothered me. Every morning, I would walk up a hill to catch the bus to work, & every morning, like clockwork, my breathing would get shallow & I’d have to stop & use my inhaler. So I did a few ‘rounds’ of EFT, tapping on meridian points with a couple of fingers while stating the problem.
The next morning, I didn’t get asthma walking up the hill. Or the next morning. Or the next. Okay, I know you’re going to think I am yanking your chain, but I’m not. It truly, absolutely worked. I was AMAZED. I couldn’t believe it. I kept waiting for it to reverse, or stop working, but it didn’t. My asthma was just… gone. I decided to start using it on other things, like the fact that I had hayfever all the time, & that I was INSANELY allergic to cats. After doing this, I happened to go to a party where there was a cat. I was fine around him, but ducked into the bathroom to do a little bit more tapping to make sure I didn’t get allergic. & I didn’t. It worked like magic.
You know where this is going, huh? The next thing I decided to use it on was my eating disorder. It took a lot of convincing. My boyfriend got on my case about it. I didn’t really want to let go of it. For a long time, it had been my identity, it was who I was. I didn’t remember who I was without it. Isn’t that sad? I thought that without it, I would be boring, normal, happy — almost a dirty word to me at the time. So, my boyfriend convinced me to tap on the fact that I thought anorexia was my identity. I did a few rounds, saying, “Even though I believe anorexia is my identity, I deeply & completely love & forgive myself. Even though I think I will be boring without an eating disorder & I don’t know who I’ll be, I deeply & completely love & accept myself.” Afterwards, I took a deep breath, then exhaled. I looked at my boyfriend. “Eating disorders are ridiculous,” I said. “I want to get rid of it.”
I made a list of all the parts of my body I didn’t like. Face, arms, stomach, legs, feet, etc. I went into the bathroom, closed the door, looked at myself in the mirror & tapped through it. Every body part. “Even though I hate my legs & think they’re fat & disgusting, I deeply & completely love & accept myself. Even though I think my legs are the most revolting thing I’ve ever seen, I deeply & completely love & forgive myself.” & so on, for all of them. Then I decided to tap on the anorexia itself, looking at myself in the mirror as I did it. (I know this might seem unnecessarily epic or dramatic, but at the time it seemed like the right way to do it, & I would recommend it if you want to try it.) “Even though I have been denying myself food for years, because I don’t think I’m worth it & I think I’m too fat to deserve food, I deeply & completely love & accept myself…” I did a whole lot of rounds on this, maybe 10, because I REALLY wanted to make sure it was gone. I cried as I tapped, watching myself, feeling these emotions wash over my body. Afterwards, I took another deep breath & walked back into the living room.
“Well, I did it. Let’s see how it goes,” I told my boyfriend. He asked me how it was, & I started to tell him, & then all of a sudden, I felt really sick. I ran for the bathroom, & threw up multiple times. Maybe five or six times. It was so strange, I am convinced it was my body’s way of saying, “I want this eating disorder shit out of me NOW”.
Again, you probably think I am yanking your chain, but I’m not. It happened exactly like that. Since then, I haven’t had a problem with food. If ever I’m feeling bad about my body, I tap on it & the feeling goes away, & I feel great. Here’s an even stranger thing: since I tapped it all away, my body has changed. My body actually looks better now than it did when I was sick. More toned. I think carrying around all that resentment & hatred actually manifested itself physically in my body.
Okay, now watch this. (Hahahaha, worst still EVER!)
Other things about using EFT:
Be as specific as you possibly can. Don’t just tap on “even though I’m unhappy”, tap on “even though my boyfriend puts me down” or “even though my clothes don’t fit”, etc.
Be persistent! Keep going! Tap on anything negative you can think of. It’s quite a strange process, I often find that after I’ve released something, I forget what it was to begin with. It’s like it just drops right out of your body… so sometimes it feels like you haven’t made a lot of progress. You will make huge progress, though, so stick at it!
Drink water before & after you tap. Just like having a massage, tapping releases toxins into your body, & you need to flush them out.
It can be really tiring, so if you’re feeling exhausted, have a sleep as soon as you can.
If you’re feeling anxious about ANYTHING, just tap the karate chop point until you feel it subside. I do this all the time, & you can even do it walking around the city, especially if you have headphones on ;>
When you’re tapping on an issue, keep going around & around until you feel like the emotions have subsided.
You can seriously use it for anything. Hating yourself, insomnia, inability to concentrate, etc.
If you’re currently in counselling or doing other healing, try using EFT in conjunction with it, I am sure you will have amazing results.
Everyone I know who has seriously applied EFT to their problems has made HUGE progress, even the really cynical people.
EFT has completely changed my life, no exaggeration. I can’t force you to do anything you don’t want to do. I’ve learned by now that if people don’t want help, you can’t do anything to make them better. If, however, you actually want to get better, do some experimenting with this & see how you go. & of course, if you have any questions, give me a yell!
Addendum: After writing this, I spoke to my friend Rod, who lives across the road from me & is an EFT practitioner. He’s been using EFT & helping other people for 8 years now… trust me when I say, the man is good!
I asked him whether he’d be interested in doing a little deal for readers of iCiNG, & he said yes! He’s offering a free half-hour telephone session to anyone who gets in touch with him via iCiNG! You can call him on Skype & it won’t cost you a penny!
If you’re interested in getting started with EFT but are a bit nervous, or if you’ve been using it for a while & feel stuck on an issue, having a trained professional to talk & tap it through with is really wonderful. I’ve done some work with him in the past & he’s a total pro.
I hope you take him up on it, he’s FANTASTIC & has a cute Australian accent to boot!