When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemon Meringue Pie

Sometimes when life gives you lemons, you have to throw on your apron and make lemon meringue pie. That’s how it was on the last day that my (now ex-) husband and I lived together.

We both woke up early that morning, and while I showered, his friend arrived, and the two of them started moving all of his things downstairs into a truck. I stood in the bathroom trying to perfect my eyeliner as all his worldly possessions paraded down the hallway and out the door. I shimmied into a blue dress covered in sequins and smothered Dolly, our dog, in smooches. I hugged my husband goodbye, asked him to text me once they were on the road, and walked out the door.

There was no time to wallow. It was Spirit Junkie Masterclass, one of my best friend’s events, and I was there to speak in front of 250 women. SJMC is the most immersive, deeply transformative event ever. I had attended the year before — on my birthday — and spent the weekend in a transcendent state. This time was different. For much of the day, I sat in the audience, tears in my eyes, making small-talk with the other attendees, even coaching a girl who was going through a difficult break-up. No one else there knew I was getting a divorce, let alone that my marriage was over, with the exception of Gabby.

When it was time for me to speak, Gabby gave me a beautiful introduction that felt like a spiritual bath. As we sat together in the spotlights, she interviewed me about how I run my business. I talked about blogging, self-publishing and book deals, creating digital courses, and using your social media presence to create an experience for others. We took questions from the audience too, and I felt so good: Gabby was holding me up, and it was pure pleasure to be able to help others, especially at a time when I was feeling so lost.

At the end of the day, Gabby, her husband Zack, and I shared an Uber back to our neighbourhood. I climbed the stairs to our my apartment, opened the front door, and leaned back against it as it closed. There was no clicking of little dog feet, no TV playing in another room. The whole place felt completely empty, like a vacuum had just sucked up something huge.

I grabbed my laptop and sat on my bed, ready to lose myself in some kind of internet haze, when my phone rang. It was Gabby.

“Hey,” she said. “Are you hungry? Come over and eat pizza with us.”

I spent the rest of the night with her and Zack, eating, watching movies, and shooting the shit.

Gabby had been onstage all day, caring for and supporting 250 women. She was running an event, managing a team of people, keeping everyone happy, and generally being everywhere at once (in the way that only she can). By all accounts, she’d earned a night off. And yet, she thought of me. She took me home and then fed me. She didn’t leave me alone in my empty house. She pushed her own need — to relax, to be quiet, to sleep! — aside, and instead, she took care of me. Every time I think back on that night, I get emotional. It was one of the most selfless and generous acts I’ve ever experienced.

I have never met anyone who walks their talk as fully as Gabby. The internet is a strange place, where people can present themselves as experts on all kinds of things, and invent whatever persona suits their business model best. When I first discovered Gabby online, I had my doubts that someone like her could actually exist. But she does. She is the real deal.

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For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been emailing about the fear of speaking up and standing out, the importance of raising your prices, and the fear of being an overly self-promoting jerk.

These are all issues that I hear about from almost-preneurs all the time. I have met so many women with brilliant ideas, who want to make a difference and run their own businesses, but they’re held back. Afraid of telling their stories, terrified to charge their worth, and scared to even talk about what they do, they are simply treading water. If you’re unable to do those three things, you don’t have a business. You have a hobby. And probably not for long.

Gabby is one of my mentors and it’s not just because she runs her business with heart and zest. She knows that when you charge your worth, you thrive — and your success helps others succeed too. She knows that when you take that deep breath and tell your story, you empower multitudes to do the same. And she knows that when you’re passionate about what you do, it’s not “self-promotion”: you’re simply sharing, and the right people will be irresistibly drawn to you.

Spirit Junkie Masterclass is where she teaches all these concepts, and so many more. If you want to run a spiritual business — but you don’t want to eat beans from a can every night! — these concepts are essential. When you shed the old stories and you begin to recognise the enormous power you wield, sharing your message — and stepping into the world fully — becomes a necessity, a responsibility.

On the day that my husband moved out of our home, I heeded the call to be bigger, braver, and bolder than ever before. I answered when I was asked to lead, to help, to inspire. And it made me stronger. I wouldn’t have believed it was possible to do something like this on such a difficult day — but it was. That’s the kind of confidence that Spirit Junkie Masterclass gives you, and with a gift like that, we all benefit.

I’ve attended two Masterclasses, and they just keep getting better. I have never seen Gabby as on, as in her power as when she is on stage, creating teachers. Everyone sitting in the audience is lit up, supported, and given the tools they need to go out there and truly make a difference. After all, isn’t that what you really want?

Up until now, Spirit Junkie Masterclass has only been an in-person event… But this week, Gabby opens the floodgates to Spirit Junkie Masterclass Digital, so you can learn everything from the comfort of your home. I’m delighted to help her spread the word. The modules include my section on how to use the internet to build your business, and I know it will help you out SO MUCH!

I can’t tell you how much I believe in Gabby and the work she does. Spirit Junkie Masterclass is always the first thing I recommend to women who want to light a fire that sets the world ablaze. And I want to make it even more enjoyable for you, so when you sign up, I’m going to shower you with gifts!

In addition to Gabby’s incredible training, you’ll receive:
Access to Radical Self Love Bootcamp, my six-week intensive course which will teach you how to love yourself once and for all (Value: $197)
Radical Self Love Bible School, my art journalling class which will encourage you to see your own awesomeness, in addition to using up all that rad stationery you have lying around! (Value: $97)
A personalised, signed copy of my book, Radical Self-Love: A Guide To Loving Yourself And Living Your Dreams!
A very colourful livestream with me, where you can ask me absolutely anything about business, blogging, or being your authentic self online!

Plus, Gabby is offering an extra special bonus when you sign up for the training before June 26, 2016: her Spirit Junkie Business Basics digital program! In addition to two live training calls, you’ll get everything you need to set up the back end of your business: contracts, negotiating tools, insurance information and much more. These bonuses are valued at $3500. Sweet!

Click here to get all these bonuses today!

It’s already the middle of June. If you’re still to-ing and fro-ing about whether it’s time to start that business you’ve been dreaming about, or if you find yourself in “a financial cul-de-sac” (thanks, Carrie Bradshaw), it’s time to get serious. Gabby and I would love to help you do it.

If you have questions, be sure to reach out on Twitter or Facebook!

Love forEVER,

Illustration by Laura Callaghan. I am an affiliate for Spirit Junkie Masterclass, and may earn a referral fee if you sign up from my recommendation. xo